NTers - need help joining a social circle.

Honestly... just clinch on to one of the people in the circle that you seem to get along with best. start going out with them. eventually you will just mesh with all of them and you will start getting calls/invites out as opposed to inviting yourself
 
Originally Posted by halal cart23

Originally Posted by KickHead23

Originally Posted by halal cart23

I'm in college.

And It ain't like I haven't talked to her, I know her.

You fools are too far removed from college life to understand or remember how important a social circle is in getting w/ girls.
If you are always hanging out by yourself or only w/ one or two people - guys that is, then people won't even give you a second look.
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Are you in any classes with her?
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Yes I am in a 700 person class w/ her, but she always sits with her best friend... I have sat two seats away from her, and said hello to her before/after class a few times.
I need help becoming friendly with her and the only way that I can imagine this happening is if I become friends with her friends, as a group. (see mystery method)
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Originally Posted by brettTHEjett

Honestly... just clinch on to one of the people in the circle that you seem to get along with best. start going out with them. eventually you will just mesh with all of them and you will start getting calls/invites out as opposed to inviting yourself
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That.
 
Originally Posted by brettTHEjett

Honestly... just clinch on to one of the people in the circle that you seem to get along with best. start going out with them. eventually you will just mesh with all of them and you will start getting calls/invites out as opposed to inviting yourself
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That.
 
I can definitely empathize with some of your stories about conversations from things that have happened to me in college. It's the little, almost-missed connections that sometimes make you think most. I swear, from the one time I spoke to this girl, that we'd be great together, and I don't say that lightly. I pursued it lightly, but things came up and I sort of let it die off. I still regret that. Don't be me.
 
I can definitely empathize with some of your stories about conversations from things that have happened to me in college. It's the little, almost-missed connections that sometimes make you think most. I swear, from the one time I spoke to this girl, that we'd be great together, and I don't say that lightly. I pursued it lightly, but things came up and I sort of let it die off. I still regret that. Don't be me.
 
I don't understand why you have to get in her social circle to get close to her. Just talk to her.
 
I don't understand why you have to get in her social circle to get close to her. Just talk to her.
 
Originally Posted by trhee

I don't understand why you have to get in her social circle to get close to her. Just talk to her.
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exactly, op your making this a lot harder then it really is...by the time you become friends with her friends, she'll probably be boo'd up...life's short, ask to walk her to her next class...talk about whatever, if the convo goes well then suggest that you guy's should hangout sometime
but honestly, it seems as if you've already blown it with all the awkwardness/stalking
 
Originally Posted by trhee

I don't understand why you have to get in her social circle to get close to her. Just talk to her.
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exactly, op your making this a lot harder then it really is...by the time you become friends with her friends, she'll probably be boo'd up...life's short, ask to walk her to her next class...talk about whatever, if the convo goes well then suggest that you guy's should hangout sometime
but honestly, it seems as if you've already blown it with all the awkwardness/stalking
 
You a strange dude, OP.  You DEF do NOT want to be in that social circle.  Building a friendship/sexual tension between the chick you're interested in IS what matters.  It sounds like you barely know her.
 
You a strange dude, OP.  You DEF do NOT want to be in that social circle.  Building a friendship/sexual tension between the chick you're interested in IS what matters.  It sounds like you barely know her.
 
I suppose you guys are right, I should just make a deliberate effort to walk and talk w/ her... and trust me, I haven't blown it

I'm actually curious if she likes me because i kinda get that vibe, but then she might just be really friendly and chatty... she has initiated conversations with me during most of our interactions. and the conversations that she has initiated with me have been the best ones. It also sometimes seems as though she makes a concerted effort to talk to me but I'm hesitant to be ask her out.

The reasons why I'm hesitant to spit some game or ask her for her # or something is because
A) she's muslim, i'm muslim... and some muslim girls don't go out with guys & vice versa... and I don't know how to detect this.
and
B) I have made the mistake in the past of either being too aggressive and making things awkward fast or being too passive and seeing her get picked up by some other dude who came into the picture after me.
 
I suppose you guys are right, I should just make a deliberate effort to walk and talk w/ her... and trust me, I haven't blown it

I'm actually curious if she likes me because i kinda get that vibe, but then she might just be really friendly and chatty... she has initiated conversations with me during most of our interactions. and the conversations that she has initiated with me have been the best ones. It also sometimes seems as though she makes a concerted effort to talk to me but I'm hesitant to be ask her out.

The reasons why I'm hesitant to spit some game or ask her for her # or something is because
A) she's muslim, i'm muslim... and some muslim girls don't go out with guys & vice versa... and I don't know how to detect this.
and
B) I have made the mistake in the past of either being too aggressive and making things awkward fast or being too passive and seeing her get picked up by some other dude who came into the picture after me.
 
Start talking to her friends making small talk with them and dont pay much attention to her. That will make her question why you aren't showing any attention to her and at the same time it will dis-alarm her friends and THEN you start speaking to her AFTER her friends like you
 
Start talking to her friends making small talk with them and dont pay much attention to her. That will make her question why you aren't showing any attention to her and at the same time it will dis-alarm her friends and THEN you start speaking to her AFTER her friends like you
 
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A) she's muslim, i'm muslim... 
B) I have made the mistake in the past of either being too aggressive 
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