LDJ wrote:
Yea thats true but if you are around nothing but ppl who promote this type of behavior, alot of times these dudes become products of their environment. Add that with low self-esteem, outside pressures, hormones, and wanting to be social accepted. Then finnacial status plays a big role as well. Alot of these guys especially in the single mom dept. they mom tries to provide all of these worldly possessions, to make up for the fact that they ran the daddy off and/or he is a deadbeat, or/and to do this whole i want you to have all the things I never had trip. So then you have a guy with everything he wants, money in his pocket, low self-esteem, a mindframe from a woman who has lead him to overvalue womens worth, and is horny and desperate. Since he has no game/confidence etc to pull the chick, the only other means he has to get the chick is money.
Then add to the fact he grew up with a person struggling, and lacking a man to help, and all these lipstick alley type chicks who drop bugs in his ear about a man should do this that and the other. So then he sees the chick and thinks of all those instances, life examples, etc and therefore he is trying to right the so call wrongs he was lead to believe by his single mom and other outside sources.
I aint saying chivalry is dead, but the main issues are over-evaluatingvaluation women. Not to degrade woman like cars, but to many dudes spending treating woman like s class mercedes, but really have the value of a mercury marquis. And also just going offa external things like looks etc.
Alot of what LDJ has written is the truth. I for one was raised by a single mother...but she never put forth that I should treat women on a pedestal. She herself told me to never get married and be a bachelor for the rest of my life because she knows first hand that marriage wasn't where it was for her. I can def co-sign with the money thing...that's how I used to be in H.S. but I wised up quick. No matter how much money you have it will NEVER replace confidence in one's self and high self-esteem. You should wake up everyday confident in your role as a human being.
BUT don't get so cocky as to disrespect women by de-valuating them. Because that just makes it that much harder for the next man to face. If need be...put her +%% in her place and after your done get on with your life. Don't play into the vicious cycle of degrading someone. Realize all the outcomes that happen to you of are your own doing.
Really i keep seeing alot of the young cats hooking up with these "hard luck oes". The ones who never point the finger at the person in the mirror and do self evaulation as to why they life is in shambles/turmoil. Why is it that they keep so call getting these not "real men" Why do every guy they talk to or relationship they enter follow the same path/course? The ones who time and time again take 3 steps foward and end up 4 steps back.
That or the ones who think because they have the looks etc... it outweights all the other factors like personality, humility, intellect, hard-working, domesticated skills, etc...
And there is always the dillusional chick, sometimes its the i know i got multi baby daddies and got a lil pudgy but not really i still look good i get guys to holla at me all the time. Im so i n d e pent. I got my own spot (govt asst). I got my own job (govt asst+ ppl feeling sorry for them cause having so many kids) I really aint got to many assets as a person, nor as far as possessions of value because everything i own is things with no value at all (clothes etc..) or depreciate in value (furniture etc high end purses etc).
The sad part is that alot of these chics run into so many tricks/marks/lames etc that they have inflated egos and not in touch with who they are and are really hiding behind this over-evaluation of themselves they just seek suckers to keep them going. And alot of these dudes who had the single mom/trick of a dad grew up in that emotional hurt,attentioned deprived, etc environment. So in kinda is like the want to right the wrongs of what they percieve happen to there moms (this is subconciously of course). So they go looking to be the savior of the damsel in distress guy.
Sad thing is most of these chicks are so far gone and cant be saved, and if so its gonna take a guy who is trill, and almost be like a father figure to them and not pacify/cater to their flaws and insecurities, but rather expose them and get them out of that habit, and build them up make them stronger.
But the thing is not to compare woman to dogs but as time progress it becomes harder and harder to get them out of those ways and it just becomes a facet of there life. Just like trying to domesticate a 10 yr old dog who lived outdoors all of his life. Not gonna be as easy to get him not to pee on the floor etc, chew on shoes rip furniture. As it would be a dog that maybe a feew months old a yr old or so.
Then you have those guys who dont think they are good enough or worthy of aa decent good woman so they just lowball themselves to low class bottom of the barrel type chicks.