1st and foremost forget about yourself
Its all about her
Unless she ask
Don't tell her
Just continue asking questions about her
Women love to talk especially about themselves
ALL OF THIS
there will be some woman who try to act like they dont wanna talk about themselves, and most dont, but in the beginning stages, they want to unload on you, or kinda tell you their life stories.
but you will be expected to retaliate later, but thats not whats important, the NOW is what's important.
Ain't even gonna lie I feel bad for you dudes. Most of you weren't around when the internet wasn't popping and females weren't as out of pocket as they are now. A lot of you aren't socially equipped to get at females in person because of the times you grew up in. Ya'll don't know about a time when chicks would go out and be excited just for a dude to holler at them and you had to write numbers down on paper and call their house and have to speak to their parents and ****. I'm only 28 but this **** these days is stacked up against you young dudes. If a girl is even remotely cute she has at least twenty dudes on her bumper due to all the exposure out there versus just ten years ago when a chick had to go out and have social skills and be open. It's scary how fast the world changed. As an older guy (2
relative to this board all I can tell you guys is I'm riding with you and I wish ya'll luck. If I were to give any advice from my late teen to early 20's experience I would say don't take any girl you're dating overly serious and date a lot of types of women. Chicks don't really know what they want at most points in life but especially 15-30. Get your player stage out the way so you can focus on taking care of YOURSELF. Most of you will pay this no mind but pulling women is almost a joke after you become financially secure and independent. Also know that your desirability and sex appeal goes up as you age and women's pretty much dwindles off completely unless they're a solidified dime. Happy hunting and stay strapped up!
I'm the same age and its ridic now with this social media and cell phones,
what makes it even worse its all women who are hiding behind this, i was dating a 30 yr old, and she couldn't talk to me on serious stuff unless it was through text. she got mad at me once for me being like, yo this texting stuff is weak. and im tired of wasting the energey texting you all this crap i can say to you in 5 secs or less, so if you want to talk serious then you can call me or we can meet.
That is one thing I'm happy about being an 80's baby. we grew up when technology was just taking off, but still got the social skills for when it was never really here.
Once again though I'm not typing this to you guys juyst to be like I talk to mad chicks cuz I don't I'ma quality over quantity dude these days.
but face to face, look a girl in her eyes conversation making them laugh is my specialty and that's because I was brought up that way..
Girls love that. because if you can't look them in the eye for more than 1 min and keep up conversation with smiling, then you've lost.
The whole playing it cool thing especially for in gym works. the yambs I see in gym, see me getting it in, so the bit that I have talked to know im not in there to prowl which makes them more comfortable,
The grocery store theory I'm hoping to try this weekend.
but defintely can't do WALMART that place just crawls with rachetness, or chicks with families or kids. Target, or your local grocery is better..
now for you younger dudes wanting ratchet Walmart may be perfect.
Any store you go to in all honesty that has a chick working at the counter, dudes shoot shots at, but believe me, they standing there for 6+ hours, they love the bit of attention and laughter if you can bring it, I mess around with cashiers all the time making little jokes, then just walk out
go back a few days later, and that person is kinda begging you to come in that line and pick up the number.
Getting women is a patience game when you're going at it in these places..
as far as club/bar scene, you can kinda seperate the good girls from the bad. the bad ones are the ones yelling and hollerin or having the most fun.
the cool calm collective ones are the ones you really want... I'm not much of a bar hoper but from the times I did go, you can just kinda tell which ones had b/fs, which ones were wild and ratchet and which ones were kinda just dragged there by her friends.....
you should always have a wingman in those situations when girls have their girls nights, because while he hits on the wild ones, you can hit the good ones with that story like, well its his bday and I usually don't come out, but thats my boy.. Much rather be chilling reading my book or watching a movie.
she will get intrigued by that.
quality chicks are all about that. you'll be surprised
