what are the benefits for a man to get married?

[ksteezy]

Yeah this is just discussion and I'm just giving my perspective.  The thing is, even if I was together with either my son or daughter's mom I wouldn't really be spending much more time cause of my profession.  That's just a reality with pretty much any high earning profession and I can go down the list of dudes I personally know varying from pro athletes and entertainers to plastic surgeons, dentists, and attorneys.  My main goal being a parent anyways is to prepare my kids best to succeed independently as soon as possible because you never know what can happen.  We all got diff philosophies when it comes to parenting.  I just know I'm investing in them to develop best mentally and physically, not just education from private schools but social skills in diff environments, street smarts etc.  So yeah, I can't make it to a lota my son's pop warner games or soccer games but there's always going to be a trade off.  I'm not going to sacrifice the opportunities the money I'm making is going to provide them.  Just my perspective

This traditional structure is just what most ppl in our generation in this country been taught and put in our heads.  If you look throughout history, there's been so many different arrangements in different cultures, regions etc.  For instance, polygamy was the norm in certain societies and although I don't want that for myself I ain't gonna knock the mormons that wanna get down with the whole sister wives arrangement.  Look at how low the marriage rate in the Nordic countries are, marriage is dying out there and they're just ahead of the U.S when it comes to being progressive.  

Yeah I completely understand you, just keep doing the best you possibly can man, as long as they are taken care of financially is more than many can ask from dads nowadays.

 

[younghollywood]

Yeah I completely understand you, just keep doing the best you possibly can man, as long as they are taken care of financially is more than many can ask from dads nowadays.

Yea and not telling you what to do but I would suggest if you want kids to wait til your wife's bringing in some income to do it

 

[ksteezy]

Yea and not telling you what to do but I would suggest if you want kids to wait til your wife's bringing in some income to do it

Yeah that would be ideal, the issue I'm a facing is that I'm now 31, we can't have kids naturally because I have a deficiency which won't get better with time and actually more expensive to achieve, good thing is I'm not rich but not really struggling financially and we have a great support system to help us through while she goes out and finishes should we end up pregnant now.

 

[nawghtyhare]

Yea and not telling you what to do but I would suggest if you want kids to wait til your wife's bringing in some income to do it

Yeah that would be ideal, the issue I'm a facing is that I'm now 31, we can't have kids naturally because I have a deficiency which won't get better with time and actually more expensive to achieve, good thing is I'm not rich but not really struggling financially and we have a great support system to help us through while she goes out and finishes should we end up pregnant now.

damn man im sorry to hear that
i hope u have u a lil one one day

 

[tr1ll]

Yall keep saying things like, "marriage is outdated", "nowadays people.." ect, ect blah blah blah, like yall are saying something new.

The stuff you guys are saying is the same stuff Aint-**** ****** have been saying since the beginning of time.

Instead of coming up with these BS notions(that im will to bet my life will change withing the next 5 years), why dont you just be for real and say, "I'm not ready, my mind isnt even there yet.."?

Why do you say "my mind isn't even there YET" as if marriage is an inevitable conclusion for everyone? I didn't realize that all men were required to get married. I'm sure there are people in this thread who will never be married in their lifetimes.

When did I say it was inevitable?

Do you really think they way you think now is going to be the same in 10-15 years? I would pray that their would be some sort of advancement.

Most of yall arent even old enough to even fathom the concept of marriage, but I know, your 20 something and know everything...

 

[younghollywood]

realtalk dudes in middle east b living like this. seems like the good life, i wannt it

Yea there was this 1 oil sheikh in the middle east that had like 61 kids and was trying to get to 100.  But we all know that middle eastern oil sheikh money is looonnnggg

 

[ninjahood]

Son my mother & pops aint marry till they was financially ready, thats smart PERIOD.

Eff i look like marrying a broad that dont pull her

Weight... We aint in da 50's no more, vagina is at

Every corner, that **** isnt a asset. Mama needs to

Go out & get it on da strip da males do. Im doing no

Less then that DINK lifestyle. My moms told me from

Jump street "no te buscar esposa dama para cama

Esa mujeres no servir para nada meno que echa

Polvo"

And thats facts.

Bro, what can you possibly bring to a marriage?...you don't even know how to break ties with your mom...you were instilled by your moms from a young age to be selfish, she has baby'd you to the point that you think is ok to share a relatively small space with her passed 30, that's the way dudes live back in the motherland, I'm not firing shots at you, but on the topic of marriage, you have very little room to speak on, stick to car talk bro.

son my moms & my pops got MARRIED after

Da bread was straight THEN they had me..smart

Business all da way around. I know more about

Marriage then you think, hell da fact that i dont have

Kids living in da heightz & im almost 30 already tells

You that im not stupid knocking up a doof or

marrying a mooch. Im a only child so if you're with

ME i aint tryin to have a broad anchor down what

I got going on we bettering each other. 1+1= 2

 

[thadoctadvocate]

Ninjahood should marry ksteezy
Match made in DA heightz

 

[ninjahood]

The only thing I will agree with about Ninja's post is finances.

I believe finances are one of the top reasons why marriages don't work out.

yeah 70% of divorces are due to financial reasons

People let love cloud them from da fact that marriage

Is just as much business as it is everything else..if

That business isn't square biz then you already in

In da hole.

 

[younghollywood]

marriage throughout history has always been business in some way or form.  From families merging to form alliances, to dowries, to women wanting to move up in society back in the days.  And nowadays with wedding planners, hallmark, debeers, florists etc. making tons of $$$ from marriages.  

 

[ksteezy]

I'm not eem gonna bite the bait Ninja...have nothing to discuss with you on the matter bro, keep doing you.

 

[rrlegend]

I'm not eem gonna bite the bait Ninja...have nothing to discuss with you on the matter bro, keep doing you.

Steezy or any other married members how long were you and your girl toghter before engagement and marriage and any bumpy roads that are more bumpy than when y'all were dating ?

 

[finnns2003]

Jimmies gonna be rustled in here

 

[ksteezy]

Steezy or any other married members how long were you and your girl toghter before engagement and marriage and any bumpy roads that are more bumpy than when y'all were dating ?

7 years before engagement, 3 years engaged married after 10 years been married for going on 4, total of 14 years together....3 big breaks ups to explore and grow individually.

 

[Mark Antony]

Steezy or any other married members how long were you and your girl toghter before engagement and marriage and any bumpy roads that are more bumpy than when y'all were dating ?

7 years before engagement, 3 years engaged married after 10 years been married for going on 4, total of 14 years together....3 big breaks ups to explore and grow individually.

You're the new relationship inspiration bro. If ya'll divorce there is no hope left.

 

[ksteezy]

Lmfao thanks man

 

[NCtwin]

Yea and not telling you what to do but I would suggest if you want kids to wait til your wife's bringing in some income to do it

Yeah that would be ideal, the issue I'm a facing is that I'm now 31, we can't have kids naturally because I have a deficiency which won't get better with time and actually more expensive to achieve, good thing is I'm not rich but not really struggling financially and we have a great support system to help us through while she goes out and finishes should we end up pregnant now.

Sorry to hear that E. Have you ever thought of adoption??

Steezy or any other married members how long were you and your girl toghter before engagement and marriage and any bumpy roads that are more bumpy than when y'all were dating ?

7 years before engagement, 3 years engaged married after 10 years been married for going on 4, total of 14 years together....3 big breaks ups to explore and grow individually.

7 years before engagement, 7 months engaged right now, it'll be about 15 months total before married time starts.

 

[ksteezy]

Yeah adoption is a last resort, we gonna try at least 2 rounds of IVF

 

[rrlegend]

Sorry to hear that E. Have you ever thought of adoption??
7 before engagement, 7 months engaged right now, it'll be about 15 months total before married time starts.

7 years before engagement or 7 months ?

And bruh your probally gonna think a stalker or something but I Remeber u working at finish line at north lake and GameStop on panola road , I just have a good memory

 

[NCtwin]

Sorry to hear that E. Have you ever thought of adoption??
7 before engagement, 7 months engaged right now, it'll be about 15 months total before married time starts.

7 years before engagement or 7 months ?

And bruh your probally gonna think a stalker or something but I Remeber u working at finish line at north lake and GameStop on panola road , I just have a good memory

Yo! Who are you!!!

Seriously, hit me up.

I edited my post. 7 years.

 

[rrlegend]

Yo! Who are you!!!

Seriously, hit me up.

I edited my post. 7 years.

nobody important really just remeber we talked about niketalk at finishline when i copped the blk/silver low vi's and i ran into you a couple more times there , than i copped a ps3 from panola rd gamestop and we kicked it again used to have your gamer tag on my ps3 but thats long gone, i think the last  time we talked you were on  moving to cali. we met up actually met at eatzi's one time in bulkhead, atl the smallest biggest city 

 

[NCtwin]

Yo! Who are you!!!


Seriously, hit me up.


I edited my post. 7 years.

nobody important really just remeber we talked about niketalk at finishline when i copped the blk/silver low vi's and i ran into you a couple more times there , than i copped a ps3 from panola rd gamestop and we kicked it again used to have your gamer tag on my ps3 but thats long gone, i think the last  time we talked you were on  moving to cali. we met up actually met at eatzi's one time in bulkhead, atl the smallest biggest city 

My PS3 name is NCtwin. I'm still gaming, even though not as much. I'm also in Cali now too. This is crazy. You definitely sound familiar...

 

[DrizzyNYC]

Yeah adoption is a last resort, we gonna try at least 2 rounds of IVF

If I hear you get a divorce I will refuse to ever marry my girl....

 

[do work son]

me and my girl have talked about it, and neither of us are ready to get married until we're BOTH financially stable on our own. but yeah, dudes are underestimating genuinely enjoying your girl's company. don't get me wrong, i like going out and having drinks with friends. but now? i rather order a pizza, sit home with my girl, have drinks to ourselves and watch a movie. i guess i'm just wired differently than a lot of yall

 

[rrlegend]

me and my girl have talked about it, and neither of us are ready to get married until we're BOTH financially stable on our own. but yeah, dudes are underestimating genuinely enjoying your girl's company. don't get me wrong, i like going out and having drinks with friends. but now? i rather order a pizza, sit home with my girl, have drinks to ourselves and watch a movie. i guess i'm just wired differently than a lot of yall

thats all i want and what i need , just chilling at the house in sweat pants or jeans on a couch fondling under a blanket watching scandal or what ever comes out tuesday on iTunes with a dog roaming around and a kid trying to balance himself walking. soon