It really is up to you and your habits and the time you have/feel you are using up.
I have plenty of watches that has no date so adjusting it is pretty simple and easy along with a quick wind (20-30 turns). It used to bother me but not anymore, it probably takes an extra minute or two out of my day (which I do maybe once every 2 weeks to a month)? So no big deal for me but I did use to think the same way as you hence owning several winders (though some of them I did get for free with the watch). So i don't think you are overthinking it especially if you live in a fast paced world. I do still use my winders for other watches I just like having wound anytime I need it like my Monaco is my activity/wherever I go watch, I like it wound whenever I just want to throw it on in a hurry or feeling lazy. If you go the winder route, just make sure you have a good winder and you're good to go.
It also helps if the watch doesn't have a screw in crown, makes it much easier to wind and adjust. I figure for a handwound watch I would want it to not have a screw in crown so I can wind on the fly before the power dies, just would be less hassle.
I tend to rotate three watches at a time though but most are automatics so I seldom adjust and wind them. I also try to put a Daytona in the rotation, it has a 72 hour power reserve so it can be worn every third day. I also switch up watches twice during the day depending where I go at night, so again it depends on you and your lifestyle.
I've also gotten to a habit that sometimes when I am waiting or just relaxing, I would remove my watch and wind it a few turns just for the heck of it (also to keep power up).
Not really sure if that answered your question though.