So... Did my girl cheat on me?

[sofreakinwavy]

Originally Posted by mytmouse76

It's not a big deal that they messed around before you it's the fact that she tried to minimize it by saying it was an accident. Maybe she was just saying hi maybe not but you should def be concerned. Why were you on her facebook tho?

I wasn't on her facebook, when I walked into her dorm her facebook page was open and it had this dudes name in the chat browser, and I clicked on it.

 

[crazy dav0]

Originally Posted by Regal Black

he hit 1 out of 3 holes

... take the L , move on

 

[airuphere23]

Originally Posted by cRazy dav0

Originally Posted by Regal Black

he hit 1 out of 3 holes

... take the L , move on

That's kinda harsh..but I wouldn't doubt it..but then again, she probably allowed it.

 

[lanzer23]

move on.
not worth your time.
there are better chicks out there.

 

[pltcsasusual]

ehh usually id say drop her but i understand how it is sometimes.. when you have been in as many situations as i have yo have to think about 2 things is she important to you.. and whats her history.. those should determine it.. but she is disrespectful i might add... but most females nowadays are if you are.. so if your a good dude doing what u gotta do then drop her i say.. but if you slipping up as much as her.. rock out with it

 

[general johnson]

I say stay in the relationship, find out she's cheating, face embarrassment/anger, ponder how many times you kissed her after she just domed him up and learn the hard way.

 

[veryanalytical85]

Sorry to hear OP, hopefully you get it resolved.

Kudos to retro, that stuff takes a lot of heart and willpower to be the 'bigger person' in a destructive situation such as that.

On a random note, why when reading this thread a Google Ad of Haiti earthquake relief victims had to be the banner :smh.

 

[ralphsody]

Man I feel you.
My chick has a "friend" who supposedly was a potential but when they met he was too
short, so they stayed friends. Everytime he comes to her area he hits her up asking to chill.
Last time it was like at one in the morning, she couldn't see him tho
I'm like +%@.
One in the morning? I'm a guy myself I'm not stupid.
we having problems now and it hasn't been the same since.

 

[stackjaxx]

If you have think about it, she getting it from some dude.
cut these triflin broads off.

 

[that wave]

but what if she really isnt doing anything...

 

[angonas]

Originally Posted by Essential1

when in doubt... means she put out

 

[retro707]

its crazy how females twist it and make it our fault.  Like, you get caught up with talking to a dude..yet you turn the issue around on me for finding out and being TOO jealous?. funny how it works huh?.

in the end, karma man..thats all iam gonna say.  I wont be dating for a while. this female messed me up big time..she did everything as wrong as it could be.. its crazy


-UNDFT-

 

[retro707]

its crazy how females twist it and make it our fault.  Like, you get caught up with talking to a dude..yet you turn the issue around on me for finding out and being TOO jealous?. funny how it works huh?.

in the end, karma man..thats all iam gonna say.  I wont be dating for a while. this female messed me up big time..she did everything as wrong as it could be.. its crazy


-UNDFT-

 

[chokeonsmoke]

^^^AMEN
$@@@@%# be doing that %@%+
tell her if she ever crosses you again
you gon murk her !@%
but foreal though if she was your down chick
there wouldnt be this situation

 

[da matrix 1]

Originally Posted by Retro707

on the real. I JUST got out of my most serious relationship.  And it ended the worse way possible.  As much as I was an adult and took the situation very seriously...it all went bad due to her actions.  Heres a BRIEF  of why i started doubting:

RED flags.. sometimes we are blind to them because we "love" the person.  Take things to consideration, little things lead to other little things and when you put them all together its one huge problem.  If your girl has guy friends she has all the right to, but when she lies about "talking" or "hanging out" with that person...there's something more then friendship.  when your girl tells you she doesnt want u as her friend on myspace because she feels u control and watch everything you do..that she needs her "own" thing eventhough shes the one that brought up myspace and adding me (she wanted to, then when i said ok, she gave me that BS).  She added me for 1hr, looked thru all my stuff, then took me off....  Being off on weekends and playing ghostie sometimes...checking her BILL, and seeing same number texted on a regular, and called on a regular not past 6pm because thats when i get off work.... lying about texts at 245am saying its a facebook notification, i check. it was dude texting her.  .  a lot of these things seem very obvious and you have to be blind to not see the real meaning of them..but when you feel shes the one..you dont want to believe the truth. 

You think your issue is bad?. Bro, She left on Tuesday night to her moms...came back wed morning to get some of her stuff before going to work..( i had neatly, placed all her belongings in the living room and i was going to take them straight to her moms..so i didnt have to deal with the BS and her being here). so I get woken up.. she storms in the house, shoves me...cussin, saying this , saying that... walks up to me, shoves me..and i get a left jab to the face...at that moment..i felt like what just happened...i was the bigger person.......called the cops...she RAN out..PEELED out of parking lot...she gets pulled over within 5min. 

she was driving with a suspended license...she was going to get it back February 12th 2010, yeah, literally in over a week....she gets charged to domestic violence (yeah, i know..you can laugh..i got hit).  she got arrested on the spot...
car got impounded a mandatory 30 days...@ 150$+ a day.. her bail had to easily be 5-10k..she got out same day on bail...her license got revoked another 3-5 yrs.. and i see her in court soon. 

As mature as you may be..and as much as you think you know this person..people will surprise you..  I loved this girl, had a place with her..knew her family.. we shared a life together. and i would of never imagined the girl i loved and thought was it to end up being a psycho..i found out she was fooling with a dude from Santa Rosa..and prob had been for months...  Be wise with how you handle things, be respectful regardless of the situation and Bro, theres plenty of females out there that will treasure your commitment to them and never do you wrong.  Your situation is obvious , instead of lagging on ending this so it doesnt get any worse, just do it man.. you'll feel bad for a week..two weeks..yet you'll get over it and eventually look back and be glad you left her..

sorry for writing a book. but i wanted to share this so you can see that it could be worse..

take care of it.


-UNDFT-

I WISH I COULDA PUT MY EX THROUGH THIS SHE IS REALLY LUCKY

 

[b smooth 202]

Follow your instinct

 

[luis og13s]

i would drop her, cut her off

shes disrespectful

 

[sc415]

Pass her on.

 

[me4u2night]

How does one run up an $800 phone bill????

 

[chokeonsmoke]

DA MATRIX 1 wrote:

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Originally Posted by Retro707

on the real. I JUST got out of my most serious relationship.  And it ended the worse way possible.  As much as I was an adult and took the situation very seriously...it all went bad due to her actions.  Heres a BRIEF  of why i started doubting:

RED flags.. sometimes we are blind to them because we "love" the person.  Take things to consideration, little things lead to other little things and when you put them all together its one huge problem.  If your girl has guy friends she has all the right to, but when she lies about "talking" or "hanging out" with that person...there's something more then friendship.  when your girl tells you she doesnt want u as her friend on myspace because she feels u control and watch everything you do..that she needs her "own" thing eventhough shes the one that brought up myspace and adding me (she wanted to, then when i said ok, she gave me that BS).  She added me for 1hr, looked thru all my stuff, then took me off....  Being off on weekends and playing ghostie sometimes...checking her BILL, and seeing same number texted on a regular, and called on a regular not past 6pm because thats when i get off work.... lying about texts at 245am saying its a facebook notification, i check. it was dude texting her.  .  a lot of these things seem very obvious and you have to be blind to not see the real meaning of them..but when you feel shes the one..you dont want to believe the truth. 

You think your issue is bad?. Bro, She left on Tuesday night to her moms...came back wed morning to get some of her stuff before going to work..( i had neatly, placed all her belongings in the living room and i was going to take them straight to her moms..so i didnt have to deal with the BS and her being here). so I get woken up.. she storms in the house, shoves me...cussin, saying this , saying that... walks up to me, shoves me..and i get a left jab to the face...at that moment..i felt like what just happened...i was the bigger person.......called the cops...she RAN out..PEELED out of parking lot...she gets pulled over within 5min. 

she was driving with a suspended license...she was going to get it back February 12th 2010, yeah, literally in over a week....she gets charged to domestic violence (yeah, i know..you can laugh..i got hit).  she got arrested on the spot...
car got impounded a mandatory 30 days...@ 150$+ a day.. her bail had to easily be 5-10k..she got out same day on bail...her license got revoked another 3-5 yrs.. and i see her in court soon. 

As mature as you may be..and as much as you think you know this person..people will surprise you..  I loved this girl, had a place with her..knew her family.. we shared a life together. and i would of never imagined the girl i loved and thought was it to end up being a psycho..i found out she was fooling with a dude from Santa Rosa..and prob had been for months...  Be wise with how you handle things, be respectful regardless of the situation and Bro, theres plenty of females out there that will treasure your commitment to them and never do you wrong.  Your situation is obvious , instead of lagging on ending this so it doesnt get any worse, just do it man.. you'll feel bad for a week..two weeks..yet you'll get over it and eventually look back and be glad you left her..

sorry for writing a book. but i wanted to share this so you can see that it could be worse..

take care of it.


-UNDFT-

I WISH I COULDA PUT MY EX THROUGH THIS SHE IS REALLY LUCKY




wooooooo sounds like my type of women

all jokes aside you live and you learn
not to make the same mistakes
like starting relationships with manipulative, skeeming, two timing, habitual lying, women.

 

[retro707]

the crazy part is....she was none of that at first.  things slowly started surfacing.  I dont feel bad at all because she brought it to herself.

-UNDFT-

 

[mytmouse76]

@ calling the police on her...i'm not mad at it tho...

she's probably in shock you actually did that

 

[nktran001]

JUNIOR STRIKES

I can do that too. 

 

[blackmagnus514]

187

 

[dcortes23]

face the facts you guys go to different schools and "stopping by to say hi" in the same dorm as a friend put the puzzle together bro..