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This is less about being "a man" than it is learning to be accountable and responsible.
I could care less how you dress or how many pics you have on instagram. Anyone who DOES care really makes me suspicious.
How can you seriously be concerned about how other men live their lives? Do you gain something out of forcing others to fall into line?
Everyone seems to apparently value the freedom to do what you want, but on the flip-side, but then these "guys" then want everyone to live up to the same standards of what a "man" is.
If you teach people that its more important to be honest with yourself and confident in asserting yourself then you'll address most of these concerns in the first place.
No one i've ever met who apparently fulfilled these qualities ever thought of themselves better than anyone else, they simply lived their lives without regard for how others would feel about it.
Do you all want more lumberjacks or are you so insecure that having OTHER dudes post pics of themselves makes you feel less of who you are as a person?
Retitle this thread from "how to deal with women" to "how one person thinks men should act"
There is very little in this thread pertaining to understanding women than it is trying to get men to change their behavior.
Im concerned not so much about how a man dresses, but the image he portrays as a man. Would you as a hetetosexual man be more attracted
to a woman who dresses in lumberjack clothing, shaved head or a woman in a slim fitting dress?
The issue is that men are dressing too close to the gender line when it comes to whats femenin. And also doing "femenin" things like having multiple online images of themselves more so then most women. OP's post can easily be accomplished by most men, ONLY IF the man makes his woman feel secure. And you CANNOT make a woman feel secure when you have more images of yourself than she does or even close to as many images as she does. Woman are naturally supposed to shine more than men. Thats why they dress more elaborately then men. The attention must almost always be on her, and thats what makes her feel secure.
Women are very susceptible to the views and opinions of what the media and the majority deems as "in" or popular. And if the most popular image of a man is skinny jeans and eye liner, weak and frail, she will more than likely approve. But deep down her natural wanting is a man opposite of her. And when thats not met she feels she must take that roll. This is also seen in the animal kingdom. When there is no supreior male in a lions pride the female will often take the lead to protect the pride. This is also seen is single mother families. The woman will often take the roll of the male and female. But that often leads to issues with the family later in life. But few strong women are able to play both rolls accordingly.
I see OPs post speaking more of balance. Nature is self balanced. Gender rolls are natural. And it works. But it starts to fall apart when men start actin like little biyaches