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I literally Don't Understand Dead Beat Dads
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NT funny 
I'm almost 30 and still don't want kids
I'm almost 30 and still don't want kids
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NT funny
I'm almost 30 and still don't want kids
Thankfully us dudes don't have biological clocks like women
I'm 30 and 3 years would be the absolute earliest I have kids (currently dating someone and not engaged yet)
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Not true. As men get older; fertility/testosterone declines, sperm count lower, and all that causes more genetic abnormalities like autism disorders or down syndrome.
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Nothing you named has anything to do with a biological clock. None of those factors are going to make a dude wake up and decide he needs children asap.
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I used to not want kids becuase I'm selfish af. But my selfishness reached new levels.
I figured when I die, I wanted as mmuch of me to still be here.
Still growing, advancing, and having some affect on the world. For everything I wanted
to remain while I'm gone, my legacy, I concluded it was either have my own school or have kids. So I went
with the kids. ( its easier and funner)
(Didnt think it all the way through cus, I have to pour myself into them. Everything I am.
But I have grown to accept that. And having them has changed me a lot, for the better)
I figured when I die, I wanted as mmuch of me to still be here.
Still growing, advancing, and having some affect on the world. For everything I wanted
to remain while I'm gone, my legacy, I concluded it was either have my own school or have kids. So I went
with the kids. ( its easier and funner)
(Didnt think it all the way through cus, I have to pour myself into them. Everything I am.
But I have grown to accept that. And having them has changed me a lot, for the better)
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Never wanted kids til I had one, best mistake I ever made.
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As a father, i wholeheartedly disagree. DCAA is 100% on the money. Kids ARE an inconvenience. Any responsible parent will tell you that. But for many, the squeeze is worth the juice.
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So let me ask y'all a question right..
This is a scenario I recently heard of from someone but I want your opinion: Say you have sex with a married woman and she gets pregnant. Between you two there was no real relationship; just sex. She decides to keep it, but tells her husband that it's his. Would you(the dude outside the marriage) be in the wrong for letting another man raise the child and bouncing saying it has nothing to do with you?
This is a scenario I recently heard of from someone but I want your opinion: Say you have sex with a married woman and she gets pregnant. Between you two there was no real relationship; just sex. She decides to keep it, but tells her husband that it's his. Would you(the dude outside the marriage) be in the wrong for letting another man raise the child and bouncing saying it has nothing to do with you?
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If she's determined to tell her husband it's his and doesn't want me around then yeah he can raise it. Hopefully he'll do a good job.
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I was watching the Maury show this morning and thought about this thread. A lot of these dudes on the DNA eps are all the way in that murky potential to be a deadbeat limbo
They ALWAYS front and say the right thing about owning up to their responsibilities. It's almost like a trained line the ppl in the back tell them to say To the point the young 16 yr olds that end up saying got the line memorized.
Same type of dudes that'll end up on the show a few years from now or on Jerry Springer getting aired out about how they don't do anything for their fam.
Dumbest ones though that say they feel like the kid is theirs after finding out their treacherous ***** of a wife/gf was cheated on them and they aint the father. I seen this one young dude today straight up say he still gonna be the father when before the test was yelling the whole time the kid aint his
The contradictions and hypocrisy :x The outright stupidity.
I wouldn't let the next dude raise my child.
However, given this scenario and to answer the question, yes I'd be all the way in the wrong to let the next man raise my child and just bouncing like it's nothing.
It'd be a different matter if ol girl didn't tell me she was preggo with my kid.
They ALWAYS front and say the right thing about owning up to their responsibilities. It's almost like a trained line the ppl in the back tell them to say
To the point the young 16 yr olds that end up saying got the line memorized.Same type of dudes that'll end up on the show a few years from now or on Jerry Springer getting aired out about how they don't do anything for their fam.
Dumbest ones though that say they feel like the kid is theirs after finding out their treacherous ***** of a wife/gf was cheated on them and they aint the father. I seen this one young dude today straight up say he still gonna be the father when before the test was yelling the whole time the kid aint his
The contradictions and hypocrisy :x The outright stupidity.This would be hilarious cuz in my scenario she's a white girl
I wouldn't let the next dude raise my child.
However, given this scenario and to answer the question, yes I'd be all the way in the wrong to let the next man raise my child and just bouncing like it's nothing.
It'd be a different matter if ol girl didn't tell me she was preggo with my kid.
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your already in the wrong, so does it matter if your wallowing in your wronggedness?
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im reading some of the earlier posts
dudes need to catch that fade in temecula already.
dudes need to catch that fade in temecula already.
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I feel you. I agree, I don't think I could let another dude raise my seed unless I'm serving a life sentence.
What?
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She was a middle aged white woman in my scenarioQuote:This would be hilarious cuz in my scenario she's a white girl
I wouldn't let the next dude raise my child.
However, given this scenario and to answer the question, yes I'd be all the way in the wrong to let the next man raise my child and just bouncing like it's nothing.
It'd be a different matter if ol girl didn't tell me she was preggo with my kid.
Unless she been down with the swirl and her husband is black, aint no way she'd pull one over on her mans and have him raising my kid.
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Yet there are so many white "fathers" out there with mixed babies thinking they're biologically their own
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I appreciate the incite my brother. I'll definitely think about what you said.
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is right on the money and I totally agree with him. Dudes gotta' wake up and face reality
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Maybe I'm seeing things in a loving dad perspective, I apologize on my behalf for calling your post stupid, I guess it just depends on how you view things.
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It's not really how you view things so to speak.
It's just a common sense approach. I'd say almost everybody at some point growing up didn't have to worry about taking care of someone else. If you can recall that feeling, you can have an understanding of why a person who is still immature would want to continue living that way even when they have responsibilities. You don't have to like it or agree but I mean you can sort of look at it as a sort of child's view on things if that helps.
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That's a bit condescending. You don't have to be immature to not want the responsibilities that come with having children.
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It's the exact opposite for me. I grew up having to take care of someone else and I still do take care of her.
It was mostly by choice but I did and do take a large share of the responsibility for her and that's why I don't really see kids in my future.
I used to tell chicks in HS when they asked me about wanting future kids that I already had one
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Right. It is very mature of someone to KNOW they don't feel like being bothered with kids and not getting someone pregnant and putting themselves in that unwanted situation.
I don't want kids. Well right now I don't. I want to enjoy my life without having to worry about anyone else.
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aint nothing wrong with that. thats a responsible mature adult decision.
that being said, sometimes you just dont know unless youre put in the situation. my wife and i both wanted kids, but i had no idea how great it was to be a father until i actually was one. sure its a lot of work, but to me its worth it. i think there are a lot of people who had unplanned pregnancies that ended up being blessings in disguise. not saying that its the most responsible thing to do, but sometimes it ends up working out.
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Man that isn't a, "Just don't know until" type of thing. It isn't like a piece of clothing. I don't know how I will look so let me experiment. Until you KNOW you know, I say the world is a better place if people don't bust in other folks.
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You can be a loving father and be real with yourself man. The definition of CHILD is inconvenience. Calling them that doesn't mean you can't love them as well. But that is what they are man. You know it. I know it. Your wife knows it. It is what it is man. No need to sugar coat it.
