Okay I am trying to understand this and I guess you want a Homie/Lover/Friend( word to R.Kelly)..
You want somebody you can have a connection with but no chains of commitment too, correct me if I am wrong...
But the problem with that is, if you make love to a woman in that sense, you are making love to her mind as well as her body. If you are taking the time to find her spots( foreplay) and you are also stimulating her with conversation, wine and music that insinuates romance and women love that, so how can you make love without the presence of love..
My G, for once I am dumbfounded, lol...
Even if you just pursue a Homie/Lover/Friend relationship, feelings will get caught...
I just don't see how you can make " love" without the presence of love or romance or true feelings for that person and still be unattached afterwards... Got Damn I am confused... This is a really good topic/theory