TAY: thread about yambs...

[tdogg2k]

I've lurked this thread for about 2 weeks- read through a few pages a lot of members have insightful ideas as well as entertaining stories.
Take the metaphor of a basketball game: since the yambs are quite literally a goal in relation to the purpose of this thread, they can be considered the basketball hoop. Scoring a basket is scoring the yambs. You may have the best post game on the court a la Shaquille O'neal, you may be a modern age Kareem Abdul-Jabbar in the paint, but at the end of the day your not getting the ball if you have a mediocre point guard who doesn't know how to effectively feed you the rock. You may need someone on your team to take the "pressure of you" in order that you may have "easier scoring opportunities." Although it is a greater confidence/ego booster to go 1 on 1 and create a play on your own, sometimes you have to get your buckets through the pick & roll- ain't nothing wrong with that. YOU have to cut to the basket to get the ball, but it doesnt hurt to recieve a crisp pass so you can get that ball and slam it in stride. May the yamb game of all you folks be a "slam dunk."

Any insight or criticism of my ideas are greatly appreciated. Yall's responses always entertain a brother.

This man is right.
your supposed wingman can be undercover hating.
No wonder why your rep is higher than your post, good stuff man

Lately this thread has been providing valuable gems.

Whats the plan for "cuffing season"?
New team?
One chick ?
Main and side piece?

I don't know which route I'm going with, I'm getting tired of juggling random chicks.

me personally went with a new team.
I got my spades game poppin at the moment
got 3 solids and 2 possibles.

its been a hard year from me personally, (with life in general) I may as well have a little fun til its necessary for me to commit.

 

[ayzee]

When and how should I try to translate harmless Facebook flirting into dating?

 

[mamba2481]

Ok fellas advice needed.  First girl ive probably fallen for and liked in a year.

So this girl I know lets call her L goes to the same gym as I.  We met just chopping it up in the gym 1 day.  She kept asking to workout with me, was a little flaky at first and eventually we worked out together 2 times.  That was a week and a half ago and than I had to go out of town for a weekend.  She wanted to see my pictures from my vacay and stories and i randomly run into her last wednesday. When Im talking to her I tell her we can workout or we can just go chill and do something else or have a drink and ill show you the photos.  She says she cant thursday but ill let you know b/c shes going to hang out with her brother.

Fast forward to this week I see her at the gym last night ( wednesday ) and she tells me how tired she is and gives me a hug and chops it up for a couple of minutes than says ill talk to you later.  As she leaves I see shes talking to this other dude ( she gets hit on a lot, but what girls dont at a gym- i saw them kinda walk out together). 

Now to today I walk in and shes there.  We always see each other b/c we pretty much go at the same time.  I give her the coldest shoulder ever.  Dont say 1 word to her and wont even look at her.  Just worked out.  I saw her look once or twice ( this girl is really shy btw ) .  But i didn't approach her and say anything to her.  IMO im feeling like why should I keep putting in effort when you asked ME to workout.  Now I know she doesnt just want to workout thats why I tried to get the girl to do something out the gym and when I asked her she started blushing and got shy.  But for her to tell me ill let you know and than not say anything or call me or text me i just took that as you dont want to workout or hangout. 

Should I try to text her or hit her up or continue to give her the cold shoulder?  Im tired of playing the game and chasing girls.  Why i've been single for 2 and a half years.  It can never be simple as it should be. 

I was going to send her a text and say sorry for not saying Hi- you left before I could but Im not sure thats the right move.  Seems kind of simpish.  And also I know I mentioned anothre guy but im not concerned with that just more how she said she would let me know and didn't.   Like am I suppose to pursue that hard?

Sorry for the long post, advice yamb fellas

 

[youngdoc]

When and how should I try to translate harmless Facebook flirting into dating?

Have you pulled the number yet?

 

[jjs]

All the girls to that ****, i'll hit you up and never do it.

Hit her up one last time, and if she starts with that BS, tell her : Ok, then you hit me up if you ever want to do something, i don't know you're schedule but just let me know if YOU want to do something and we'll work something out.

That's the last strike for me, if she never hit me up, then on to the next one, i don't have time to chase a girl i don't even know.

ain't nobody got time for that.

 

[mamba2481]

Thats how I feel.  I dont have time to be playing games and you telling me you would hit me up and you dont than when you see me at the gym you get all shy and awkward.  If you wanted to workout or hangout than  it cant just be all me leading.  I know a girl wants to be pursued but damn its not that difficult to send a simple text saying hi.

I do like her tho and we were cracking jokes when we were working out.  I feel like shes shy and im older and more mature and maybe reading her wrong. 

Ill hit her up one more time but ask her to do something outside of the gym .

 

[jjs]

Ill hit her up one more time but ask her to do something outside of the gym .

good idea.

if it's not going down and she's not hitting you up.

**** it, on to the next one. Just have some small talk at the gym, but don't try to do more, maybe she'll come back when she'll feel you're not "chasing" her anymore

women logic :x

 

[mamba2481]

good idea.

if it's not going down and she's not hitting you up.

**** it, on to the next one. Just have some small talk at the gym, but don't try to do more, maybe she'll come back when she'll feel you're not "chasing" her anymore

women logic

thats why I gave her the cold shoulder.  Figured once she realizes that Ive thrown in the towel and given up and just going to continue working out regardless that she will prob flip the switch.  OR that will backfire and she will think im not instered.

Women logic like you said lol

 

[joepac12]

Sounds like she holding back for some reason. I would say find new yamb

 

[mamba2481]

Sounds like she holding back for some reason. I would say find new yamb

I have other yambs.  I got another in the rotation but I like the fact we had **** in common.  IF she didnt' want to do anything with me why did she even ask me to workout in the first place..  I was cool doing my own thing.  why mess with my head.

 

[mugen81]

Ok fellas advice needed.  First girl ive probably fallen for and liked in a year.

So this girl I know lets call her L goes to the same gym as I.  We met just chopping it up in the gym 1 day.  She kept asking to workout with me, was a little flaky at first and eventually we worked out together 2 times.  That was a week and a half ago and than I had to go out of town for a weekend.  She wanted to see my pictures from my vacay and stories and i randomly run into her last wednesday. When Im talking to her I tell her we can workout or we can just go chill and do something else or have a drink and ill show you the photos.  She says she cant thursday but ill let you know b/c shes going to hang out with her brother.

Fast forward to this week I see her at the gym last night ( wednesday ) and she tells me how tired she is and gives me a hug and chops it up for a couple of minutes than says ill talk to you later.  As she leaves I see shes talking to this other dude ( she gets hit on a lot, but what girls dont at a gym- i saw them kinda walk out together). 

Now to today I walk in and shes there.  We always see each other b/c we pretty much go at the same time.  I give her the coldest shoulder ever.  Dont say 1 word to her and wont even look at her.  Just worked out.  I saw her look once or twice ( this girl is really shy btw ) .  But i didn't approach her and say anything to her.  IMO im feeling like why should I keep putting in effort when you asked ME to workout.  Now I know she doesnt just want to workout thats why I tried to get the girl to do something out the gym and when I asked her she started blushing and got shy.  But for her to tell me ill let you know and than not say anything or call me or text me i just took that as you dont want to workout or hangout. 

Should I try to text her or hit her up or continue to give her the cold shoulder?  Im tired of playing the game and chasing girls.  Why i've been single for 2 and a half years.  It can never be simple as it should be. 

I was going to send her a text and say sorry for not saying Hi- you left before I could but Im not sure thats the right move.  Seems kind of simpish.  And also I know I mentioned anothre guy but im not concerned with that just more how she said she would let me know and didn't.   Like am I suppose to pursue that hard?
Sorry for the long post, advice yamb fellas

Before I retire for the night let put my two cents in...
Walk Away..
This girl is not "shy" as you think because she's talking to another guy at the same damn gym brethren...Step back and analyze the situation for what it is... If a girl is truly feeling you, she will go all out, no games played, no wondering and no questions... Only time a girl playes hard to get is when she sees you as an option or plan b.... We have all been strung along by girls or got so caught up in "liking" somebody and ignore the signs of she is just using you for attention at the gym...
Put it this way, if she really was about that life and wanting to know about your vacation, etc and she was really feeling you, she would have gotten out of there with you that night..
I have been that dude wondering or played that bs game of "chasing" but stop that, again I will reiterate, when dealing with females keep it 100 and tell them what it is and if they are down for the play, they will respond... Life's too short to wonder, ponder, text.... When you go to the gym just pull her to the side and say,"It was out of character for me to give you the cold shoulder. Look I am kinda feeling you and I would like to get(insert beverage choice,activity choice here) sometime. if we are just gym buddies that's cool, but I just don't play games and I definately don't chase"..
Okay maybe that's harsh, put your own spin to it but "Closed Mouthes Don't Get Fed", and I after being played more then once(even when I met my current) I made a promise to myself to be as candid and brash so I wouldn't be playing the guessing game.. It weeds out those "fairy tale" minded girls out quickly, that are no fun to deal with anyway...
Call me a Realist, but seriously dude just grab the bull by the horns... What do you have to lose...Good Luck
Peace

 

[ballinsam23]

Cosign on absolutely everything mugen said. thats the EXACT way you should respond to this situation. I have a feeling that since she's shy she just wants attention and company. Therefore all you are is a gym buddy to her.

Keep it 100 with her and tell her how it is. If she's not feeling you after that, then she was never interested in the first place. No games.

 

[elderwatsondiggs]

[COLOR=#red]Great info/insight/advice guys!!!

Also good too see guys who were once lurkers contributing. Sometimes I wonder how many people come to this thread that doesn't really post.[/COLOR]

 

[championboyz7]

Ahhh im debating. I been eye'n this girl in my class. The other day I straight pussed out after class and she booked it after class so I guessed she was in a hurry (walking hella fast).
I have a few friends in that class they gave me the face after that. How should I approach?


Here's the tricky part im no longer in that class and it was pretty much my only class on campus.
She's always looking and went out of her way to answer a question I had the other day (I was thinking loudly to myself )
So im not sure what to do.

 

[216301baller]

I hate when girls come over late night..grab my d..I make a move they talkin about uh oh I'm goin to sleep smh..then shorty had the nerve to say she run the shots here..only reason why I didn't kick her out is because she's drunk..but I dnt even feel like a sucka..I'm not even gonna dwell on it tommorrow morning for the fact I could give 2 ***** about this broad..but it looks bad because she hit me up wanting to come over..I haven't hit her up in a month

 

[216301baller]

Would I be a sucka if I slept with her even though I didn't get the yambs..like I said before I could careless if I smash her or not..after tonite ill act like she doesn't exist again lol..

 

[rrlegend]

Would I be a sucka if I slept with her even though I didn't get the yambs..like I said before I could careless if I smash her or not..after tonite ill act like she doesn't exist again lol..[/quote

Naw it happens I don't try to smash every time a chick jumps in my bed but that joystick grabbing shoulda been checked I woulda got a handy at minimum

 

[nikekid6]

late night yambs comin thru

 

[Coromanti]

late night yambs comin thru

at this point you may as well call them early morning yams...

imo late night ends at 3

w.e  its just semantics...get it in bruh

 

[216301baller]

Update I could of smashed had her *** naked but couldn't get it up smmfh

I made her cum from kissing her though

 

[tdogg2k]

for the gym situation I've been in that situation twice this year already. but its like mugen said. you gotta pull her to the side. put the ball in her court. hey if u wanna chill u let me know. if you don't then ill see you around and still speak.


and baller I think ewd said it best with the expectation talk. it is what it is. don't always expect to smash .. the grabbing of the D was a party foul. but its all good . u got her that far you'll do it again

 

[surgev1]

TAY taught me above all else, be straight up to the point in your intentions...never entertain females who beat around the bush or play games, that's wasting valuable time, while she's talking to(or worse) with some other dude. You got nothing to lose, everything to gain...always maintain that mentality when trying to access the Yambs & you'll never go wrong.

 

[818shoe]

Update I could of smashed had her *** naked but couldn't get it up smmfh

I made her cum from kissing her though

made her cum from kissing her. Damnnnn. Shorty wants the d son. Gotta give it to her next time or else kick her *** out

 

[105950]

Update I could of smashed had her *** naked but couldn't get it up smmfh

I made her cum from kissing her though

 

 

[elderwatsondiggs]

Update I could of smashed had her *** naked but couldn't get it up smmfh

I made her cum from kissing her though

[COLOR=#red]You sure she didn't slip her hand down there to fiddle with her pearl while you was kissin her homie?

Spoiler: Warning: Spoiler!

[COLOR=#red]Just messin with you bro...if you was my boy IRL I would have joked the same thing. Anyway yeah like the homies in here were saying you aint always going to smash for one reason or another...I figure it's all good...I'm never gonna be too upset that a woman is over my crib kicking it with me...I mean I don't tie EVERYTHING into smashing.[/COLOR]

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