what are the benefits for a man to get married?

[gllahone84]

So I'm suppose to overlook the fact that a married chick is throwing me the p?

A young, single fly dude gonna take it, and that's exactly what I do.

Not my fault they being sneaky and need new d in their life. 

 

[SoleByThePound]

 
So I'm suppose to overlook the fact that a married chick is throwing me the p?

A young, single fly dude gonna take it, and that's exactly what I do.

Not my fault they being sneaky and need new d in their life. 

Poetic justice would be the husband walking in on the both of you and ending your lives.

 

[gllahone84]

 
Poetic justice would be the husband walking in on the both of you and ending your lives.

Yeah, or we just get a hotel room for the weekend. 

She's suppose to be on a business trip...and he believes that. 

 

[youngdoc]

 
So I'm suppose to overlook the fact that a married chick is throwing me the p?

A young, single fly dude gonna take it, and that's exactly what I do.

Not my fault they being sneaky and need new d in their life. 

Poetic justice would be the husband walking in on the both of you and ending your lives.

NO

 

[gllahone84]

They get tired of the same old d just like dudes get tired of the same p...

Dudes come home and put in 15 mins max on the p...then hop on the game or watch a game...that's recipe for disaster. 

Plus that's wifey...females are mad sneaky. 

Ever wonder what she's daydreaming about when you take her out to those fancy restaurants?

You ever catch her staring off into space, completely oblivious to your spills on the stock market?

 

[younghollywood]

You probably know me well enough on here to know that I don't really care enough to have people like me by saying what's popular. I'm not even like that in day to day life. I just say how I feel and if someone doesn't like it, I don't lose any sleep.

And I'm the same way, don't care what others opinions are like I said I live by my rules.  It's cool that you shared your perspective and sometimes that's how it goes with certain dudes that get rich, I've been exposed to plenty and things all work out differently.  At the end of the day this is all internet message board discussion, I'm picking schools for my son for him to grow up and network with future captains of the industry.  We've all had different experiences growing up that shapes our different views.  

And you're gonna have problems whether ur rich or poor, that's just life and I've been said that.  I just rather be rich with problems.

 

[am1x90xnike]

While I don't disagree with gllahone84, that's not a life for me, I can't bring that Karma upon myself, already got to many things to answer for. You are an accomplice in the breaking of a contract, while in a strictly legal sense you have no responsibility, but a marriage is more than just a legal contract, whether you agree or not. In our society there is a sense of morality involved in a marriage. Now you can disagree with that moral code, but I can't. giving the D to some other dudes wife is inviting the universe to **** on your doorstep. Karma is a b.

That being said, today I can't agree with the notion marriage, it'd be better to not get marriage, no trust, these girls is joes, and divorce laws are heavily skewed, a good accountant and a good lawyer and you will  get all the same benefits of marriage, with or without a significant other. Marriage ain't for everyone, especially in 2013, I don't think I could ever get married. 

 

[younghollywood]

Side note...

See, that right there, I couldn't deal with. I'm constantly trying to take the emotion out of business. It's one of the things I struggle to deal with, regarding some women in our day to day business. I don't want to hear your problems, and I sure as hell don't want your problems to slow us down in any way. More power to you for finding that patience and balance, but I just can't deal with emotional/personality management when the reason we are here today is to make this money. I wouldn't last one week in running your management business, other businesses, sure, but that one, not a chance. I would have fired people...

Yeah that's why I said it's only a small a very small % of dudes that could do this, managing personalities is key to all talent managers, I got homies that manage artists and other entertainers and its the same thing for them.  Not even just crazy women either, but the male talent especially artists all have their issues.  Like I said before I'm not a genius with numbers and can't build fancy financial models like many ivy league mba grads but I know people, how to read and move them and in some industries that's more important.  I think forbes even did an article on how emotional intelligence could be more important than iq for business success.  

You have strengths in other areas though and it's good that you recognize that so you get into the industries that are more suited to them.  You've already said you're making big moves out there in South Africa so I know you on ya way to getting that house in Durban 

 

[youngdoc]

I do not believe in karma or the "morality" of marriage but I couldn't see myself messing with a married chick consistently. Rather not get involved in that drama

But a random club night somewhere like Vegas? Why not

 

[gllahone84]

No karma in that...because as an institution it varies across cultures, and just because it's accepted one way in America doesn't mean it's a universal standard. 

If I'm in Africa the entire notion changes. 

 

[johnnyredstorm]

Put karma aside, why would you mess with a chick that's willing to turn her back on her man? That kinda classlessness is the **** you stay away from if you wanna better yourself and society.

The purpose of marriage is the commitment, giving up what is around you so you can share yourself with your perfect mate.

 

[lordofcastamere]

Marriage is for females and beta males, it's actually a scientific/evolutionary behaviorist principle. An alpha male has NOTHING to gain from monogamy.

With that being said, I'm not completely opposed to it, but the woman has to be absolutely perfect in every way to even consider it.

Marriage which is actually distinct from monogamy is a human social construct, very few animal actually mate for life exclusively. Even animals considered monogamous may only mate with each other for a cycle, then move the hell on.

 

[Sir San Diego]

And I'm the same way, don't care what others opinions are like I said I live by my rules.  It's cool that you shared your perspective and sometimes that's how it goes with certain dudes that get rich, I've been exposed to plenty and things all work out differently.  At the end of the day this is all internet message board discussion, I'm picking schools for my son for him to grow up and network with future captains of the industry.  We've all had different experiences growing up that shapes our different views.  

And you're gonna have problems whether ur rich or poor, that's just life and I've been said that.  I just rather be rich with problems.

Of course man. I don't mean to imply that I have all the answers or that what I've seen is the norm. I just live my life and make judgments based on my experiences, like you do in yours.

I respect different opinions, I just live by my own and expect others to live by their own too. You gotta do what works for you when all is said and done.

 

[younghollywood]

This.


Also, on the monogamy is a social construct point. I'm not sure that's accurate. There's evidence out there that suggests that monogamy has some roots in human evolution, at least in hunter-gatherer societies. Basically, monogamy ensured survival of offspring in those sorts of societies. Polygyny wasn't completely whipped out though in societies where men could build up a surplus of resources. Take a look at this article to start: http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/0140175079900010

Perhaps, the take home message is that some people are more biologically suited for monogamy, while some are not.

I wouldn't say there's any empirical evidence there.  It's just theories from certain researchers.  I can pull up many more studies from researchers that would say monogamy is unnatural and invented as a social construct.  End of the day, if some parties choose monogamy that's on them but definitely not a rule for others

 

[gllahone84]

Put karma aside, why would you mess with a chick that's willing to turn her back on her man? That kinda classlessness is the **** you stay away from if you wanna better yourself and society.

The purpose of marriage is the commitment, giving up what is around you so you can share yourself with your perfect mate.

tbh we're not even suppose to be monogamous...that's not even a natural state of being. 

People are living a lie. 

 

[knowledgebones72]

Put karma aside, why would you mess with a chick that's willing to turn her back on her man? That kinda classlessness is the **** you stay away from if you wanna better yourself and society.


The purpose of marriage is the commitment, giving up what is around you so you can share yourself with your perfect mate.

tbh we're not even suppose to be monogamous...that's not even a natural state of being. 

People are living a lie. 

Hate to break it to you bruh but that's a completely made up notion.

Neither polygamy NOR monogamy are how humans are "meant to be"

Humans and other animals have been practicing both methods simultaneously since the beginning of time.

It's just a preference thing. Some people are monogamous, some are polygamous.

 

[gllahone84]

Hate to break it to you bruh but that's a completely made up notion.

Neither polygamy NOR monogamy are how humans are "meant to be"

Humans and other animals have been practicing both methods simultaneously since the beginning of time.

It's just a preference thing. Some people are monogamous, some are polygamous.

I respectfully disagree with you. 

 

[akhi]

Some of y'all are so anti social smh... Don't respect marriages? Every society has norms that are just understood, many of which you benefit from. Being selfish ain't cultural, it's just being plain selfish... OK marriage isn't for you, cool at least respect other people's unions. Don't give me all that relativism BS

 

[knowledgebones72]

Hate to break it to you bruh but that's a completely made up notion.


Neither polygamy NOR monogamy are how humans are "meant to be"

Humans and other animals have been practicing both methods simultaneously since the beginning of time.


It's just a preference thing. Some people are monogamous, some are polygamous.

I respectfully disagree with you. 

 

[x Buddha Bless x]

Family values out the door in this thread...borderline feel bad for some of you, may be all gravy now, hope that it remains that way 20 years from now.

Pretty much what this thread boils down to. How many of you grew up in broken homes to where y'all have this view on not only marriage, but monogamy in general?

Well I'm not sure everybody in here that are from broken homes are supporting the idea of having "broken homes" and vice versa for posters from a nuclear family.

Hate to break it to you bruh but that's a completely made up notion.


Neither polygamy NOR monogamy are how humans are "meant to be"

Humans and other animals have been practicing both methods simultaneously since the beginning of time.


It's just a preference thing. Some people are monogamous, some are polygamous.

I respectfully disagree with you.

The bold part is a fact though. It's documented in recorded history. It's still happening now actually.

 

[timbo109]

So I'm suppose to overlook the fact that a married chick is throwing me the p?

A young, single fly dude gonna take it, and that's exactly what I do.

Not my fault they being sneaky and need new d in their life. 

Yeah, or we just get a hotel room for the weekend. 

She's suppose to be on a business trip...and he believes that. 

You have that much trouble attracting women that you'd go to the trouble to book a hotel to have sex with a married woman?

Marriage is for females and beta males, it's actually a scientific/evolutionary behaviorist principle. An alpha male has NOTHING to gain from monogamy. :\



With that being said, I'm not completely opposed to it, but the woman has to be absolutely perfect in every way to even consider it.


Marriage which is actually distinct from monogamy is a human social construct, very few animal actually mate for life exclusively. Even animals considered monogamous may only mate with each other for a cycle, then move the hell on.

So because other animals aren't monogamous, humans certainly aren't predisposed to be? Oh really...
I'm actually interested in the evolutionary side of things so could you post some sources on your ideas?

I wouldn't say there's any empirical evidence there.  It's just theories from certain researchers.  I can pull up many more studies from researchers that would say monogamy is unnatural and invented as a social construct.  End of the day, if some parties choose monogamy that's on them but definitely not a rule for others

Can you post some of these studies? I'm genuinely interested in reading them.

 

[delete1234]

So wait...

a dude is meant to be polygamous but a girl is supposed to be monogamous?

 

[johnnyredstorm]

Being monogamous is about sacrifice and love. We may not be technically created to be in a one-on-one relationship, but if the commitment and sacrifice is made, the trust, loyalty and affection ought to be upheld. Or else, why bother being monogamous? Because you're too lonely and boring to live in solidarity for a portion of your day?

 

[fontaine]

been reading and i think there's too many extremes going around...

marriage = boring life, not doing anything, not having freedom...

no marriage = in the club, chasing young 22 year olds when you're 45... always on some player ****, never sleeping with the same woman twice...


yes, married people can have fun... and yes, non married people can have stability, companionship, all that other jazz... in their lives.

 

[younghollywood]

Can you post some of these studies? I'm genuinely interested in reading them.

http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/Content?oid=7781

http://www.cnn.com/2010/OPINION/07/27/ryan.promiscuity.normal/index.html

Here's a couple for now, I'm getting ready to go to the fight later tonight but I can send you more later next week if you'd like