omg it never ends
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So there was this girl i was low key beasting over about 3 months ago. We hung out a few times and ended up hooking up a month ago. I hadn't seen her since the hook up but tried. She was always "busy" with school work. Which i just thought was a blow off which i was cool with like welp lost another one.
But she just turned in her 2 big assignments and hits me up friday to get drinks. I was like ok maybe you actually were just busy or something. We go out get drinks at 9 stay til close get home at about 130. Casual hug goodbye
We make plans for Saturday tentatively. She hits me up at 3 to grab food chill outside enjoy the nice weather. We end up hanging out from 3pm until about 1:15am. Switched bars went and actually played catch with the football since she is playing co-ed football and sucks and wanted some pointers
But end up back at my place at about 1:30 and yambs were had she left the next morning at about 11 since i had a soccer game.
The problem:
She wants to go to grad school in Seattle....we live in MD.
She is really afraid of commitment. Well not really afraid maybe just apathetic toward having a bf since she openly says "i don't need a bf i feel like girls date guys because they need love in return and i get that from my family i don't need to reach out for it" She is real close with her family since her mom passed about 2 years ago. Its her 1 brother and 2 sisters and her dad. My response to her saying that though was "Its not like you are going to fall in love right away it just starts with hanging out with some one then you realize you like hanging out with them...and want to see them again....and that repeats and you grow together" and she was like i guess you are right.....then we proceeded to hang out all day sooooooo
But i really don't know what to do since she says she doesn't want a bf....we obviously get along really well....i haven't liked a girl this much in a long long time....and now that yambs were had im all sorts of wanting to run it back.
I think you made a smart move with the "its not like you fall in love right away line..." because that's true. Even if you get love from your family you can still want/need a different kind of love that comes from being in a relationship. If you really like her then keep hanging out with her. Even if she is going to grad school in Seattle after this summer you should still enjoy the summer with her if that's what you wanna do. You can learn a lot from short romances if you know how to let them go when the time comes. Plus it's fun and you don't have to deal with the things that come in real relationships. And if you want a real relationship you may be able to have that too. Grad school is only a year and she will most likely be too busy to be looking for other men if she's already busy as an undergrad. The fact that she did actually hang out with you for an extended period when she wasn't busy says a lot. Good luck.
Thanks both of yalll
