thadocta
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How do you deal with one of your good homies coming out of the closet
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You seeing him differently says more about you than it does about him.
futuremd
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OP, don't worry. It doesn't rub off.
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Honestly I couldn't even do it and if I did I'd keep speaking to a minimum. I'm not homophobic, ppl can live however they want but there's a lot of factors that come into play when dealing with this. That would pretty much ruin our friendship however I'd still be cool with homie just not boys anymore.
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If you hang out in the barbershop, you're gonna get your haIr cut.
Nah, but seriously OP, just smash him. There's obviously some sexual tension there.
If you don't smash him, you ARE homophobia!
Nah, but seriously OP, just smash him. There's obviously some sexual tension there.
If you don't smash him, you ARE homophobia!
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Really shouldn't change anything, just make sure he respects your boundaries.
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one of my good friends came out in high school. he was still one of my good friends.
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OP reminded me of this...
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His sexual orientation shouldn't matter. As long as he is the same person his always been to you that should matter.
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One of my homeboys from 9th grade came out the closet about 2 years ago... I never really suspected him being gay but once he told me It kinda made sense ... He was bi but i believe now he's full blown gay. Had to block him on fb though because he's always talking about getting packed
as long as he respects you enough not to try any funny stuff you'll be good... avoid talking about your intimate encounters tho because it will get weird quickly
... He was bi but i believe now he's full blown gay. Had to block him on fb though because he's always talking about getting packedas long as he respects you enough not to try any funny stuff you'll be good... avoid talking about your intimate encounters tho because it will get weird quickly
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you're mad cuz he didn't tell you about his lifestyle choice that you'd obviously judge him for?
I don't get this "look at gay dudes and think about how much gay **** they do" mindset some of you have. I find out someone's gay, I'm typically like "_ I don't care, but email me some recipes". I'm not thinking about what they're doing in their private time.
cuz that's ******g weird.
futuremd
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I always kinda find it funny when people claim they had NO idea.
I mean...did you REALLY not suspect ANYTHING? And hes your best friend?
Dude must have been dropping hints for a long time.
I mean...did you REALLY not suspect ANYTHING? And hes your best friend?
Dude must have been dropping hints for a long time.
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Funniest post I've read this week.
@OP
If his friendship meant anything to you then you'd accept him for who he is.
If his sexual orientation means more than his friendship to you, then cut him off.
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be careful op. its contagious
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You're a terrible friend OP
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Never happened to me and if it did I'd be a bit mad. Mind you I'm thinking of my close friends so what I'd be mad about them is lying and faking that heterosexual lifestyle. Being scared to come out I can understand but perpetrating a fraud while you really on the down low is not honorable. I'd lose mad respect for them.
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Real talk, a lot of you guys are showing your true character with these responses. Some of you need to get over yourselves, what in the hell makes you think that your boy even wants you. You guys act as if you can't hang with him because hes gonna automatically want butt sex.
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I wish NT had a thread that was "Ask A Gay Dude" cause I can't seem to understand them.
I'm not going to lie man, I'd probably stop chilling with him on the regular. Not because I hate gay people but because I'd just feel uncomfortable as hell. I can't help that. It just wouldn't be the same.
I see some great answers in here, very mature and accepting answers. I just wouldn't be able to shake it.
I'm not going to lie man, I'd probably stop chilling with him on the regular. Not because I hate gay people but because I'd just feel uncomfortable as hell. I can't help that. It just wouldn't be the same.
I see some great answers in here, very mature and accepting answers. I just wouldn't be able to shake it.
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Not every closeted dude is actively on the downlow...plus, you can't hold it against them for not coming out sooner because you'd have said the same thing when they do finally come out. I see what you're saying but theres a reason they don't feel good about coming out in the first place.
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Annddd this is it.
Personally, I woudnt know how to feel if one of my close friends came out. Not cause im homophobic, but ive never had a close relationship (no ayo) with someone who is.
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basically..
F the politically correctness...if its me personally i cant even do it..
wouldnt be rude, or talk down to him..just straight up tell him we cant be cool...
i mean cmon, i dont wanna be talking bout dudes boy problems...dont wanna be shooting at the court talking bout a new bad shorty i knocked down, then he follows up wit a story bout some dude...
not my cup of tea. plain nd simple...
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As for OP, just think about us men and the female friends we lie to when we say we don't have a sexual attraction to them. Your friend been fapping to you.
The other guy was more moderate. Both threads got locked Also a few years back every now and then a real gay NTer would come through with a gay confession.
I wouldn't accept the lie and the masquerading cuz it makes me think they thought our friendship was based on the fact that we were both heterosexual. I'm simply saying be who you are. It's one thing to lie in conversation when dudes are talking about a girl like "she's hot blah blah" and just play it off and don't make it suspicious that you've never had a gf but in depth details about sex with women that never happened and all other sordid details is just plain wrong. I wouldn't buy any of that confused talk either.
They'd be better off telling me they're genuinely bi or play that off like they only do gay stuff when they on coke.
I recall we had that two different times. One dude was mad graphic and open with it (he might've been a troll though). Think he had Max B related sn.
The other guy was more moderate. Both threads got locked
Also a few years back every now and then a real gay NTer would come through with a gay confession.Well again I'm talking about my close friends. From what I've seen them do in strip clubs (among other places to other chicks) I'd feel betrayed. Tainted memories.
I wouldn't accept the lie and the masquerading cuz it makes me think they thought our friendship was based on the fact that we were both heterosexual. I'm simply saying be who you are. It's one thing to lie in conversation when dudes are talking about a girl like "she's hot blah blah" and just play it off and don't make it suspicious that you've never had a gf but in depth details about sex with women that never happened and all other sordid details is just plain wrong. I wouldn't buy any of that confused talk either.
They'd be better off telling me they're genuinely bi or play that off like they only do gay stuff when they on coke.
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