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AntonLaVey wrote:
A point that needs to be made, it is very possible to not be married and raise children--I know people are divorced who are very civil around each other and understand the concept of that raising children is a cooperative effort despite not being together
The thread should be focused on the responsibility of raising your children not necessarily the need to stay married----the fact that you failed at marriage doesn't mean your kids should suffer for it
that sounds good in theory and should be this way. But to reiterate what i said earlier. For the most part it has been embedded in the mass majority of black women that raising kids involves the mother providing/tending to the emotional, discipline, stability, morality etc... aspect of parenthood, and the black man role is the monetary aspect of raising kids. Thats why child support fits in so perfect.
Again like stated previously you have been thought and brainwashed into to thinking a whole family doesnt include a father, due to events that happen in previous generations. The notion that black woman equates mother and father is rampant. The i dont need a man, and he is nothing more then a bonus, an accessory if you will. The sprinkles on a hot fudge sundae.
People tend not to value things they view as not of utmost importance, or relevancy. Its like you got a car and two of the lugnuts are missing from the rim. Will this affect the overall performance of the car? No it doesnt. Society in general has made the blackman nothing more then its nice but i can do just find without it. Add to that lack of accountability, and lack of repurcussions for said mindset. Statwise males without a father are highly more prone to detrimental lifestyles. But this again like i said earlier isnt something that is relevant, or utmost importance in the now, but will be in the later. The right now is im doing good i got this i just need this new car or this etc in the right now.
Its hard to co parent, because the keyword is co as in cooperate, seek medium, level terms. That isnt possible if you have this belief, not even your own but what society etc has told you, that you are not of equals because your special becuase of many black women did it on their own, im in a different social/educated/fiscal bracket then you are.
So its hard to go in half and half when one party feels their contribution is far more then yours. Its kinda like this nba lockout situation. The players feel 50/50 isnt far because they believe their contribution warrants them more of the pot. Thats how many, not all but a good majority of black women feel. So if you go into a situation 50/50 but feel it should be 70/30, and outside forces such as govt, judical system, dhr, society viewpoints, media etc... co-signs with you. 50/50 split isnt going to occur realistically.
Its like this in any other aspect of life. Is that lv purse any better quality then the coach? No one is made out of real leather and the other is synthetic and vinyl. Yet media society etc tells you its a better product and has more value, and seeing that its more relevant and emphasizes superiority, you go and buy that $800+ lv purse despite the fact quality etc... wise is far less then comparable to the coach bag thats $150. I mean i overstand it in some fascets of life, but when it come to love/relationships/family core values etc. Thats when i become puzzled.
Black woman are like the latest Jordans. Yea the stitching is off the glue is sloppy, the molding is is disfigured, and has serval imperfections, but hey they cost alot, and hold a certain social status and in others, outsiders are valued and regarded highly, morseo then the reebok that isnt flashy isnt highly regarded, and dont have that positive image, nor grandiosity stigma that those air jordans hold. So a trade off or the purchaser of the shoe, is a person who intent isnt which shoes best fits the specific task/job needed. Moreso which will put me at a status or depicated in a certain light, certainly isnt picking up those reeboks.