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i thought you was a brotha for the longestOriginally Posted by DJprestige21
I'm white.
Just last December at this christmas party. Now this was an upscale party in Los Angeles with a predominately white demographic. My old neighbor invited me and despite me being cool with her (smashed out a couple times) she is definitely somewhat of the stereotypical snobby white girl (UCLA, sorority, works at an upscale women's clothing store). The part is semi-Formal attire, people walking around serving appetizers and champagne on trays. A couple celebrities were there as well.
So since I haven't seen my neighbor in a while I decide to bring a date with me and I even RSVP'd as +1. The girl I bring was a chick I was talking to at the time who is a black girl. Now this wasn't your stereotypical black girl, she goes to Spelman, comes from a well off family, has amazing manners with virtually no "hood" in her, and is an absolute dime with an amazing fashion sense. Knowing the pretenses of the type of people that are going to be at the party I decide that this was not going to be an issue at all to bring her.
I was wrong.
Now I'm a pretty sociable dude and have a fairly simple time making friends with people along the lines of the party because I attend a very prestigious university myself. Through this I'm invited to dinners and other social events where very upscale rich alumi are present in order to upgrade my social networking.
The minute I walk into the party and am seen with my chick at the time I am just given this vibe like I don't belong there. Even though people were talking to us I'd say a good 60% seemed like they were trying to shrug us aside and generally tried to hurry out of the conversation or they would just appear extremely fake in conversation trying to act like they were extremely interested when you just knew they were being fake. Although no one was saying anything blatant you could just feel people were uncomfortable with her being there with me and its like I was now associated with her as "the guy who brought the black girl". She wasn't even the only black person there. We had a good time despite this as not everyone was giving us this vibe but it just had me shook that I was experiencing what it is like to be black at an upscale party through association. Straight up it was like I was instantly at a disadvantage among the people there and I had to work that much harder to gain the approval of the people around us.
I never really mentioned it to her but I dwelled on it for some time.
Ever since then I've had a newfound respect for black people trying to make it in this society.