Confessions

[al audi]

one more confession, brain is in overdrive

if youre a grown man.....................and you don't have kids or maybe you don't want kids........marriage is pointless.

take Leo DiCaprio, not married or kids.......rich af I'm sure he can smash 10s all day, but you know what..........his agenda is making a change on the earth, environmentalist, a real purpose.

LIFE WITH NO PURPOSE IS A WASTE, ok now I'm done, thank you for letting me express myself. pce

 

[robtoofresco]

whatever

That edit though

 

[slighted]

@gamble always has some good insight, curious if he was replying to Audi above.

@Al Audi -- I completely understand your thought process, but remember that there is no such thing as true equality in America. As a whole, I'd agree that the pursuit of being rich can be rather empty, but I personally want to get to the level where I don't have to worry about money at every instance. I grew up in poverty, I don't want to go back to it.

 

[brockbo]

I don't appreciate money anymore.........I never struggled with money per say but now that I legit have money and zero debt. Sneakers for example mean not much anymore an ill have money even more when parents pass obviously. I got all I want material wise, I'll get a dope car later obviously.........buying a Rolex means nothing. I don't ever want to work a 9-5 that **** isn't for me at all. My favorite show is Shark Tank an I love entrepreneurs. Being an entrepreneur seems like a real accomplishment to me. No wonder rich kids got issues an no I'm not a millionaire but it takes money to make money that's for damn sure seems a lot more realistic now. Actually very realistic I know ppl already who can get me there. Another thing do people realize how many ppl are corrupt and immoral? You wonder why ppl wanna sell drugs? Ppl complain about student loans I know ppl with penthouses and cars. That's no trolling either. I've always been a good guy and I've done some hard *** blue collar work in my years for sure but facts are facts. Even ppl in the suburbs I got stories.....


Also now I think about our country more and the presidential election........this country is easier if you have money but as long as you're good and comfortable, why do ppl strive to be rich? Seriously? Why? This country worries me low key, the state of current affairs among black and white.....not all blacks and all whites but there is ignorant on both sides.


End of my pathetic rant, call me a cry baby could care less. Signing off.

I'd actually be interested to hear more honestly


Everybody has problems B EVERYBODY

 

[robtoofresco]

Breh, this dude that's with my BM is soo pressed to try to get to me. His insecurities are astronomical & quite pathetic.

I already let y'all know what happened & how I handled it... Well, ol' boy didn't get the hint.

I picked my son up to sleep over & he was in PJ's & since I had his backpack from the previous day, I assumed she didn't send any clothes for him (I also didn't look in the back seat). So I asked for her to drop some off on her way to work tomorrow & this was the reply I got:

Now before I thought she didn't know this chump text me but now it seems like she does since it came from her phone... Although, you can never be too certain with someone as insecure & controlling as dude seems.

I felt I had to respond to set that line so this dude knows not to cross it again.

Now when she picks him up tomorrow, I feel I have to let her know what's good but in all honesty, the main reason I do not communicate verbally w/her is because I can still feel/hear the emotions in my voice when I do. I don't like that. I want to display ultimate indifference to her.

I plan on telling her something to the extent of, " I'm assuming you know this already but in case you don't, your bf has tried to contact me twice already regarding our son. I will not have this continue. The only person I will speak to regarding our son is you. The only time he will hear from me is if it is brought to my attention that he is disrespecting my son & even then, there will be no communication on my end... You feel me?"

Again, typing it out is much easier than actually saying it to her w/o displaying negative emotions because I can feel them right now trying to burst through but I am trying with all my might to not identify with them.

Thoughts?

 

[celticspride34]

I don't appreciate money anymore.........I never struggled with money per say but now that I legit have money and zero debt. Sneakers for example mean not much anymore an ill have money even more when parents pass obviously. I got all I want material wise, I'll get a dope car later obviously.........buying a Rolex means nothing. I don't ever want to work a 9-5 that **** isn't for me at all. My favorite show is Shark Tank an I love entrepreneurs. Being an entrepreneur seems like a real accomplishment to me. No wonder rich kids got issues an no I'm not a millionaire but it takes money to make money that's for damn sure seems a lot more realistic now. Actually very realistic I know ppl already who can get me there. Another thing do people realize how many ppl are corrupt and immoral? You wonder why ppl wanna sell drugs? Ppl complain about student loans I know ppl with penthouses and cars. That's no trolling either. I've always been a good guy and I've done some hard *** blue collar work in my years for sure but facts are facts. Even ppl in the suburbs I got stories.....


Also now I think about our country more and the presidential election........this country is easier if you have money but as long as you're good and comfortable, why do ppl strive to be rich? Seriously? Why? This country worries me low key, the state of current affairs among black and white.....not all blacks and all whites but there is ignorant on both sides.


End of my pathetic rant, call me a cry baby could care less. Signing off.

I feel you %100... Humanity is screwed in the long term... No questions about it...

 

[celticspride34]

Breh, this dude that's with my BM is soo pressed to try to get to me. His insecurities are astronomical & quite pathetic.

I already let y'all know what happened & how I handled it... Well, ol' boy didn't get the hint.

I picked my son up to sleep over & he was in PJ's & since I had his backpack from the previous day, I assumed she didn't send any clothes for him (I also didn't look in the back seat). So I asked for her to drop some off on her way to work tomorrow & this was the reply I got:

Now before I thought she didn't know this chump text me but now it seems like she does since it came from her phone... Although, you can never be too certain with someone as insecure & controlling as dude seems.

I felt I had to respond to set that line so this dude knows not to cross it again.

Now when she picks him up tomorrow, I feel I have to let her know what's good but in all honesty, the main reason I do not communicate verbally w/her is because I can still feel/hear the emotions in my voice when I do. I don't like that. I want to display ultimate indifference to her.

I plan on telling her something to the extent of, " I'm assuming you know this already but in case you don't, your bf has tried to contact me twice already regarding our son. I will not have this continue. The only person I will speak to regarding our son is you. The only time he will hear from me is if it is brought to my attention that he is disrespecting my son & even then, there will be no communication on my end... You feel me?"

Again, typing it out is much easier than actually saying it to her w/o displaying negative emotions because I can feel them right now trying to burst through but I am trying with all my might to not identify with them.

Thoughts?

I feel as though you have the moral right to beat the **** out of him, but not the legal... So you're handling as best as possible...

 

[danikerhino]

Breh, this dude that's with my BM is soo pressed to try to get to me. His insecurities are astronomical & quite pathetic.

I already let y'all know what happened & how I handled it... Well, ol' boy didn't get the hint.

I picked my son up to sleep over & he was in PJ's & since I had his backpack from the previous day, I assumed she didn't send any clothes for him (I also didn't look in the back seat). So I asked for her to drop some off on her way to work tomorrow & this was the reply I got:

Now before I thought she didn't know this chump text me but now it seems like she does since it came from her phone... Although, you can never be too certain with someone as insecure & controlling as dude seems.

I felt I had to respond to set that line so this dude knows not to cross it again.

Now when she picks him up tomorrow, I feel I have to let her know what's good but in all honesty, the main reason I do not communicate verbally w/her is because I can still feel/hear the emotions in my voice when I do. I don't like that. I want to display ultimate indifference to her.

I plan on telling her something to the extent of, " I'm assuming you know this already but in case you don't, your bf has tried to contact me twice already regarding our son. I will not have this continue. The only person I will speak to regarding our son is you. The only time he will hear from me is if it is brought to my attention that he is disrespecting my son & even then, there will be no communication on my end... You feel me?"

Again, typing it out is much easier than actually saying it to her w/o displaying negative emotions because I can feel them right now trying to burst through but I am trying with all my might to not identify with them.

Thoughts?

You're right, verbally and methodically dismantle her if she tries to justify and if he gets in, ignore him to make him feel insignificant.

 

[heliumclinton]

BM is trifling Rob, continue to handle it with indifference bro she don't deserve those other emotions from you

 

[slighted]

@RobTooFresco -- it seems we have a case of Cap'n Caping with this sucker.

You need to tell her direct. Be cold and emotionless, so she has no leverage/emotion to play off. She'll try to rile you up by screaming, threatening your manhood, crying, etc. Treat her like a child who's acting out of line.

Since you'll probably see this sucker dude too, ignore him. You'll need to do this with no emotion. Don't even look at or acknowledge him. Given his penchant for getting involved in stuff that doesn't concern him, I'm gonna safely assume that he'll try to get in your face to defend her. Again, don't give him any of your attention or time.

All communication you'll have is with your BM. The fact that she's allowing this to happen speaks volumes about her, NOT YOU.

 

[cl-1b]

I hate to tell you this fam... but the BM's will use that baby as a poker chip every day for the remainder of the 18 years... esp. if they know that something in particular effects you emotionally. I'd recommend you get a lawyer and get your custody/time sharing situation in order because you can't tell/force her to do anything... but you can put something called a first right of refusal in a parenting plan to avoid situations where your kid might be left around someone else besides you or the child's mother. Your just going to cause yourself more problems and stress going back and fourth because its not going to stop fam. Get on it and get some paperwork regarding timesharing.. its the best thing for your child. 

 

[antbanks81]

Reading what y'all gotta say and I feel that you're lucky. You're not married with kids stuck in it all. I want out of this **** so bad. My only concern is who will be around my kids. I'm willing to give up the house and car and pay the bills just so I can keep regular contact with the kids.

Don't get married young men. There's nothing more in it for us. We only stand to lose.

Mine has a problem with me trading pics (IG/ porn/ etc) with associates. Problem is she wouldn't know if she didn't go through my phone. I have a lock on it, so I don't know how the hell she got in. She also doesn't like me going to the strip clubs. I've drastically reduced my visits. I used to go like twice a month. I've been three times in the past year.

These are one sided common sense arguments. I bring up valid points and she gets defensive and attempts to turn it on me. She demands full disclosure but doesn't give the same. I fr can't stand this chick anymore. I feel like counseling would be a waste of time.

 

[andretti]

 

I hate to tell you this fam... but the BM's will use that baby as a poker chip every day for the remainder of the 18 years... esp. if they know that something in particular effects you emotionally. I'd recommend you get a lawyer and get your custody/time sharing situation in order because you can't tell/force her to do anything... but you can put something called a first right of refusal in a parenting plan to avoid situations where your kid might be left around someone else besides you or the child's mother. Your just going to cause yourself more problems and stress going back and fourth because its not going to stop fam. Get on it and get some paperwork regarding timesharing.. its the best thing for your child. 

If it were me I'd be laughing at the sucka

But then again I'd just keep it coolDocument everything that happens also

 

[andretti]

Guy is a sucka tho ain't no debuting that I'd laugh everttime I see em

 

[slighted]

Reading what y'all gotta say and I feel that you're lucky. You're not married with kids stuck in it all. I want out of this **** so bad. My only concern is who will be around my kids. I'm willing to give up the house and car and pay the bills just so I can keep regular contact with the kids.

Don't get married young men. There's nothing more in it for us. We only stand to lose.

Mine has a problem with me trading pics (IG/ porn/ etc) with associates. Problem is she wouldn't know if she didn't go through my phone. I have a lock on it, so I don't know how the hell she got in. She also doesn't like me going to the strip clubs. I've drastically reduced my visits. I used to go like twice a month. I've been three times in the past year.

These are one sided common sense arguments. I bring up valid points and she gets defensive and attempts to turn it on me. She demands full disclosure but doesn't give the same. I fr can't stand this chick anymore. I feel like counseling would be a waste of time.

Marriage counseling = just kicking the can down the road to prolong the inevitable

Don't waste money or time on it. The husband will always be the designated bad guy.

 

[cl-1b]

Guy is a sucka tho ain't no debuting that I'd laugh everttime I see em

lol for real... you cant't let them know that they make you feel some type 

 

[onthenephs]

Lol you really complaining ur wifey doesn't want trading porn pics and going to strip clubs?

Not to judge anyone this a confessions thread, but more so to speak to you.
Wat??

 

[antbanks81]

Dude it's not regular routine. I don't trade pics all day everyday. I don't go to the strip clubs at all like I used to. I'm not cheating out here. Let's be real about it, **** gets different after so long with the same person.

 

[robtoofresco]

Update guise...

So she ended up responding to that last text I sent last night (the last one in my last post) & this is what has ensued:

I handled this correctly, right?

Lowkey happy she responded via text because I had no desire to speak to her when she picked him up & being able to do it this way has taken the monkey off my back.

I know it's something I should have reiterated in person but we have a LONG history & like I said, as much as I am training myself to become a stoic, idk if I'm to the point yet that I could be emotionless with her if we engage in conversation.

I really do appreciate y'all btw. I NEVER open up to any one about my problems IRL & I lowkey look down upon anyone who does as if they are weak but idk, I love this site. NT has helped me sooo much since last July.

We ever meet up, drinks on me papis

 

[$tacy]

Sergio is very threatened by u fam. He feel like he gotta poke his chest out and u handling it perfect. He wants that certain reaction that u not giving him.

 

[slighted]

@RobTooFresco -- This sucker dude is begging for your attention, basically pushing at you to give him your attention or time.

Don't send any texts to your BM about him going forward. He's a degenerate who's not worth your time. The more she sees you mentioning him, the more she'll realize he strikes a nerve with you (true or not, she'll think so).

Ignore dude. Be civil with your BM whenever possible. Take care of your boy. Everyone else who interferes with your goals can take the L.

 

[cl-1b]

@RobTooFresco
-- This sucker dude is begging for your attention, basically pushing at you to give him your attention or time.

Don't send any texts to your BM about him going forward. He's a degenerate who's not worth your time. The more she sees you mentioning him, the more she'll realize he strikes a nerve with you (true or not, she'll think so).

Ignore dude. Be civil with your BM whenever possible. Take care of your boy. Everyone else who interferes with your goals can take the L.

This is truth.. Don't even text her about what you think she should do in her personal life with other men. You guys aren't together anymore and it shouldn't concern you.. You sound like you still have feelings for her by saying that

 

[robtoofresco]

 

@RobTooFresco
-- This sucker dude is begging for your attention, basically pushing at you to give him your attention or time.

Don't send any texts to your BM about him going forward. He's a degenerate who's not worth your time. The more she sees you mentioning him, the more she'll realize he strikes a nerve with you (true or not, she'll think so).

Ignore dude. Be civil with your BM whenever possible. Take care of your boy. Everyone else who interferes with your goals can take the L.

This is truth.. Don't even text her about what you think she should do in her personal life with other men. You guys aren't together anymore and it shouldn't concern you.. You sound like you still have feelings for her by saying that

I said my peace regarding him & I will not bring him up again to her. 

While I no longer have romantic feelings towards her, we do have a child together & as I have mentioned before, my son is on the autism spectrum. Therefore, he can not properly express himself as a child his age normally should. I feel I had to bring to her attention what sort of guy this dude is. I had to do this for his sake(my boy) & mine because if he ever does anything to my son, I can not promise I will be able to hold back & I will show no mercy... I will try to avoid this with every ounce of will in my body because I am determined to become an RN & I already have enough of a hurdle to overcome with my record. I can not risk catching a case for some insignificant dude. If I came across as if I still cared for her, so be it. I know the truth & that's all that matters. 

 

[dopeness]

 
I said my peace regarding him & I will not bring him up again to her. 

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[onthenephs]

Wish u the best homie.

But u should definitely not tell her who to see or not to see. At no point in your life will you feel like "this man is good enough to be around her and my son" it's sort of like a father and daughter.

And try not to use ur son as a way to interfere in her life also.

Let her do her thing. Forget the dude. Be with your son and prosper on your path.