UPDATE So my girl said she doesn't want to have sex anymore until we are married... Need Advice

[nikekidwonder]

Originally Posted by sneakaprince

Originally Posted by mytmouse76

Do you really believe her faith is the reason OP?

If so you need to figure out if its as important to you as it is to her. She said you strengthen the both of your relationships with God. If thats not something thats important to you then you may need to break up. At 23 a year isn't even that long.

If you decided to stick it out just know that it will be rough.

She may just need to find someone else who is in the same place she is. She knows it won't be easy which is why she waited to she got in a relationship to decide to become celibate but thats just comes with the territory when you're abstaining.

Then there's the other side that she's already creepin.

So many people to reply to but I will start with u MyT
In all fairness my girl is actually a preachers kid... She grew up in the church. We met during the last couple weeks of my undergrad and truth be told I do feel like she is the one. I have lots of love for her and honestly I have never met a chick this down for me (and this is after a lot of fuggin around during college)...

My personal relationship with God isn't as strong and she knows that. I believe in God and I accept Jesus as my savior... There is alot I need to work on in my personal life and we have discussed that before. In truth I do plan to get right with God at some point but I can't front I never plan to become a holy roller that just aint my steez..  I love her but I have always told her overly religious people make me uncomfortable. The bible can be interpreted many different ways. I grew up in a variety of schools but I graduated from a Catholic High School so I do know my fair share about religion and I have developed my own personal beliefs I like to think that me and God are cool right now although I know I do a couple of things he may not always approve of on occasion.

And she swears its that whole she waited until she was in a relationship to become celibate because she was sure guys weren;t looking for that. This is by far my GFs most serious relationship and she would like to do this because she feels that we should do things right since I am her "future".

As for the cheating thing I doubt she is but no lie this did make me wonder if someone else is in her ear. When I told her how I felt and that I "may try" she was like now she is always gonna be worried bout me cheating.... And I had to hit her with the "aint this the pot calling the kettle black"

Thats called a bait and switch 
And she is very wrong for doing that 

And i feel like based on what you said she is pressuring you to marry her 

My advice is leave 

But if you decide to stay just remember you are about to give up years of sex and time for her so be 100% sure she is the right one for you.

 

[ohyeah10]

after reading the replies, she is definitely cheating dude. dead her asap

 

[ohyeah10]

after reading the replies, she is definitely cheating dude. dead her asap

 

[T0INE]

OP you have to decide if this girl is worth it, and if she is, you just have to abide by her wishes

Honestly if I was in your position I would be extremely skeptical.

Y'all are already a year in and she just does a complete 180 out of the blue like this?

Huge red flag imo, and like magnus said if she felt this way because of her beliefs she should've brought it up earlier in the relationship.

 

[T0INE]

OP you have to decide if this girl is worth it, and if she is, you just have to abide by her wishes

Honestly if I was in your position I would be extremely skeptical.

Y'all are already a year in and she just does a complete 180 out of the blue like this?

Huge red flag imo, and like magnus said if she felt this way because of her beliefs she should've brought it up earlier in the relationship.

 

[navyboy24]

Seems a bit odd as most said in here..

 

[navyboy24]

Seems a bit odd as most said in here..

 

[montellgriffin97]

To be honest, I've always wondered if I could maintain a relationship with a girl and
Not have sex for like 6 months, sometimes I fill like no matter how dope the women is
Her sex is the only thing keeping me around, not to add the need to have sex with new women
Every now and then which now a days chicks are cool with that cuz I guess they see me as a challenge
Which is ******ed since I'm never gonna settle for someone who just excepts any type of behavior out of there
Partner. Op if you love her try it out for a few months, but pay attention to her moves as much
As possible get yo skype on and learn yo girl, wifeys are hard to come by, no matter how easy that pyg
Thread makes it seem

 

[montellgriffin97]

To be honest, I've always wondered if I could maintain a relationship with a girl and
Not have sex for like 6 months, sometimes I fill like no matter how dope the women is
Her sex is the only thing keeping me around, not to add the need to have sex with new women
Every now and then which now a days chicks are cool with that cuz I guess they see me as a challenge
Which is ******ed since I'm never gonna settle for someone who just excepts any type of behavior out of there
Partner. Op if you love her try it out for a few months, but pay attention to her moves as much
As possible get yo skype on and learn yo girl, wifeys are hard to come by, no matter how easy that pyg
Thread makes it seem

 

[User 37837]

She's cheating. Delete her number and go smack at the 1st bad shorty you see.

 

[User 37837]

She's cheating. Delete her number and go smack at the 1st bad shorty you see.

 

[hendrix watermelon]

Blackmangus and nawth have given the best advice imho.

 

[richiecotite]

Originally Posted by NikeTalker23

Originally Posted by Nawth21

Originally Posted by NikeTalker23

No offense but she has the right to be selfish with her body. If she chooses to abstain from sex for religious purposes, or any reason for that matter, he has no choice but to respect her decision. At the end of the day it's her body and the door is always open for him to leave. 

Never said she didn't have the right, I'm just saying it's a BS move and God, if he is so against premarital sex, isn't going to fall for it. It's like giving a kid a piece of caking and taking it away half way through because all of a sudden sugar is bad. 

OR, she is pressuring him to commit to marriage in a round about way.  Either way, I'd bounce.  Long distance and no sex?

Why is it a BS move? Because it has to do with her religious beliefs? If he's a mature adult then he's to respect those beliefs and make a decision based on his own. It's pretty immature to say it's BS because she wants a closer relationship with god. 

It's a BS move because even though it's a long distance relationship and they're prolly not banging all that often, it significantly alters the relationship. Think sex isn't that big of a deal in a relationship? It is a huge factor  Imagine if OP respects her wishes, stays with her and faithful, then they're married a year later. I can almost guarantee she's gonna pull that BS again, except now he's married and stuck. 

 

[hendrix watermelon]

Blackmangus and nawth have given the best advice imho.

 

[richiecotite]

Originally Posted by NikeTalker23

Originally Posted by Nawth21

Originally Posted by NikeTalker23

No offense but she has the right to be selfish with her body. If she chooses to abstain from sex for religious purposes, or any reason for that matter, he has no choice but to respect her decision. At the end of the day it's her body and the door is always open for him to leave. 

Never said she didn't have the right, I'm just saying it's a BS move and God, if he is so against premarital sex, isn't going to fall for it. It's like giving a kid a piece of caking and taking it away half way through because all of a sudden sugar is bad. 

OR, she is pressuring him to commit to marriage in a round about way.  Either way, I'd bounce.  Long distance and no sex?

Why is it a BS move? Because it has to do with her religious beliefs? If he's a mature adult then he's to respect those beliefs and make a decision based on his own. It's pretty immature to say it's BS because she wants a closer relationship with god. 

It's a BS move because even though it's a long distance relationship and they're prolly not banging all that often, it significantly alters the relationship. Think sex isn't that big of a deal in a relationship? It is a huge factor  Imagine if OP respects her wishes, stays with her and faithful, then they're married a year later. I can almost guarantee she's gonna pull that BS again, except now he's married and stuck. 

 

[dutchmasterroller]

Just tell her your not strong enough... and she will either give in sooner or later or just break it off

 

[dutchmasterroller]

Just tell her your not strong enough... and she will either give in sooner or later or just break it off

 

[sneakaprince]

Originally Posted by Hendrix Watermelon

Blackmangus and nawth have given the best advice imho.

Nawth has brought up some pretty good points.....
The cheating this is hard for me to believe for now but I realize it could be a possibility (although I am extremely skeptical, after all what is a relationship without trust)

 

[sneakaprince]

Originally Posted by Hendrix Watermelon

Blackmangus and nawth have given the best advice imho.

Nawth has brought up some pretty good points.....
The cheating this is hard for me to believe for now but I realize it could be a possibility (although I am extremely skeptical, after all what is a relationship without trust)

 

[snaggykicks]

walk away op

 

[snaggykicks]

walk away op

 

[OrangeBlueGarden]

listen, talk with her truthfully and watch the hook meaning she could be lying. Since its a long distance relationship she could have perfected her lie to the T... how much is in your bank account?!? then sex shouldn't be as important to you. stay focused. sometime you cant bring your age back.

 

[OrangeBlueGarden]

listen, talk with her truthfully and watch the hook meaning she could be lying. Since its a long distance relationship she could have perfected her lie to the T... how much is in your bank account?!? then sex shouldn't be as important to you. stay focused. sometime you cant bring your age back.

 

[blackmagnus514]

It's a long distance relationship. You're only gonna see her periodically and when you're on the phone/im/tweeting/w.e you cant read her body language and everything like that.

 

[blackmagnus514]

It's a long distance relationship. You're only gonna see her periodically and when you're on the phone/im/tweeting/w.e you cant read her body language and everything like that.