I was in that exact situation for like 4 years almost. She was perfect to me. But she was not driven at all. It took its toll on me. I even tried to help her get going in the right direction. But in the end it didnt work out and we broke up. She was everything I wanted but not driven which is kind of a deal breaker
I was in that exact situation for like 4 years almost. She was perfect to me. But she was not driven at all. It took its toll on me. I even tried to help her get going in the right direction. But in the end it didnt work out and we broke up. She was everything I wanted but not driven which is kind of a deal breaker
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Dont do it. It will come back to haunt you
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I know a lot of people with the drive but without the opportunity.
I don't expect anyone to rest on their laurels, but to make the most out of their situation.
Should I leave my girl because she's satisfied with her bachelors and her low income job (even enticed by the idea of advancement) or should I appreciate her for making the wise decision to pay down some of that debt before undertaking her master's, especially since no one in her field is hiring and internships are scarce.
While it definitely isn't the rule, we have to start moving away from this idea of career and/or being career-oriented because a lot of young adults just aren't landing that career before age 25. At least while the economy is in the dumps.
I don't expect anyone to rest on their laurels, but to make the most out of their situation.
Should I leave my girl because she's satisfied with her bachelors and her low income job (even enticed by the idea of advancement) or should I appreciate her for making the wise decision to pay down some of that debt before undertaking her master's, especially since no one in her field is hiring and internships are scarce.
While it definitely isn't the rule, we have to start moving away from this idea of career and/or being career-oriented because a lot of young adults just aren't landing that career before age 25. At least while the economy is in the dumps.
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I know a lot of people with the drive but without the opportunity.
I don't expect anyone to rest on their laurels, but to make the most out of their situation.
Should I leave my girl because she's satisfied with her bachelors and her low income job (even enticed by the idea of advancement) or should I appreciate her for making the wise decision to pay down some of that debt before undertaking her master's, especially since no one in her field is hiring and internships are scarce.
While it definitely isn't the rule, we have to start moving away from this idea of career and/or being career-oriented because a lot of young adults just aren't landing that career before age 25. At least while the economy is in the dumps.
I don't expect anyone to rest on their laurels, but to make the most out of their situation.
Should I leave my girl because she's satisfied with her bachelors and her low income job (even enticed by the idea of advancement) or should I appreciate her for making the wise decision to pay down some of that debt before undertaking her master's, especially since no one in her field is hiring and internships are scarce.
While it definitely isn't the rule, we have to start moving away from this idea of career and/or being career-oriented because a lot of young adults just aren't landing that career before age 25. At least while the economy is in the dumps.
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IMO what you're describing isn't her not being driven...like you said...thats making the most out of the situation...
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IMO what you're describing isn't her not being driven...like you said...thats making the most out of the situation...
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IMO what you're describing isn't her not being driven...like you said...thats making the most out of the situation...
True. But I think OP wants his girl to be equally competent career-wise.
If he's bringing in six figures, she can't be barely breaking $30k.
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IMO what you're describing isn't her not being driven...like you said...thats making the most out of the situation...
True. But I think OP wants his girl to be equally competent career-wise.
If he's bringing in six figures, she can't be barely breaking $30k.
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I have the opposite problem. What to do with a girl that is too DRIVEN?!?! Personally I don't care if she makes more money and more intelligent however the fact that she is too focus on her career which means zero or little time for me is just destroying our relationship. Career driven women FTL!
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I have the opposite problem. What to do with a girl that is too DRIVEN?!?! Personally I don't care if she makes more money and more intelligent however the fact that she is too focus on her career which means zero or little time for me is just destroying our relationship. Career driven women FTL!
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I dunno....I dated career driven women before and it has a tons of pros and cons
-when you have your own stuff going on, it balances out
-on the other hand you have to deal with them bringing that workplace aggression home, and that ++@ needs to be checked at the door. It's a huge turn off of mine.
-At least she'll be independent
-On the other hand you need to have "me" time and "us" time and when you both are doing your thing it does get hard to pace yourself
But the universal rules still applies that people will make time for whoever they like.
-when you have your own stuff going on, it balances out
-on the other hand you have to deal with them bringing that workplace aggression home, and that ++@ needs to be checked at the door. It's a huge turn off of mine.
-At least she'll be independent
-On the other hand you need to have "me" time and "us" time and when you both are doing your thing it does get hard to pace yourself
But the universal rules still applies that people will make time for whoever they like.
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I dunno....I dated career driven women before and it has a tons of pros and cons
-when you have your own stuff going on, it balances out
-on the other hand you have to deal with them bringing that workplace aggression home, and that ++@ needs to be checked at the door. It's a huge turn off of mine.
-At least she'll be independent
-On the other hand you need to have "me" time and "us" time and when you both are doing your thing it does get hard to pace yourself
But the universal rules still applies that people will make time for whoever they like.
-when you have your own stuff going on, it balances out
-on the other hand you have to deal with them bringing that workplace aggression home, and that ++@ needs to be checked at the door. It's a huge turn off of mine.
-At least she'll be independent
-On the other hand you need to have "me" time and "us" time and when you both are doing your thing it does get hard to pace yourself
But the universal rules still applies that people will make time for whoever they like.
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Just not too driven, right?
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I'm just messing with you, bruh.
soltheman
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Just not too driven, right?
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I'm just messing with you, bruh.
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Most girls go for the non-goal oriented guys nowadays, so it''s the norm.
I'm use to it.
in 2011,
Bad guys > Good guys
I'm use to it.
in 2011,
Bad guys > Good guys
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Most girls go for the non-goal oriented guys nowadays, so it''s the norm.
I'm use to it.
in 2011,
Bad guys > Good guys
I'm use to it.
in 2011,
Bad guys > Good guys
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Seems pointless
elpablo21
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Seems pointless
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Originally Posted by Demps
I wonder how my girl feels about this.
She goes to school and works, while I stay at home and scratch my balls.
It's only a matter of time. Once she graduates etc, she will have no choice but to cut ties.
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Originally Posted by Demps
I wonder how my girl feels about this.
She goes to school and works, while I stay at home and scratch my balls.
It's only a matter of time. Once she graduates etc, she will have no choice but to cut ties.
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that type of box will enable you..i personally need something to make me want to be better.
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that type of box will enable you..i personally need something to make me want to be better.