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Originally Posted by KatieJade4
Ok, so you're not a bad looking kid. Just go to the party wanting to have a good time and don't go just to collect numbers or to hook up with girls. If a girl wants to hook up with you, she'll let you know in one way or another.
There is nothing worse than being THAT DUDE that all the girls feel awkward being around and whisper about at school on Monday morning.
I partially agree with katie, and kind of know what the op is going through. But Katie you're sending him into the ring to box with out teaching him how not to telegraph a punch or read an opponent.
My best advice is to become the guy at school who hops from crowd to crowd during lunch getting to know everybody at school but don't try too hard cause it will become awkward.
The easiest way to do this is meet one person out of each group during class because it's easier to converse about the curriculum which will lead to you befriending them and deeper convos, then at lunch go say what's up to them and 9/10 they'll introduce you to their friends.
It'll help you in three ways 1. less awkward situations at parties 2. you know some females so you can recognize changes in their demeanor 3. you will be invited to more parties. And op remember that the more awkward situations you put your self in the less awkward they become over time.
And if a girl doesn't bite on your bait don't trip, just become friends with her and let her get to know you a bit she'll either warm up to you or find you a friend that fits you.
cliff notes:
- meet new people that you normally wouldn't chill with
- Do so by meeting them during class
- Then chill with them at lunch and meet their friends
- Put yourself in socially awkward situations to become less affected by them
- If you meet at a girl and sense she isn't feeling you the same way don't give up cause you can always pull her or her friends later
- And when at a party eye contact is a battle of dominance you look away you lose but maintain a sly smile like she's already yours
- Always have something light hearted and corny to say, females love to laugh and use that as a convo opener and sinker(never walk away with the last word)