No one wants kids, US Birth Rate Hits 32-year low

[getback]

To be honest, adopting a child is something I have been giving some thought to lately.

Being stuck in the foster care system can be hell on kids. Especially young black boys.

The thought of saving one of them from that hell is one way I feel I can make a difference.

I used to be a social worker and what's even crazier is there's a massive shortage of foster homes. So kids ultimately end up being streamlined through DIFFERENT foster homes on a daily or nightly basis and often spending days in the office with the social worker when no daycare is available. Imagine the toll that takes on kids? Going to a different home every night and spending days with a bunch of adults you don't know. So damn sad. System is completely broken.

I'd be working on my computer with a 4 month old baby on my lap 50% of the time.

 

[ninjahood]

My guy... You've just described a luxury

having family that loves you is a luxury? cold world for some of ya

 

[RustyShackleford]

Bro not everyone’s grandparents can watch their kids.

Infant daycare is expensive af.

My daughter is 12 now, the costs of a kid are nothing compared to when she was little.

Get her some clothes, pay for gymnastics and some food and she’s good.

Babies cost waaaaaaay more.

I always knew they were expensive but my girl's sister recently had a baby, she is young and a full time student, also the dad is a clown, so me and girl basically pay for everything.

And oh my God them little mother ****ers are expensive. Everytime I would have to go buy formula and diapers I wanted ask the cashier if she rang up something twice, or three times.

Everytime she took the baby for a check up, some new issue comes up you gotta spend money on.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

I used to be a social worker and what's even crazier is there's a massive shortage of foster homes. So kids ultimately end up being streamlined through DIFFERENT foster homes on a daily or nightly basis and often spending days in the office with the social worker when no daycare is available. Imagine the toll that takes on kids? Going to a different home every night and spending days with a bunch of adults you don't know. So damn sad. System is completely broken.

I'd be working on my computer with a 4 month old baby on my lap 50% of the time.

Idealistically, what should the system look like?

 

[blastercombo]

Ninja, once again you have no ****ing idea what you are talking about.

On every topic this applies

 

[ninjahood]

Once again, do you have kids?

no, ain't ready to give up my spot yet...and da broads i deal wit are koo koo, so stock magnums regularly.

 

[debso]

no its not, maybe DCAllAfrican to quote him is cultural, but latino families ALWAYS take care of family member kids, parents will throw some change or favors or some food, but its basically family looking out for fam.



not for nothing, ya don't think about any of this stuff years in advance to prepare just in case?

you don't speak for all latinos at all.
you really don't know what you're talking about on this.
definitely reevaluate your thinking before you have kids. you don't want to learn the hard way as far as how hard things can be.

even with everything planned out it doesn't always go that way and a lot of times is nothing like you think it'll be.
you can have 17 sisters and 25 cousins you're cool with that you helped raise and all that, you still won't know til you have your own children.

 

[Fozz]

no, ain't ready to give up my spot yet...and da broads i deal wit are koo koo, so stock magnums regularly.

Cool.

Thought so.

 

[wr]

Bruh you got some families were each parent and each sibling stay across country in their own place.

My Dad lives with his new bm in another state.
My mom is in a facility.
My sis lives with her military husband travelling everywhere with two small kids.

Technically were all on our own. We just use to live together back in the day is how it really feels lol.

 

[Top Boy]

having family that loves you is a luxury? cold world for some of ya

Man what? Again, youre drastically oversimplifying this. I don't understand how you can't see this.

I'll use myself as an example. I grew up in a single-parent household. My father still works 50+ hours a week and travels for work regularly, what grandparent am I leaving my kids with?

There are so many variables to this, I dont understand how you see everything neatly tucked inside this convenient bubble.

 

[ninjahood]

you don't speak for all latinos at all.
you really don't know what you're talking about on this.

i speak from experience, i have ALOT of family and they all look out for eachother's kids.

some of ya letting pride speak over practicality and love.

 

[Fozz]

So many variables when having children.

It ain't easy, it ain't perfect. Even if you 'planned' for kids, it never goes according to plan. NEVER.

 

[rillo561]

It's selfish to even think that your family wants to or should watch your kids. Especially the older generation, their baby sitting days are over.

 

[getback]

Idealistically, what should the system look like?

There wouldn't be an abundance of children in the system. The socioeconomic structure of this country is directly responsible.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

There wouldn't be an abundance of children in the system. The socioeconomic structure of this country is directly responsible.

Of course but based ON the number of kids in the system, what would be "ideal?"

 

[Fozz]

i speak from experience, i have ALOT of family and they all look out for eachother's kids.

some of ya letting pride speak over practicality and love.

But you don't have kids on your own that has to plan and care for a child 24/7. You're still out there driving da hemi and shooting up the club. So you can't tell people in here with kids that it's cheap when they have kids and know how expensive it is first hand.

It's not pride.

 

[ninjahood]

I'll use myself as an example. I grew up in a single-parent household. My father still works 50+ hours a week and travels for work regularly, what grandparent am I leaving my kids with?

cousins? neighbors? kids mom's side of fam? some folks just adverse to leaving their kids to others, thats fine but then it cuts your options.

3 of my neighbors used to babysit me and my mom would cook for em or toss em some bread, none of this was formal, da folks in my building i know em since i was born.

 

[Fozz]

It's selfish to even think that your family wants to or should watch your kids. Especially the older generation, their baby sitting days are over.

This.

 

[blastercombo]

Really no such thing as planned either. Know multiple rich families that are broke paying for medication and therapy for children born with disabilities. Have all the cash you want, what will you do when your kid is born with the inability to use their legs, require a feeding tube, etc. now THAT is what deters me from having another. Healthy kids is not a given. I work with that all day but having one of my own is not the same thing

 

[ninjahood]

and shooting up the club.

naw definitely not, no glove no love

 

[debso]

having family that loves you is a luxury? cold world for some of ya

trust me when I say that it is.
never take that for granted.

 

[frshstunna]

Yall know better than to try to convince Ninja when hes wrong...that man dies with his takes or throws em deep in the spin cycle

We got cats with kids telling him what hes saying aint the case and yo STILL not trying hear it

 

[ninjahood]

It's selfish to even think that your family wants to or should watch your kids

your family usually volunteers because they love you and your children...damn some of ya either black sheep, or ya don't live near em.

 

[getback]

Of course but based ON the number of kids in the system, what would be "ideal?"

That's sort of a loaded question, but one example is the ease with which the department will remove children from their home while an investigation is conducted. KIds used to get removed because their parents smoked weed. So the same way weed convictions has created thousands if not millions of years of prison time, it has done the same thing to break up families.

Also, relatives can be denied kinship custody because of a minor charge on their record from decades ago. So the only alternative is throwing the child through foster care.

More than a third of foster kids leave the system without a high school diploma or GED, according to the Children’s Law Center of California. Fewer than half are employed in the first 12 to 18 months after aging out. A third of kids exhibit mental health disorders, often post-traumatic stress disorder. More than a quarter will be incarcerated in the first two years after leaving the system, and a third will need public assistance.

There's an HBO doc that just premiered last week if you're really interested. It's documents California's foster system, which has the most foster kids out of any state by far.

 

[ninjahood]

Yall know better than to try to convince Ninja when hes wrong...that man dies with his takes or throws em deep in the spin cycle

We got cats with kids telling him what hes saying aint the case and yo STILL not trying hear it

there's no blueprint to raise children, but seems some of ya ain't tapping into resources ya could use.