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You never know man, women are great at concealing it.
joepac12
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Women are great at concealing their past. Can't trust anything they say. Take it as face value and keep telling them what they wanna hear.
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I dunno man you can spot a decent girl from a former bird by convos. Usually by their current living situation , what they drive , and how they dress.
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True but that can all be a front. Conversations usually are the deal breaker for me. If you give one word answers or just simply lack the fortitude to talk about anything besides basketball wives and what movies are out then I see no possible way we can be more then f buddies at the most. I believe most females dig themself Into holes by portraying an image they have no intent on keeping up.
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True eventually over time their past will come out. For example every dude has probably ran into a chick that just moved to their respective city with no career and with just a car and some clothes. Chances are high that she was getting smutted out daily and her rep was so bad where she stayed at that she had no choice but to leave and start over only to start the cycle again. At first when you get to know her she tries to play the sweet conservative role than when u get her in the bed she sicking duck from the back . But these 3 indicators means of transportation , living situation , and wardrobe selection will likely give up the ghost on ole girls past .
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Sup fam
Long time TAY lurker, first time poster. Long story short (cause isn't that always how it is?) broke up with my girl of almost two years beginning of the summer. I'm 21, in college, and things just weren't leadin to marriage and kinda not movin anywhere so it seemed like it was right to move on, I'm still young, etc.
Now I'm back at school, plenty of options but at the same time I've been talkin with a lot of cool girls but not really anybody that's just givin me that feelin like I need ta hop back into somethin serious. Problem is, I can't seem to keep these women at the right distance. Let em get too close, then let em down when I feel like they aren't gf material for me. The two girls I've felt like were special I came on too strong on and scared em away.
I'm not sayin I'm tryin to date a girl or even lookin, I'm just in this weird stage funk but I'm legit too busy with school and other priorities to really have the social life id like. It's been hard to build a team to keep me company in that sense.
Just had to tell one girl tonight I wasn't feelin her like that and she's sayin we should just be cool and hang and man now I ain't even want that cause I know she's got feelins and I don't wanna hurt her more. Same thing now with the ex too. We've got all the same friends so can't avoid her and I still care about her as a friend. She don't got the number of friends I do tho and she's dealing with depression and so I'm tryin to support her and she still misses me too.
Is it wrong to just play it cool ridin solo until the right one comes along? I feel like my biggest mistake right now is bein just skin deep with a million people when I really just want to find someone I can be confident in wantin to be with. Just feels like I'm doin somethin wrong out here. Need some wisdom.
Long time TAY lurker, first time poster. Long story short (cause isn't that always how it is?) broke up with my girl of almost two years beginning of the summer. I'm 21, in college, and things just weren't leadin to marriage and kinda not movin anywhere so it seemed like it was right to move on, I'm still young, etc.
Now I'm back at school, plenty of options but at the same time I've been talkin with a lot of cool girls but not really anybody that's just givin me that feelin like I need ta hop back into somethin serious. Problem is, I can't seem to keep these women at the right distance. Let em get too close, then let em down when I feel like they aren't gf material for me. The two girls I've felt like were special I came on too strong on and scared em away.
I'm not sayin I'm tryin to date a girl or even lookin, I'm just in this weird stage funk but I'm legit too busy with school and other priorities to really have the social life id like. It's been hard to build a team to keep me company in that sense.
Just had to tell one girl tonight I wasn't feelin her like that and she's sayin we should just be cool and hang and man now I ain't even want that cause I know she's got feelins and I don't wanna hurt her more. Same thing now with the ex too. We've got all the same friends so can't avoid her and I still care about her as a friend. She don't got the number of friends I do tho and she's dealing with depression and so I'm tryin to support her and she still misses me too.
Is it wrong to just play it cool ridin solo until the right one comes along? I feel like my biggest mistake right now is bein just skin deep with a million people when I really just want to find someone I can be confident in wantin to be with. Just feels like I'm doin somethin wrong out here. Need some wisdom.
joepac12
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Well said. I see your point and agree. Sicking duck was funny too lol
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If your in college there are plenty of opportunities to find new girls to talk to in order to stop focusing on your ex. She is your ex for a reason. I'm not saying don't think about her or anything but as stated you are young and deserve a chance to see what else is out there. My advice to you is meet as many new females as you can and see what happens. The more shots u take the more u will make.
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Also the biggest freaks and girls that fit the description up there are waitresses and hostess along with flight attendants.
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Had to quote this before I retire to the bed...
My man take sometime out for yourself and find out who you are, where you want to go and what you want out of life... Not saying go total hermit but heal yourself first before trying to take on another persons well being and health... If your friends are true, they will understand that you need space to get your mind right, at this time you are vulnerable and any advice like" jump back on the horse or it takes one to get over another" and you know what happens when you follow that advice, you repeat a cycle of more pain and misery... Stay focused on school and family and most importantly yourself( can't reiterate that enough)... Women will always be on this planet, unless nuclear warfare or airborne disease, lol...
As for your ex, make a clean break for now, not saying 6months-1 year you can't be friends in a healthy sense but trying to be friends fresh out of a break is codependency and its going to hurt both of you more then help... I know you want to put the cape on a save her but she needs to learn how to save herself and become strong and this is were alot of girls get themselves in trouble because they bounce from dude-dude trying to conceal hurt and not wanting to be alone....
You are 21 my dude and hopefully with gods blessing( or whatever the **** is up in the sky) you will have alot more life to live... It's not all about smashing yambs every weekend or even having a plethora of girls at your disposal, what it really is about is learning yourself and knowing what bs you will put up with and what you won't..
Take time for yourself
Stay in them books
Find a passion/hobby
Stay acquiring currency
Get girls
In this order... If you don't get your mind right before messing with other girls, tryin to told you as a old man(32), you will repeat alot of mistakes and find yourself in more pain and perilous situations then you want to be...
Keep Your Head Up and Find peace within
Also stop trying to force love, romance, girlfriends or whatever, when you do that, the energy you put out attracts plus those things never happen on your time table... Took me damn near 5 years and a whole bunch of mistakes to learn this and I have been blessed with an angel when I wasnt even looking..
Good Night Tay Fam
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Yeah I've had girls tell me they have a kid. I just hit em with, "Yeah that's dope, they are such a blessing my best friend has a little girl."
Havent struck out yet with that
I said something like that but also said I didn't want to be a like a father to the kid. I said the should be biological father's job not mine. I think that turned her away. On FB she has pics of the last bf out with her kid at parks and such. Told her I'm not doing that.
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Agreed, you can only take but so many reactive answers like...." and you"
Yea man you're young, and seem to be in the same situation I was in when I was 21.
Freshly Single after a 3 1/2 year relationship.
still in college
women giving me attention (especially after i cut my braids off/ best decision of my life)
and still cool with my ex / hung up on her.
Life got better after I closed that door on my Ex. and just focused on myself. Now through the years I went through other girlfriends, and none have worked out into wifey yet.
If i could go back I would've enjoyed college a lot more.
Now I'm 27 (28 in 3 weeks) and having the time of my life, being single and all that. but it gets lonely real talk.
you need to enjoy your time now. work o n yourself and career, have fun with these ladies, but in order to keep them at a distance always follow Mugens Advice and just be Honest.
Say hey I like hanging out but im not looking for exclusivity. women respect that
don't worry about hurting feelings and all that because you were truthful if they remain to stay foolish and wrap feelings in it, thats on them.
As far as your Ex, and i mean no disrespect. but. You can't be Captain Save a girl your whole life.
I don't know many chicks who aren't suffering from "Depression". Unless she is taking zoloft or something then shes just sad and lonely.
Sorry but that's my real statement of the day.
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Dude this means absolutely nothing what the hell
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Dude this means absolutely nothing what the hell
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It's a fine line working with mothers. You don't want to be too amped to be around their kid, but you also have to acknowledge their presence. That just means they won't always be able to go out or give you supreme attention. I been dating mothers since I was 17. I have always gone with the flow. I can't even think of a time where the kid went out with us anywhere, but I know I never shut down the possibility.
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If you're not ready to be a daddy, then don't date them, plain and simple
I'm not a fan of kids, Ive only dated one chick with the kid and it sucked cuz i liked her, but couldn't get into caring about the kid. (was only 2) chicks with kids deserve love dont get me wrong, but I there are a many single women with no kids out there.
just think about that.
I'm not a fan of kids, Ive only dated one chick with the kid and it sucked cuz i liked her, but couldn't get into caring about the kid. (was only 2) chicks with kids deserve love dont get me wrong, but I there are a many single women with no kids out there.
just think about that.
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I must have been a damn wolf or hyena DAMN a dog back in my day. I messed with chicks who had boyfriends, married, separated bi, I didn't even care back in the day. One girl had different boyfriends each time we got together, another girl her man saw her getting out of my car but couldn't prove a damn thing happened. I will continue to hold my tongue on giving you advice on the situation.
I heard a chick once tell a married man, if your wife ain't taking care of you I will. It wasn't me, but I was just thinking DAMN women have no shame.
Wife and I met up with some married friends of ours at a restaurant/lounge called the Public House located down by the National Harbor. Of course I get a little pre-gaming in before we head out, then get some more drinks when we get there. Say hello to the birthday girl and her husband, and then head to the bathroom to wash my hands. On the way there all I see are bad women to my left and right having a good time, head is on a minor swivel. I SMH and just head back to my table.
Fast forward order food, finish food, wives head over to DJ to ask him to change the music. He does but then switches right back to previous set, meanwhile me and the other married guys are just observing in disbelief some of the sights in here. A couple check us out, but get dismissed. We eventually wind down and are all standing outside just shootin the breeze, my arm is around my wife as she is talking to the birthday girl. I look to my right and notice 2 women with a guy being held up in between them. She looks at me and I look at her, turn my head the other direction and think nothing of it. Well as she is walking behind me she runs her hand down my back, turns back and winks at me. I look at my wife, didn't see a thing, turn back to her and she blows a kiss. Meanwhile my boy is watching the whole thing and just starts smiling.
If it is like this NOW, I can't imagine once the casino is built how it will be.
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Oh NO, never say anything when kids are involved. Parents are rightfully super protective.
End well, this will not. SMH.
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Dude this means absolutely nothing what the hell
yea im usually with RR but he threw me completely off with that one.
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It really doesn't though. The best birds will have you believing they aren't, because they've convinced themselves they aren't.
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[COLOR=#red]And y'all wonder why chicks lie about their past I mean can you really really blame them? Most of the time we get butt hurt if they do tell the truth anyway, and besides believe it or not some chicks do change and settle down after a wild streak...ESPECIALLY if there were in college.
First off how are they supposed to tell us? Quantifiably or qualitatively? Quantifiably is like "yeah I let X amount of guys smash and sucked X amount of cocks. Qualitatively is like "I'd say I'm pretty good at letting dudes hit when they want to...and I'm down to slob the knob at which I'm great at too...most of the time it was right off the bat even though I made a few dudes wait."
Then you have to ask yourself why would you even ask about the specifics of a chick's past especially if you are the type that can't handle the troof. If you like a chick and feel you want to be with her and she likes you and treats you well is all that really counts. The exception to this is if she has health related issues like a STD or something, then she has the responsibility to let you know.
You're not necessarily doomed if you with a chick who got numbers cause maybe she has grown and realized that life isn't for her anymore, you're not necessarily safe with a chick with low numbers because maybe she feels like she hasn't experienced enough before really settling down.
Then there's the aspect of the double standards...we expect chicks to be all virtuous when a lot of the time it's us the guys that were the w-hores. We have body counts in the 3 digit range but now we ready to slow down and be monogamous, but can't handle that a chick been with 15-20 dudes. Somehow we are able to rehabilitate ourselves but the way we think of chicks is "once a *** always a ***".
At the end of the day all relationships are risks. There's no real formula to take the risk out of it...people gonna be people at the end of the day. Dre 3k said it best...You can plan a pretty picnic, but you can't predict the weather. [/COLOR]
I mean can you really really blame them? Most of the time we get butt hurt if they do tell the truth anyway, and besides believe it or not some chicks do change and settle down after a wild streak...ESPECIALLY if there were in college.First off how are they supposed to tell us? Quantifiably or qualitatively? Quantifiably is like "yeah I let X amount of guys smash and sucked X amount of cocks. Qualitatively is like "I'd say I'm pretty good at letting dudes hit when they want to...and I'm down to slob the knob at which I'm great at too...most of the time it was right off the bat even though I made a few dudes wait."
Then you have to ask yourself why would you even ask about the specifics of a chick's past especially if you are the type that can't handle the troof. If you like a chick and feel you want to be with her and she likes you and treats you well is all that really counts. The exception to this is if she has health related issues like a STD or something, then she has the responsibility to let you know.
You're not necessarily doomed if you with a chick who got numbers cause maybe she has grown and realized that life isn't for her anymore, you're not necessarily safe with a chick with low numbers because maybe she feels like she hasn't experienced enough before really settling down.
Then there's the aspect of the double standards...we expect chicks to be all virtuous when a lot of the time it's us the guys that were the w-hores. We have body counts in the 3 digit range but now we ready to slow down and be monogamous, but can't handle that a chick been with 15-20 dudes. Somehow we are able to rehabilitate ourselves but the way we think of chicks is "once a *** always a ***".
At the end of the day all relationships are risks. There's no real formula to take the risk out of it...people gonna be people at the end of the day. Dre 3k said it best...You can plan a pretty picnic, but you can't predict the weather. [/COLOR]
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[COLOR=#red]As far as it goes with chicks with kids it's best to be straight up with them at the beginning. There's nothing wrong with saying that you'd rather not be all that integrated in their child's life because you're not sure where you and her are going. That's actually pretty mature and it actually shows you are thinking of the kid, because you are protecting them by not letting them get attached and then dippin out.
Most of the time though if you messing with a chick kids for awhile they are naturally gonna want to have you integrated. There are exceptions of course. I prefer not to meet the kids until I know I'm gonna be around. Until then it's late night visits after the kids are sleep, or dates when their child's dad, or the kids relatives have them. [/COLOR]
Most of the time though if you messing with a chick kids for awhile they are naturally gonna want to have you integrated. There are exceptions of course. I prefer not to meet the kids until I know I'm gonna be around. Until then it's late night visits after the kids are sleep, or dates when their child's dad, or the kids relatives have them. [/COLOR]
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Man I wish I was that dude who smashed Moms & the Daughter... I Need me a older woman bad....
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