OK I've got some kerosene for this...
Black culture is on the way out. The golden era for black culture was right after the civil rights era and into the 70s. There was power in the pride at that time. Whites even began to fear blacks and the influence they had on the upcoming generation. The birth of modern hip-hop was a zenith that shifted into a state of mind that was too "apart" from middle America. Today black culture isn't about fighting any establishment and carving out a foothold for our people, it's about attention.. We just want to be seen now. We'd rather have a $50k Gold chain and new yeezy's than a $50k down payment on a house our kids can inherit.
Black culture is going extinct. White America has exploited every crevice they could to drive consumerism. They have stolen our Black Power and they are now successfully sowing hatred among US for what WE have become, making billions in the process. There are more mixed race couples than ever, which should be a positive thing but in reality is just a by product of black women and men trying to distance themselves from what black culture has become. In America we are no longer the Kings and Queens of our neighborhoods, or the entrepreneurs who seem to produce money in places where there isn't any. We just put on our white collar or blue collar and enjoy the fact that we don't have to struggle anymore. Even though the struggle is what makes a culture more cohesive and formidable.
.... and here's the lit match.
Get over it. If you don't let go of black culture, you'll be left in the past. Aside from being in a gentrified neighborhood.. your children will not inherit your black pride. White America won the race war. Civil rights and their children's music and fashion tastes were just casualties they had to sacrifice to get through the fight.
at the end of the day building a successful family unit is more difficult than its ever been. For everyone, not just blacks.