Losing friendships with people after they have kids unappreciation

[Xennial]

Anyone else experience this with their friends or former friends that just seem to disappear after they have a kid or kids?  I have kids myself and never did that to anyone so I'm definitely feeling some type of way about this.  It's like I lose friends every time they have kids

 

[Sir San Diego]

The older you get the less "friends" you have OP. Just a part of life.

My friends are family. Dudes I grew up with and I can go months without speaking to, but when we talk, it's like we never skipped a day.

Bout to see one of my boys next week and get a fifth of crown when I go down south.

 

[Xennial]

The older you get the less "friends" you have OP. Just a part of life.

My friends are family. Dudes I grew up with and I can go months without speaking to, but when we talk, it's like we never skipped a day.

Bout to see one of my boys next week and get a fifth of crown when I go down south.

The thing is I'm not even that old, I'm 31.  I've heard that my whole life but just didn't think it'd happen to me or just never wanted to think that it would happen to me.  It sucks that I'm down to like 10 friends that I speak to everyday or close to everyday

 

[offbad]

kidnap their kids and hold them hostage until you get what you want.

 

[ryda421]

you should move to europe then since you/your friends could get days off to hang out

 

[shoefreakbaby]

The thing is I'm not even that old, I'm 31.  I've heard that my whole life but just didn't think it'd happen to me or just never wanted to think that it would happen to me.  It sucks that I'm down to like 10 friends that I speak to everyday or close to everyday

You got 10 friends and you complaining.



10 friends......
Speak everyday.....



must be nice

 

[Sir San Diego]

Bruh,

I don't think I've ever carried 10 friends at once. Maybe 6 max, but after that, I start forgetting ****** names, personalities and special abilities.

**** all that. You should tell some of them dudes to go raw so you can consolidate that list.

 

[Xennial]

The 10 friends left consist of both guys and girls, mostly guys but I'm not used to this.  I mean before I'd never have to use uber/lyft for a ride to the airport because I had so many friends someone was bound to be free to give me a ride.  These last couple of years it's not a guarantee anymore

 

[703 hwy]

Your kids live with you OP? You married?

 

[Xennial]

Your kids live with you OP? You married?

Not married, I live with my daughter and her mother.  I have 2 boys that live in another state 

 

[HEATHEN]

Your kids live with you OP? You married?

Big factor.

 

[flyeed]

My man tripping over having only 10 friends

I don't eem think in my peak I had 10 AIM friends I'd talk to everyday

 

[Xennial]

My man tripping over having only 10 friends

I don't eem think in my peak I had 10 AIM friends I'd talk to everyday

I'm serious though, just the fact that I have to use uber/lyft on occasion is crazy to me.  And that's 10 that I communicate with on a daily basis, I don't see them on a daily basis

 

[gentrification]

One of my better friends, just had a kid. The other just moved in with his girl. That leaves me with zero friends, I do have some hos though. Some. 

 

[tbreeze]

10... Brush you winning out here. I'd kill for 5.

 

[andretti]

10... Brush you winning out here. I'd kill for 5.

Foreal I got three

One in Cali and the other on his way to the navy

 

[Fong$tarr]

Man...for real. I currently have maybe 2 solid friends I hang with and it's cause of work. But one of my buddies wants kids soon and I know he will be gone after.

#TeamNotEnoughFriends

 

[6 Rings G.O.A.T.]

Hasn't happen to me yet..

 

[bravelude]

make ur kids ur friend, n ur wife ur best friend

 

[boris]

I don't have kids and I barely have time to do anything. 

 

[niketalker23]

I wouldnt even want more than like two close friends. At some point it becomes a burden. I got things to do, and hardly any free time. My free time is devoted to my girl pretty much.

 

[wayniac211]

make ur kids ur friend, n ur wife ur best friend

 

[36 ounces]

who gives a eff about about friends, if you mix...

...you know the rest.

 

[wj4]

Man...for real. I currently have maybe 2 solid friends I hang with and it's cause of work. But one of my buddies wants kids soon and I know he will be gone after.

#TeamNotEnoughFriends

It's funny. I thought I was the only one. I would think if I got married tomorrow I wouldn't even have a lot of people to invite.

All of my friends are spread out globally. Relocate for job, family, etc.

 

[11wordisbond]

Once you have kids, your family should be your priority. I'm 34 and married with 1 kid, and because I am extremely busy, I rarely kick it with my homeboys (all known for 25 plus years). Between the time I am at work, and the time caring for my daughter (the wife and I work opposite schedules), I barley have enough time for myself. By the time I get off work, it's too late to link up with cats (they work in the AM), and I gotta get up early every day for the for baby. My fam understands this, but when we link, it's still all love. For my homeboys with kids that I still hear are running around like they got no family, I just shake my head. IMO, real men put their family first, and handle business.