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this touched the soulOriginally Posted by Nawth21
It's hard as hell to find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. It really is. Limiting yourself just makes it that much harder. Or sometimes that person who you thought wasn't your type (because of race, religion, socio-economic background, etc) ends up being the other half of your essence. We don't plan for that, but it happens.
Celebrate love. Regardless of color or creed.
Is it because I don't live in the US or because I don't live in a predominantly black neighborhood that I just don't understand this logic? Why would I be mad if all the lovely black women exclusively dated non-black males? I'll just find a lovely woman of a different race, no?Originally Posted by JDocs
QFT. Like I said, if the shoe was on the other foot dudes would sing a different tune. Whenever we see a bad black chick with anything other than a black dude, what's the first thought that comes to mind? "I bet he ain't hitting that right." This is just a small example of how it goes both ways. We're just in an advantaged position.Originally Posted by RavageBX
We definitely would be... Hell I would argue that there are some black men who get upset when they see a beautiful black female with someone who isn't black.Originally Posted by RamZs8906
Originally Posted by Deuce King
On a related note, I wonder how many black men would feel if a large population of black women were out dating white men.
I'm quite sure "we" would be heated if this were to occur on a wide-scale basis.
Originally Posted by sooperhooper
date who you want to. People died for equality, don't put an asterisk next to it, limiting equality to everything but love.
You gotta look at the whole picture. What if non-black women did not generally find black men to be attractive? See that's the foregone conclusion, "I'll just date someone else." It's not that simple. Trust if this were the case black men would DEMAND loyalty from black women.Originally Posted by RavageBX
Is it because I don't live in the US or because I don't live in a predominantly black neighborhood that I just don't understand this logic? Why would I be mad if all the lovely black women exclusively dated non-black males? I'll just find a lovely woman of a different race, no?Originally Posted by JDocs
QFT. Like I said, if the shoe was on the other foot dudes would sing a different tune. Whenever we see a bad black chick with anything other than a black dude, what's the first thought that comes to mind? "I bet he ain't hitting that right." This is just a small example of how it goes both ways. We're just in an advantaged position.Originally Posted by RavageBX
We definitely would be... Hell I would argue that there are some black men who get upset when they see a beautiful black female with someone who isn't black.Originally Posted by RamZs8906
Originally Posted by Deuce King
On a related note, I wonder how many black men would feel if a large population of black women were out dating white men.
I'm quite sure "we" would be heated if this were to occur on a wide-scale basis.
I guess what I really don't get is why it is so important for these black women to find black men to settle down with.Or I'm just NOT getting it at all, but I've asked numerous times for someone to explain itI've even read all the responses until now and I just don't get it.
Originally Posted by RamZs8906
Pick a side my dude.Originally Posted by OptimusPrimeAPhiA
RamZs8906 wrote:
I don't necessarily think thats the issue. I think its more along the fact that black women want to be with successful (not necessarily athletes or entertainers) black men when many of us are not that. Now to be honest, I believe some of the issue with black women is that their scope of what is a good black man is skewed because the only black men that society and other women pay attention to are the ones with their names up in lights. And to be honest if some black women would equate a good man by his deeds and not by the fantasy life they want to live of marrying a successful black man whose making 6 figures, things would be a lot better when it comes to this topic. I understand Jill Scott's stance, but that doesn't apply for ALL black women. Black women don't get mad if it is a black man who is doing nothing with his life messing with a white woman, but the fact that many successful black men are being bXtches when it comes to relationships and don't want anything that will challenge them and expect relationships to be easy isn't not helping the issue.
I agree with the the green and disagree with the red.
We need to address this attitude situation honestly...I will honestly say that while I'm not looking for a push-over by any means, a lot of women are overly aggressive for no reason almost to the point of destroying relationships. Being a complement to your nature is different from being a conflict to your character in a relationship.
Originally Posted by RavageBX
I stopped reading after you said I never been in an interracial relationship. Wrong, try again dunny. Then I read a little more. 300+ women bedded? Handsome B WonderfulDude who got nexted? Yeah, I'm all set on your opinion thx.
Her statement had nothing to do with her being racist, sorry you feel that way. I suggest you re-read one of her sentences again, here it is for you..........."One could easily dispel the wince as racist or separatist, but that’s not how I was brought up." Just because you want to keep something in the family or within "the circle" so to speak doesn't make you a racist. The situation right now is that alot of black males tend to shun themselves from black women once that get to a certain point in life, I'm not just talking about famous athletes either, I'm talking about the every day common black man. "We" at times tend to think that maybe we're better than black women or that they are not worthy of our company. That may or may not have been the case with Jill Scott's male friend but her statement was a broad viewpoint of how many black women feel about "us" in this day and age. We exclude black women for whatever reason, thus leaving them behind.Originally Posted by Roc Boy Jada
Originally Posted by Deuce King
Indeed. People in here are completely missing the point and writting off what Jill Scott is saying by calling her fat and talking about her acting skills or what have you.Originally Posted by Im Not You
As expected...many of you will either 1) not understand or 2) ignore the point of her message and just pass her off as a jealous racist black woman.
Someone please explain how people are misinterpreting her comments. She was disheartened to learn that her friend was marrying a white woman. How is that anything but racist?
If this were a story about, say, the parents of a white girl who were upset because they learned she had a black boyfriend, the responses would have been, "Yep, yep, that's how they look at us, #!#% never changes," "White people not liking us, what's new?" and a bunch of extra crap about how evil white people are. But no, this broad gets a pass for being racist.
Why was this broad making references to slavery, anyway? Like, really? Using historical events from times you weren't around to see, to defend your racist sentiments?
Your internet tough guy routine got played out a long time ago.Originally Posted by ChampionEdition
come see me next time you in LA. i wanna talk with you.
Originally Posted by Nike Star Jay
Funny she prefaces by saying she's not racist nor a separatist, but if anything
Yes, the days of slavery are long past, but this view of black womenas less desirable, less beautiful, less feminine and less valuable thanwhite women persists. It is illustrated by the women who are featuredon mainstream magazine covers…and those who are not (Vanity Fair anyone?).It is confirmed by the missing and exploited women that are covered24/7 on cable news…and those who are not. It is underscored bystatistics that reveal who is likely to marry…and who is not.
Black men are not immune to the message that black women are “lessthan.
Originally Posted by P MAC ONE
I really don't have a problem with interracial relationships.
That said, from a black woman's perspective I completely understand the sting they may feel when successful black men go for white women.
As for myself, I could see "dating" a white girl but when it comes time to find a wifey I need someone with a fatty who can cook and that pretty much eliminates white girls.
Originally Posted by Dirtylicious
Yes, the days of slavery are long past, but this view of black women as less desirable, less beautiful, less feminine and less valuable than white women persists. It is illustrated by the women who are featured on mainstream magazine covers…and those who are not (Vanity Fair anyone?). It is confirmed by the missing and exploited women that are covered 24/7 on cable news…and those who are not. It is underscored by statistics that reveal who is likely to marry…and who is not.
Black men are not immune to the message that black women are “less than.
Originally Posted by nycknicks105
Originally Posted by Nawth21
It's hard as hell to find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. It really is. Limiting yourself just makes it that much harder. Or sometimes that person who you thought wasn't your type (because of race, religion, socio-economic background, etc) ends up being the other half of your essence. We don't plan for that, but it happens.
Celebrate love. Regardless of color or creed.
"GO BACK TO THE DRAWING BOARD"Originally Posted by KanyeBreast
Originally Posted by P MAC ONE
I really don't have a problem with interracial relationships.
That said, from a black woman's perspective I completely understand the sting they may feel when successful black men go for white women.
As for myself, I could see "dating" a white girl but when it comes time to find a wifey I need someone with a fatty who can cook and that pretty much eliminates white girls.
bro u serious? welcome to this generation white girls these days will cook, clean your piece upon your arrival home from work, and have some dinner ready...you sir have the game all wrong...a black girl will hit u with the "im tired" "what you pull that out for"...go back to the drawing board
http://blog.okcupid.com/i...r-people-write-you-back/Originally Posted by Nike Star Jay
That's interesting, Dirty. What site did those percentages come from?
GettumMike wrote:
KanyeBreast wrote:
Originally Posted by P MAC ONE
I really don't have a problem with interracial relationships.
That said, from a black woman's perspective I completely understand the sting they may feel when successful black men go for white women.
As for myself, I could see "dating" a white girl but when it comes time to find a wifey I need someone with a fatty who can cook and that pretty much eliminates white girls.
bro u serious? welcome to this generation white girls these days will cook, clean your piece upon your arrival home from work, and have some dinner ready...you sir have the game all wrong...a black girl will hit u with the "im tired" "what you pull that out for"...go back to the drawing board
I love being a black male but some of the things black men and women say make me cringe.
Thats the real bite that, no matter with what ointment, still hasnt gone away.
Just as there are different shades of black, there are different sets of black mentallity.
You just have to make sure you express and surround youself with the right one.
It's wrong, it's hindering and at times embarassing to see a closed minded mentallity in any race or group.
But as with many things in society, there will always be those who prefer to be stuck and not progress becasue thats what is most comfortable to them.
It's almost impossible for those types to get the "wake up call" because their eyes aren't open to see it.
Toodles to them.