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[turbospartan]

Checking back in - what’s been going on fam?

Still going. Judge kinda screwed me over as he gave her literally as much as he possibly could (50/50 of all marital assets, even though it wasn't 50/50 going in and CO is not a "community property" state). That said, the legal **** is over with and now I just have to pay her out from the house and from my 401k via QDRO. She turned into an absolute snake, though. Karma already kinda coming back to bite her in the *** but at this point I dont care what happens, just take your money and get the **** away from me forever.

About to have a call with a realtor in a few minutes, to discuss my options. I'm still trying to sell the house, but because of the current market I'm on the fence whether to keep or sell. I don't love the house so I want to sell, but the my living expenses will increase by renting. Going from a 4 bed house to a 700sqft apartment will be a change, but I'm also ready to "minimalize" my life. I have way too many DS shoes that I will never wear - gotta get rid of that type of ****.

As far as dating, I was hanging with this woman from Hinge for a while but she got very attached very quickly. She knows my situation, but she still really latched on and hoped we would get into a long term thing - where I am not trying for that, at all. So I just recently started using the apps again. The "need this pic for my wallet" has not been successful, yet. When I have been downtown to check out the areas of some of these apartments I'm considering, I am seeing talent everywhere; jogging, walking dogs, at the shops/restaurants, etc. Living downtown will def give me a lot more opportunities than a house in the burbs.

 

[onlyjs]

Still going. Judge kinda screwed me over as he gave her literally as much as he possibly could (50/50 of all marital assets, even though it wasn't 50/50 going in and CO is not a "community property" state). That said, the legal **** is over with and now I just have to pay her out from the house and from my 401k via QDRO. She turned into an absolute snake, though. Karma already kinda coming back to bite her in the *** but at this point I dont care what happens, just take your money and get the **** away from me forever.

About to have a call with a realtor in a few minutes, to discuss my options. I'm still trying to sell the house, but because of the current market I'm on the fence whether to keep or sell. I don't love the house so I want to sell, but the my living expenses will increase by renting. Going from a 4 bed house to a 700sqft apartment will be a change, but I'm also ready to "minimalize" my life. I have way too many DS shoes that I will never wear - gotta get rid of that type of ****.

As far as dating, I was hanging with this woman from Hinge for a while but she got very attached very quickly. She knows my situation, but she still really latched on and hoped we would get into a long term thing - where I am not trying for that, at all. So I just recently started using the apps again. The "need this pic for my wallet" has not been successful, yet. When I have been downtown to check out the areas of some of these apartments I'm considering, I am seeing talent everywhere; jogging, walking dogs, at the shops/restaurants, etc. Living downtown will def give me a lot more opportunities than a house in the burbs.

Since you are going through it, was the separation recent? Or been a while therefore now back on the swing of things on the apps.

 

[daruma]

Valentines day is a nasty day smh

i got a story to tell

 

[storm2006]

$60 round trip may be on the high end but that is definitely worth it for some convenient yambs. Especially if it is during the week and she is purely coming over to chill, watch some Netflix, drink/smoke and get busy. I guess the counterargument is "find someone closer"?

krider31 we gon' need that Valentine's Day story fam! Quickstrike pics a plus!

Unless it involved beer, pizza, Netflix and Phub

 

[krider31]

$60 round trip may be on the high end but that is definitely worth it for some convenient yambs. Especially if it is during the week and she is purely coming over to chill, watch some Netflix, drink/smoke and get busy. I guess the counterargument is "find someone closer"?

krider31 we gon' need that Valentine's Day story fam! Quickstrike pics a plus!

Unless it involved beer, pizza, Netflix and Phub

now you know my stories include real people... cut it out

 

[turbospartan]

Since you are going through it, was the separation recent? Or been a while therefore now back on the swing of things on the apps.

In 2 days, it will be a year since we filed for divorce. She moved out the next day, Feb 18th. I downloaded the apps in April or May last year, but didn't put a lot of effort into it (mostly downloaded to try to setup some connections when I went on a Euro trip at the end of May / beginning of June). Then when I got back to the US, I started using the apps a little more in July/August. Hung with that girl a lot so didn't use the apps as much, but now jumping back into it.

I haven't had a ton of success on the apps thus far. Never paid for any which may be a factor. I'll match with a decent amount of women, but a lot of them don't reply or eventually disconnect (such as Bumble, where they will match but then the woman has to make the first contact within 24 hours). Don't get your hopes down based on these social media loving ****. As mentioned in this thread, shoot your shot and try to secure the phone # and get off the apps ASAP. These women get bombarded with dudes all day every day, so get the # quickly and setup a meet before you fall too far down the page.

 

[Mark Antony]

Yeah $60 roundtrip is worth some convenient ***** any day

Easily, just another UberEATS order.

 

[checks mcgee]

60??? shordy better be coming well equipped

drinks, snacks, accesories, unlimited top

 

[アミーゴ]

turbospartan proud of you for moving downtown - the yamb life will be FLOWING

 

[アミーゴ]

WHAT?!?!? First off, where the hell could she have been going 90 miles away Second, I guess I'm misinformed but I thought you could only change the destination in the app? That's at least what drivers have told me to do in the past if I need to change locations or add a stop. Could be a recent change to prevent stuff like this.

Funniest part of that is that I am assuming she was supposed to come back but went somewhere 90 miles away

It was the 4th of July like 8 years ago - we were at his party in Newport, just met the girl. She said she had to head home real quick and her phone died or something (I wasn’t talking to them).

He grabs the Lyft for her to head home and come back - she gets it to SAN DIEGO and he gets an in-app update

 

[calikev34]

Long time reader first timer here, going through a separation after being 15 years with this woman. Sucks man really bad I wish she would’ve left a lot sooner now I’m 37

One trap doors after a break up is seeing the relationship as time wasted.

Learned that from a book called How to Fix a Broken Heart by Guy Winch. (He's a psychologist who's got tips and tricks after seeing a bunch of clients go through breakups.)



I left my ex-fiancee in 2018 and the best thing I did was follow NT's Four Star Post-Break-Up Advice of "get in the gym, and work on yourself."

It's been a year and a half since the break up , and since then... Though I've read 30 books, increased my income significantly, moved to a new city, and traveled more than any other period of my life ...


The thing that helped me heal the most was corrective emotional experiences.

In the parlance of our times, the best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody else.


Old gal = broke your heart

New gals = help fix your heart. That's obvious . What's less obvious , and more important, is that new gals also reflect back to you the new version of you. You noticing other people noticing the new you - this adds a tougher layer onto your thickening skin.

My advice to you = you'll never be ready to date again after a break up. Most people wait too long. That's a mistake. And your intuition will tell you to wait to date but it's wrong.

The sooner you get some good conversations / easy lay ups / cool flings the sooner you'll heal.


And the apps are a tool to get you back on track

 

[Present]

Rhinos still work but you can also get legit prescription meds for $1 a pill without leaving your house. Use code reddit or diys or fb20 and they’ll give you a whole month free just pay $5 shipping then cancel auto renews before the next one

You can also get the cialis in a liquid dropper from maximpeptides or blueskypeptides and theyre always on sale and ship from the us and have your **** looking like a dragonball z character

If you want to go more from de Earth , look into shilajit, maca, and butea superba in that order. Will have you shooting ropes across the room

+1 for Maca.

Added it to my oatmeal for energy in the AM.

Had no idea it also affects libido.

Me in the office at 0900 looking at my female coworkers:

 

[Mark Antony]

*moved

 

[storm2006]

It was the 4th of July like 8 years ago - we were at his party in Newport, just met the girl. She said she had to head home real quick and her phone died or something (I wasn’t talking to them).

He grabs the Lyft for her to head home and come back - she gets it to SAN DIEGO and he gets an in-app update

Damn she used him for a ride home But 8 years ago makes sense, you probably didn't make the adjustments in-app back then until they got too many complaints of instances like this one

 

[onlyjs]

One trap doors after a break up is seeing the relationship as time wasted.

Learned that from a book called How to Fix a Broken Heart by Guy Winch. (He's a psychologist who's got tips and tricks after seeing a bunch of clients go through breakups.)



I left my ex-fiancee in 2018 and the best thing I did was follow NT's Four Star Post-Break-Up Advice of "get in the gym, and work on yourself."

It's been a year and a half since the break up , and since then... Though I've read 30 books, increased my income significantly, moved to a new city, and traveled more than any other period of my life ...


The thing that helped me heal the most was corrective emotional experiences.

In the parlance of our times, the best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody else.


Old gal = broke your heart

New gals = help fix your heart. That's obvious . What's less obvious , and more important, is that new gals also reflect back to you the new version of you. You noticing other people noticing the new you - this adds a tougher layer onto your thickening skin.

My advice to you = you'll never be ready to date again after a break up. Most people wait too long. That's a mistake. And your intuition will tell you to wait to date but it's wrong.

The sooner you get some good conversations / easy lay ups / cool flings the sooner you'll heal.


And the apps are a tool to get you back on track

Thanks for the pointers

 

[WASHED KING]

Still going. Judge kinda screwed me over as he gave her literally as much as he possibly could (50/50 of all marital assets, even though it wasn't 50/50 going in and CO is not a "community property" state). That said, the legal **** is over with and now I just have to pay her out from the house and from my 401k via QDRO. She turned into an absolute snake, though. Karma already kinda coming back to bite her in the *** but at this point I dont care what happens, just take your money and get the **** away from me forever.

About to have a call with a realtor in a few minutes, to discuss my options. I'm still trying to sell the house, but because of the current market I'm on the fence whether to keep or sell. I don't love the house so I want to sell, but the my living expenses will increase by renting. Going from a 4 bed house to a 700sqft apartment will be a change, but I'm also ready to "minimalize" my life. I have way too many DS shoes that I will never wear - gotta get rid of that type of ****.

As far as dating, I was hanging with this woman from Hinge for a while but she got very attached very quickly. She knows my situation, but she still really latched on and hoped we would get into a long term thing - where I am not trying for that, at all. So I just recently started using the apps again. The "need this pic for my wallet" has not been successful, yet. When I have been downtown to check out the areas of some of these apartments I'm considering, I am seeing talent everywhere; jogging, walking dogs, at the shops/restaurants, etc. Living downtown will def give me a lot more opportunities than a house in the burbs.

Yeah I ain ever getting married. That 50/50 bs is dumb.

It only makes sense to me if the wife stayed home and didn’t work to take care of kids. Outside of that it’s bs.

 

[storm2006]

Yeah I ain ever getting married. That 50/50 bs is dumb.

It only makes sense to me if the wife stayed home and didn’t work to take care of kids. Outside of that it’s bs.

But what if you both worked, made similar wages and split the cost of child care 50/50?

 

[moonman818]

60??? shordy better be coming well equipped

drinks, snacks, accesories, unlimited top

Valet + 1.5 drinks at a bar is more than $60... Yall need to grow up

3 20s ain't **** in 2023

 

[checks mcgee]

grow up?

but the chick who needs 60 dollars doesnt?

if a chick asking me for anything its already a turn off, the price isnt the issue

 

[アミーゴ]

Damn she used him for a ride home But 8 years ago makes sense, you probably didn't make the adjustments in-app back then until they got too many complaints of instances like this one

Bro SHE USED HIM FOR A RIDE TO ANOTHER PARTY/DUDES HOUSE

IT WAS MIDDLE OF THE DAY - party was RAGING

 

[moonman818]

grow up?

but the chick who needs 60 dollars doesnt?

if a chick asking me for anything its already a turn off, the price isnt the issue

I'm not letting a couple dollars for a lyft to my house stop me from getting some *****... I don't know why the principalities matter if you just trying to bust a nut .

That's just me though

 

[dhart48]

I never thought I would’ve been in this situation but I kept trying to make it work and today she said she just doesn’t see it, I had been trying for 3 weeks but she just doesn’t want to anymore

Man im so sorry.
was with my wife 15 years.
Got completely sober and the last 5 years i showed every ***** day.
used language like i want to build a new foundation of intimacy with you. She still bounced. No kids(thank God)

ive sat where you've been forreal, ever want to vent hit the dms.

Take this time to build yourself from the ground up.
im 40 btw age aint ish

 

[storm2006]

Bro SHE USED HIM FOR A RIDE TO ANOTHER PARTY/DUDES HOUSE

IT WAS MIDDLE OF THE DAY - party was RAGING

NOOOOOOO!!!! Based on mileage that's like someone asking for a ride within Philly then getting dropped off in NYC

This whole story reminds me that I have had some pretty crazy stories with yambs and rides where THEY were the one's simping. I actually feel kind of guilty in retrospect

 

[onlyjs]

Man im so sorry.
was with my wife 15 years.
Got completely sober and the last 5 years i showed every ***** day.
used language like i want to build a new foundation of intimacy with you. She still bounced. No kids(thank God)

ive sat where you've been forreal, ever want to vent hit the dms.

Take this time to build yourself from the ground up.
im 40 btw age aint ish

You’re lucky we have 2 kids but my oldest understands that dad really tried before the separation and after to try to make things work

 

[turbospartan]

Yeah I ain ever getting married. That 50/50 bs is dumb.

It only makes sense to me if the wife stayed home and didn’t work to take care of kids. Outside of that it’s bs.

Yep, if she was a homemaker cooking, cleaning, taking care of kids... thats one thing. But after I paid for her Master's degree, this bish ended up making more than I did and still didn't contribute 50%

**** that ****. My money is mine and if I ever get involved long term again, we aint combining **** and we aint brining the government into it. Unless its someone like Riri that is worth a lot more than me, and I'd get 50% of her ****.