Cool. Am I supposed to be embarrassed? Because I’m not.
So you have nothing of value to say. Now we’re playing the gif game, huh? But don’t worry, I’m sure you’ll be getting the laughs you’re desperately looking for.
Peace.
Its Ok Fam - I've been wrong on Niketalk (and everywhere else) plenty of times - and will be again. Nothing personal.
According to psychologist, speaker and author Guy Winch, most people who consistently refuse to admit they're wrong do so because they have incredibly fragile egos. They clam up and insist they're right, demonstrating what experts term "psychological rigidity", as a defense mechanism.
Their subconscious feeling is that, if they dig in their heels, they can protect themselves from the consequences that might come from their imperfection and fallibility (e.g., being seen as weak, loss or retaliation). Winch also notes that some people go to extraordinary lengths in this process, even changing facts and convincing themselves of new realities in their own minds to escape culpability.
In this instance, if you want the person to admit they're wrong, your biggest job is to build them up. You have to convince them that infallibility isn't a sentence to isolation or something even worse.
- Point out as many successes as you can in practical, casual ways.
- Give them more opportunities to gain small wins they can feel good about.
- Offer compliments.
- Provide examples of when you were wrong yourself. Describe how you grew and the positive outcome that came from it.
- Be a friend. Listen, offer information, forgive and have integrity in your speech and behavior so that the wrongdoer learns they can trust you.
But there's another element that can come into play, too. Admitting you are wrong means that you are opening yourself to learning and changing yourself. In most cases, this is a great thing! But it is also work. It can be difficult to do all the introspective study it takes to grow, and some people would rather hunker down in their comfort zones than put in this extra effort. Here, your job is to convince them that the change, while not easy, is doable and worth the exertion.
- Ask them questions to get them thinking about what they believe and do. Paint a picture of better things that are possible.
- Model your expectation.
- Help them set small, achievable goals and provide rewards or positive feedback when they reach them.
- Set them up with others who can support them or help.
- Remove simple barriers to behavioral change, such as a lack of resources or an inflexible schedule.
- Point out all the benefits of coming clean with real-life examples of others who have seen gains. Talk openly about their struggles to admit their mistakes and shift, as well as your own.
Whether the wrongdoer has an ego problem or a too-much-work problem, aim to provide or improve all Six Sources of Influence. These include
- Personal motivation--internal drivers and desires; whether you want to do it (make the undesirable desirable),
- Social motivation--whether others encourage you to do something (peer pressure),
- Structural motivation--systemic setups that encourage you to prioritize one thing over another to reduce effort, gain reward or decrease risk (design rewards and demand accountability),
- Personal ability--whether you can do it based on skills or competence (surpass limits),
- Social ability--improving skills or competence through the modeling, resources or teaching from others (find strength in numbers), and
- Structural ability--systemic setups that make it logistically easier to complete a task or desirable behavior (a change in the environment).
If you can boost all six of these in kind ways (there are a number of key strategies for this), it will be much easier for the offending person to take the high road and admit they were wrong. Over time, they'll develop the new, good habit of always taking responsibility. And when they can do that, they're one critical step closer to the incredible leadership you want everyone on your team to have.
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No, but you're sounding mad for some reason. Should've just said it was your bad and moved on.
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Hombre really accused someone of being a Nazi supporter and when proven wrong, gets irate. Wild times.
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jpzx
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Ahhhh modern times
Never said such a thing. That just came out of your weird, lying mouth.
jpzx
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Pointing out in 2022 that MSG hosted a Nazi support rally a century earlier isn’t worth dampening down, worth pointing out, The More You Know 
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Sure. We are all making it up.
The gang mentality really makes you feel big, huh?
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Like how you felt when you were wrongly accusing people of being Nazi supporters only for it to backfire on you?
Never said such such a thing. That just came out of your weird, lying mouth.
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Sure.
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Cane in here thinking I would learn something.....
Learned nothing
Learned nothing
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Cane in here thinking I would learn something.....
Learned nothing
Superman didn't have the ability to fly until 5 years after he was first introduced
That's why his old saying was "able to leap tall buildings in a single bound"
MetalMario
formerly m4riol
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There’s only 8 species of bears and 2 species of elephants
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I scrolled past this in the thread & this video popped up in my algo a half hour later
MetalMario
formerly m4riol
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As for the elephants it’s literally just Asian elephant and African elephant.
This a shoe forum right? Well the queen of England has Been wearing the same shoes for 50yrs. It takes 4 people to make them and costs £1000 to make. they last a good amount of years each pair. A palace staff member also has to break them in for her. Wearing beige socks and only walking on carpet. These inspired the Gucci loafers
edit: shoe forum. oopz
This a shoe forum right? Well the queen of England has Been wearing the same shoes for 50yrs. It takes 4 people to make them and costs £1000 to make. they last a good amount of years each pair. A palace staff member also has to break them in for her. Wearing beige socks and only walking on carpet. These inspired the Gucci loafers
edit: shoe forum. oopz
MetalMario
formerly m4riol
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In the current Beijing Winter Olympics it is the first Games where 100% of the snow is artificial man-made. 49 million gallons of water; enough to fill 79 Olympic sized swimming pools were used.
It’s cold over and does snow but not enough for any event. Case in point the pic has some snow on the mountains
In case I lost something NT doesn’t have an Olympics thread but oh well lol
It’s cold over and does snow but not enough for any event. Case in point the pic has some snow on the mountains
In case I lost something NT doesn’t have an Olympics thread but oh well lol
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There's a thread in s&t section, a continuation of the summer olympics thread. Not much activity though.
Remy LeBeau
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Such a waste of water
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They do the same here in the states for some of the skiing resorts.
