[/Your Girl having Male friends\]

[Soleserious]

Originally Posted by VeryAnalytical85

Originally Posted by tvanterpool

Originally Posted by VeryAnalytical85

Originally Posted by cguy610

Originally Posted by VeryAnalytical85

Originally Posted by cguy610

Originally Posted by VeryAnalytical85

I don't understand what's the problem.

We're all in agreement here that if someone wants to cheat and break trust in the relationship, people will do that regardless if where you stand with your SO.

Also, what is up with the insecurities? I thought NT'ers had their game on lock. You gotta trust your girl (especially if she's the right one for you), that she won't go out of her way to let someone else into her intimate territory. I have numerous female friends in relationships and believe me I wouldn't mind tapping that, but I also gotta show respect to her relationship if I'm truly her good friend (especially if the guy she's dating is a good friend of mine and karma's a *@!#@). I'm a firm believer in not hitting sloppy seconds if they don't work it out and agreed mutually to break up. I would rather find my own chick to hit then go through with the nonsense.

Now if you we're a *$+@@+#** type of dude and I didn't really know you, treating her like crap (openly cheating on her and other unjustified forms of abuse) and she comes to me for support. Then I wouldn't mind laying pipe work on your girl given the opportunity, but that's just me.

Yea ok. 

, says the guy with his car in his avy. 

Fixed.

Good for you, at least you're secure with something (that's progress made). But if you're treating her right and she's treating you good then why trip about it? I've had an instance where I could have line stepped on a good friend of mine (who's a female, a fine one at that) and she stripped down butt booty naked and etc. But I didn't cross it, because I respected the guy and he was a nice and treated her well. So I didn't smash, (took my L, etc., whatever NT wants to say). The point being, if he wasn't a nice guy and she kept complaining constantly about him (unjustified abuse and infidelity are the key words here) and everybody knew he was a douche and didn't deserve her, then in that scenario I would have smashed. 
Does that make sense? Or, you still don't comprehend (or paranoid that I'm the type of dude that would smash your girl even if you rocked a benz)?

Not trying to come at you in anyway Very Analytical this is just a question, do you have a girl or wife?

No problem tvanterpool. I've had some ex-girlfriends in the past. I'm single now, just dating some girls here and there and enjoying life. Is it really pertinent for me to have a girl or wife at the present moment to really understand this scenario?

Nah i was just wondering if you did have a girl and was saying if the dude is an a-hole and the chance comes you smash and you have a main chick who thinks you and ur sopose to be friend got it in because her man was not treating her right, cause that would be cheating regardless to what the boyfriend is doing. But you said you single so its different

 

[38816]

Originally Posted by Weekend Girl



Enphan still cynical as always huh?

you don't know the half...

i take it you didn't catch the post....

ROFL....instant message me somehow or something....

me and you got #beef
  

 

[bittersweet]

Originally Posted by Weekend Girl

Originally Posted by bittersweet

Originally Posted by Weekend Girl

He hates me having/going out with my male friends because he's convinced everyone's intentions are to get at me. I limit contact with my male friends now though because I know it bothers him and him/his feelings are more important to me anyways.

This happens with attractive women. My guy is convinced everyone is trying to get at me too.

He be like, "yeah but you don't know his attentions. He's a guy ... you don't know what he's thinking right now."

But I have no male friends at all, maybe some I may talk to online, but nah no texting/no hanging out.

But yo, I've come to realize 9/10 he's right about #!%+ like that anyways. He's proven me wrong a few times about close male friends I've known for years who tried to pull some slick #!%+ while me and my dude were going through some #!%+.


Enphan still cynical as always huh?

My baby is always right. I guess it's their instincts, he was right about all those dudes.

That's why I don't hang out with guys, and he doesn't hang out with girls. Make each other happy.

 

[veryanalytical85]

Originally Posted by tvanterpool

Originally Posted by VeryAnalytical85

Originally Posted by tvanterpool

Originally Posted by VeryAnalytical85

Originally Posted by cguy610

Originally Posted by VeryAnalytical85

Originally Posted by cguy610

Originally Posted by VeryAnalytical85

I don't understand what's the problem.

We're all in agreement here that if someone wants to cheat and break trust in the relationship, people will do that regardless if where you stand with your SO.

Also, what is up with the insecurities? I thought NT'ers had their game on lock. You gotta trust your girl (especially if she's the right one for you), that she won't go out of her way to let someone else into her intimate territory. I have numerous female friends in relationships and believe me I wouldn't mind tapping that, but I also gotta show respect to her relationship if I'm truly her good friend (especially if the guy she's dating is a good friend of mine and karma's a *@!#@). I'm a firm believer in not hitting sloppy seconds if they don't work it out and agreed mutually to break up. I would rather find my own chick to hit then go through with the nonsense.

Now if you we're a *$+@@+#** type of dude and I didn't really know you, treating her like crap (openly cheating on her and other unjustified forms of abuse) and she comes to me for support. Then I wouldn't mind laying pipe work on your girl given the opportunity, but that's just me.

Yea ok. 

, says the guy with his car in his avy. 

Fixed.

Good for you, at least you're secure with something (that's progress made). But if you're treating her right and she's treating you good then why trip about it? I've had an instance where I could have line stepped on a good friend of mine (who's a female, a fine one at that) and she stripped down butt booty naked and etc. But I didn't cross it, because I respected the guy and he was a nice and treated her well. So I didn't smash, (took my L, etc., whatever NT wants to say). The point being, if he wasn't a nice guy and she kept complaining constantly about him (unjustified abuse and infidelity are the key words here) and everybody knew he was a douche and didn't deserve her, then in that scenario I would have smashed. 
Does that make sense? Or, you still don't comprehend (or paranoid that I'm the type of dude that would smash your girl even if you rocked a benz)?

Not trying to come at you in anyway Very Analytical this is just a question, do you have a girl or wife?

No problem tvanterpool. I've had some ex-girlfriends in the past. I'm single now, just dating some girls here and there and enjoying life. Is it really pertinent for me to have a girl or wife at the present moment to really understand this scenario?

Nah i was just wondering if you did have a girl and was saying if the dude is an a-hole and the chance comes you smash and you have a main chick who thinks you and ur sopose to be friend got it in because her man was not treating her right, cause that would be cheating regardless to what the boyfriend is doing. But you said you single so its different

Oh alright, you thought initially I had a main piece and still would smash regardless. But yeah glad you understood and I cleared that up, it would be hypocritical of me doing this nonsense if I'm happy with a girlfriend. But I haven't found anyone decent and if I don't might as well live it up until my time runs out.

 

[38816]

Originally Posted by bittersweet

Originally Posted by Weekend Girl



Enphan still cynical as always huh?

My baby is always right. I guess it's their instincts, he was right about all those dudes.

That's why I don't hang out with guys, and he doesn't hang out with girls. Make each other happy.

-Jay- that's the way it's 'posed to be -Jay-

that's the way it used to be around these parts too....

 

[Soleserious]

Originally Posted by eNPHAN

Originally Posted by Weekend Girl

Originally Posted by tvanterpool

weekend girl did u mean mess up as in cheat on ur current bf and do u mean like if he is not checkin up on you your gonna mess up, please elaborate

Yeah, I was unfaithful. Seeing how much pain I caused him made me really put *%#! in perspective. I don't want to lose him and I'm so thankful he gave me a second chance or else I would have missed everything we have experienced in the past year. Sounds corny but he changed the game for me

#simp

True, i respect you being honest and it seems like you really want to be back on the right track. I kno if it was me it would be over cause i hate girls who cheat and lie with a passion, and i guess it was really hard to get yall back strong, what did you do so good to win his trust back cause the thought of another man slaughtering your chick and he says it to you would make you want to put him and her six feet just cause.

 

[bittersweet]

Originally Posted by eNPHAN

Originally Posted by bittersweet

Originally Posted by Weekend Girl



Enphan still cynical as always huh?

My baby is always right. I guess it's their instincts, he was right about all those dudes.

That's why I don't hang out with guys, and he doesn't hang out with girls. Make each other happy.

-Jay- that's the way it's 'posed to be -Jay-

that's the way it used to be around these parts too....

Stop man ...

 

[38816]

LOL, stop for what?

 

[bittersweet]

You're making me sad!

 

[mecks]

who grave dug this post?? i see my old sn in here

 

[sofreakinwavy]

as long as it aint one on one or i know the dude its fine

 

[rko2004]

Originally Posted by bittersweet

Originally Posted by Weekend Girl

Originally Posted by bittersweet

Originally Posted by Weekend Girl

He hates me having/going out with my male friends because he's convinced everyone's intentions are to get at me. I limit contact with my male friends now though because I know it bothers him and him/his feelings are more important to me anyways.

This happens with attractive women. My guy is convinced everyone is trying to get at me too.

He be like, "yeah but you don't know his attentions. He's a guy ... you don't know what he's thinking right now."

But I have no male friends at all, maybe some I may talk to online, but nah no texting/no hanging out.

But yo, I've come to realize 9/10 he's right about #!%+ like that anyways. He's proven me wrong a few times about close male friends I've known for years who tried to pull some slick #!%+ while me and my dude were going through some #!%+.


Enphan still cynical as always huh?

My baby is always right. I guess it's their instincts, he was right about all those dudes.

That's why I don't hang out with guys, and he doesn't hang out with girls. Make each other happy.

I'm super proud of you ladies.

Carry on.

 

[weekend girl]

Originally Posted by tvanterpool

Originally Posted by eNPHAN

Weekend Girl wrote:

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tvanterpool wrote:

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weekend girl did u mean mess up as in cheat on ur current bf and do u mean like if he is not checkin up on you your gonna mess up, please elaborate

Yeah, I was unfaithful. Seeing how much pain I caused him made me really put *%#! in perspective. I don't want to lose him and I'm so thankful he gave me a second chance or else I would have missed everything we have experienced in the past year. Sounds corny but he changed the game for me

#simp


True, i respect you being honest and it seems like you really want to be back on the right track. I kno if it was me it would be over cause i hate girls who cheat and lie with a passion, and i guess it was really hard to get yall back strong, what did you do so good to win his trust back cause the thought of another man slaughtering your chick and he says it to you would make you want to put him and her six feet just cause.



It just took time. Time and understanding. It was a huge mistake on my part and I'm woman enough to admit that I'm not perfect. It was hard for awhile because he was set off really easily by anything that reminded him of the situation. We both realized we had a good thing going and we were gonna try to work it out and see what happens. I really had to prove to him that I was seriously committed to our relationship.

 

[38816]

Originally Posted by bittersweet

You're making me sad!

#yousad?

 

[million dollar stacks]

Nope, not going down that way

 

[keepzdasneakz]

Originally Posted by Gello 201

Originally Posted by Boys Noize

The way I feel is, if the girl is going to cheat on you, she'll do it regardless of what you do. So spare the extra effort and just play it cool. If she does cheat on you, she wasn't worth it from the beginning and nothing you could do would have prevented her from whoring herself out.

Very true.

 

[d money87]

cant really stop them from having friends, but i know the intent of the guys. I let any guy who i think is tryan make moves kno that if i here some !#$% im burryn him

 

[ziostilon]

Money87 wrote:

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cant really stop them from having friends, but i know the intent of the guys. I let any guy who i think is tryan make moves kno that if i here some !#$% im burryn him

y'all just scared they got a backup plan.  if you mess up, she has somebody to run to.

seriously, whats making moves?  chatting, hanging out, facebook interaction.  unless hes layin' hands on her, some of you really need to tone down the testosterone.  your mind is just playing tricks on you, fantasizing scenarios that could occur.

this isn't a battle.  you don't need to always be on alert and neutralize all potential threats.

i can understand if your relationship have just begun.  But if its in a steady state, theres really little need to always be on the lookout

 

[raptors29]

Originally Posted by Ziostilon

Money87 wrote:

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cant really stop them from having friends, but i know the intent of the guys. I let any guy who i think is tryan make moves kno that if i here some !#$% im burryn him

y'all just scared they got a backup plan.  if you mess up, she has somebody to run to.

seriously, whats making moves?  chatting, hanging out, facebook interaction.  unless hes layin' hands on her, some of you really need to tone down the testosterone.  your mind is just playing tricks on you, fantasizing scenarios that could occur.

this isn't a battle.  you don't need to always be on alert and neutralize all potential threats.

i can understand if your relationship have just begun.  But if its in a steady state, theres really little need to always be on the lookout

What about if dude keeps texting her saying I wanted you so bad earlier today? 

 

[mondaynightraw]

Originally Posted by bittersweet

Originally Posted by Weekend Girl

He hates me having/going out with my male friends because he's convinced everyone's intentions are to get at me. I limit contact with my male friends now though because I know it bothers him and him/his feelings are more important to me anyways.

This happens with attractive women. My guy is convinced everyone is trying to get at me too.

 

[trapmuzik617]

 

[Soleserious]

Originally Posted by mondaynightraw

Originally Posted by bittersweet

Originally Posted by Weekend Girl

He hates me having/going out with my male friends because he's convinced everyone's intentions are to get at me. I limit contact with my male friends now though because I know it bothers him and him/his feelings are more important to me anyways.

This happens with attractive women. My guy is convinced everyone is trying to get at me too.

 

[adrian1221]

 

[reeceman10]

Those friends she has know their place.

 

[th0mas cr0wn]