Why Are So Many Successful Black Women Unmarried?

[airmissionretro]

Originally Posted by Dathbgboy

Originally Posted by ninjahood

whoa whoa whoa...everyone PLEASE tune to 4:25 part of da video...THATS why girls can't get guys

they TOO chicken to be da aggressor....did u see her face when da other girl ask why she ain't ask for his number? it looked like someone asked her to do porno

or something.

No, it's just that a respectable woman doesn't ask for a mans number. That's just another thing of society. Seriously, how do u feel about the girls that pursue u and ask for ya math?

That all depends....

 

[nyota de la star]

Originally Posted by Dathbgboy

Originally Posted by ninjahood

whoa whoa whoa...everyone PLEASE tune to 4:25 part of da video...THATS why girls can't get guys

they TOO chicken to be da aggressor....did u see her face when da other girl ask why she ain't ask for his number? it looked like someone asked her to do porno

or something.

No, it's just that a respectable woman doesn't ask for a mans number. That's just another thing of society. Seriously, how do u feel about the girls that pursue u and ask for ya math?

Yea man. I thought these NT guys were all about gender roles. Isn't the guy supposed to ask for the #

 

[born tuesday]

Originally Posted by I Drink Your Milkshake

Originally Posted by The Black James Bond

Originally Posted by I Drink Your Milkshake

Originally Posted by airmissionretro

I Drink Your Milkshake wrote:

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Crazy EBW wrote:

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ninjahood wrote:

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So da real question is why aren't successful black women men attracted to successful




Black men women & vice versa?

Even though I literally hate that you use "da" you right on this one.

fixed...




cuz I ain't met NARE chick say "what is wrong with that successful black man!?"

Don't nobody love black men more than a black woman--whether or not it is in her/our
best interest. Look at these dam songs we got about praising and trying to uplift black men.

ok...i exaggerated, cuz only three come to mind (Brother-angie stone, brother-jill scott, brown skin-india arie)

none of those songs have the cultural impact that a Beyonce record does though. They largely go under the radar. It's unfortunate.

angie stone's brother was all over the place....

and did the men in the r&b world reciprocate?

NAH.


"Soul Sister" maybe?

 

[capricorn1229]

Originally Posted by Nyota de la star

Originally Posted by Dathbgboy

Originally Posted by ninjahood

whoa whoa whoa...everyone PLEASE tune to 4:25 part of da video...THATS why girls can't get guys

they TOO chicken to be da aggressor....did u see her face when da other girl ask why she ain't ask for his number? it looked like someone asked her to do porno

or something.

No, it's just that a respectable woman doesn't ask for a mans number. That's just another thing of society. Seriously, how do u feel about the girls that pursue u and ask for ya math?

Yea man. I thought these NT guys were all about gender roles. Isn't the guy supposed to ask for the #

Yes they are. The lazy ones like ninjahood who aren't even black to hear him tell it have the Dominican mamacitas bending over don't havethis problem so I don't even know why he is in here. He is always somewhere he doesn't belong giving his .02.

 

[nyota de la star]

 

[ruxxx]

^To me,if a woman is on some "strong" and "independent" and "don't need nobody for nothin'" type of rhythm,then sheshould damn sure be able to request the digits from a cat that she's interested in!

 

[datznasty]

Well black dudes put out more songs !#+*@+## on black women than vice versa. It's basically the foundation of an entire genre really. These topics alwayscrack me up since black women as a whole are more successful than black men but men got this aura like their %$#% don't stink where they're alwaystalking them down like they're too good; %%!#!* live in 9 x 9 square foot apartments and work at Macy's talking bout how they can't mess with anyblack woman unless she's this, that, and the other and passes all these benchmarks like they're a real catch

But this one hasn't been as bad as past ones.

 

[juju]

Originally Posted by cocolicious

Originally Posted by DCAllAmerican

And also, like I mentioned to CoCoLicious in the past, MANY women think all they have to bring to the table is SEX. They think they don't have to cook, clean, or any other things that we TRADITIONALLY think women should do. And some of them don't even WANT to learn. "I ain't cookin for no &@&*! he can get his mother to cook."

Why the hell are you bringing me up?! I never said those things so get it straight. I said i would rather show my appreciation by giving a massages or sexual acts then to make a meal for my "husband". Never said anything else you mentioned.

and btw I'm not black.

this chick tried to argue that DC is a liar by stating exactly what he said back. how is id rather S a D than cook a pork chop diff from thinking sex isenough? some times a dood wants a pork chop.

 

[memphisboi55]

Originally Posted by bluedeniro

Originally Posted by DatZNasty

Successful black dudes think they're too good for black women and successful black women think they're too good for black dudes.

negative successful black men are usually with women that are either A.broke/grinding B.college GF C. women who are very supportive/nurturers D. or just all out fine/dimes some are successful some not

^
That don't mean their black lol.

 

[north dade represent]

Originally Posted by Dathbgboy

No, it's just that a respectable woman doesn't ask for a mans number. That's just another thing of society. Seriously, how do u feel about the girls that pursue u and ask for ya math?

Are you serious. How is a woman who asks a man out "not respectable"? To me it's logical for the woman to spit, since more thanlikely she is going to get what she wants if she's good looking. Some girls just are tired of dealing only with the dudes that holler at them, anddon't mind pursuing the guys they really want. Especially girls with really high standards like these broads. Like I said in my previous post, in Atlanta,a good looking succesful guy is probably going to overlook these chicks cause them cats are going after models and video honeys. These career broads probablycould do better in the game if they initiate, if their steelo was official (which it isn't).

Another point to mention, is that who's to say these chicks don't have wack personalities. Most of the professional black women I know are bland,boring, and mad corny. Why I would want to wife that, unless shorty got DD's or a phatty.

 

[airmissionretro]

Originally Posted by North Dade Represent

Originally Posted by Dathbgboy

No, it's just that a respectable woman doesn't ask for a mans number. That's just another thing of society. Seriously, how do u feel about the girls that pursue u and ask for ya math?

Are you serious. How is a woman who asks a man out "not respectable"? To me it's logical for the woman to spit, since more than likely she is going to get what she wants if she's good looking. Some girls just are tired of dealing only with the dudes that holler at them, and don't mind pursuing the guys they really want. Especially girls with really high standards like these broads. Like I said in my previous post, in Atlanta, a good looking succesful guy is probably going to overlook these chicks cause them cats are going after models and video honeys. These career broads probably could do better in the game if they initiate, if their steelo was official (which it isn't).

Another point to mention, is that who's to say these chicks don't have wack personalities. Most of the professional black women I know are bland, boring, and mad corny. Why I would want to wife that, unless shorty got DD's or a phatty.

Two good points. Thats why this topic is so subjective. There is a lot of factors and variables involved when it comes down to subjects like these.

Too many variables...

 

[memphisboi55]

So a woman who asks a guy for his phone number isn't respectable?
I'm going to look down on her if we continue a long term relationship cause she asked me for my number?

 

[nyota de la star]

Originally Posted by Nike Star Jay

Originally Posted by Dathbgboy

No, it's just that a respectable woman doesn't ask for a mans number. That's just another thing of society. Seriously, how do u feel about the girls that pursue u and ask for ya math?

What's not respectable about a woman asking for a man's number?

Gender roles...remember. The man must always pursue

 

[airmissionretro]

In this day and age gender roles are becoming more evenly played out....the subject of this post is a prime example of this.

 

[agent0024]

Selfish, too many expectations, watch too much "housewives of atlanta" and listen to too much Beyonce and all that crap....

They want a man to be their doormat, but still be strong and successful.

What strong and successful man wants to be a doormat to somebody????

I'm speaking from personal experience with successful Blacc women, but I'm only 26 and successful to me is in college or graduated, working with ownresidence and vehicle, no kids or just one... I'm not old enough (or successful enough

) yet to speak on women who have grown kids or teens, own their homes, ownbusinesses and stuff like that....

 

[capricorn1229]

Originally Posted by airmissionretro

In this day and age gender roles are becoming more evenly played out....the subject of this post is a prime example of this.

And your okay with that? Since when?

 

[metrokid26]

Originally Posted by jimmybeanz

Originally Posted by Nike Star Jay

A combination of high unrealistic standards and a slim choice of options.

fixed. for a woman to say she will only date dudes that are 6'4 or better (and other dumb chit like that) is ridiculous. too many people are getting "standards" confused with "preferences".

That's all it is really
they feel that they have done everything to be the epitome for success, so their "significant other" needs to be as good or better than her
and facing facts...that's obviously not the case for a lot of us black males, so that leaves so many characteristically enriched, yet unqualified (due totheir lack of reaching the unrealistic standards) dudes in the black


and that girl who was talking to the white guy in the Restaurant was dumb, if you liked the guy, and you thought you were "clicking", why didn'tyou get the number? in fact...why even bring it up if you aint even go for it?

 

[frostythepoptart]

Originally Posted by Nyota de la star

Originally Posted by Nike Star Jay

Originally Posted by Dathbgboy

No, it's just that a respectable woman doesn't ask for a mans number. That's just another thing of society. Seriously, how do u feel about the girls that pursue u and ask for ya math?

What's not respectable about a woman asking for a man's number?

Gender roles...remember. The man must always pursue

i dunno if you're referring to previous threads but...

guys can and do learn how to cook. and nothing wrong with a dude throwing down a meal once a week ro every now and then. its a nice change similar to a girlstepping out of the mold and asking for a number. what bad could possibly happen.

btw girls DO ask for numbers all the time. but they do it slick cause society says they cant.

aka grabbing your phone and putting their number in it if you dont ask.

 

[airmissionretro]

Originally Posted by Capricorn1229

Originally Posted by airmissionretro

In this day and age gender roles are becoming more evenly played out....the subject of this post is a prime example of this.

And your okay with that? Since when?

this dosen't have nothing with me, you, or the next person being okay (or not okay) with it, this is becoming the norm in society right now, especially inwestern society.

 

[ruxxx]

^^Agent0024,you're definitely touching on a great point about these te(LIE)vision shows and certain artists and their songs.People underestimate the powerof that $#!? and what kind of messages they're really sending!Some (not all) women take that foolishness to heart and base their "expectations"and "standards" solely on that without even realizing it!

 

[rko2004]

Pride and foolishness will keep you from a lot of things in life.

 

[airmissionretro]

Originally Posted by RKO2004

Pride and foolishness will keep you from a lot of things in life.

and too much of it can do harm...physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

 

[homerxxi]

they unmarried cuz all mens poop stinks like crazy and they think their poop stinks like flowers,when in reality they poop stinks worst then all men

 

[i drink your milkshake]

Originally Posted by Born Tuesday

Originally Posted by I Drink Your Milkshake

Originally Posted by The Black James Bond

Originally Posted by I Drink Your Milkshake

Originally Posted by airmissionretro

I Drink Your Milkshake wrote:

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Crazy EBW wrote:

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ninjahood wrote:

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So da real question is why aren't successful black women men attracted to successful




Black men women & vice versa?

Even though I literally hate that you use "da" you right on this one.

fixed...




cuz I ain't met NARE chick say "what is wrong with that successful black man!?"

Don't nobody love black men more than a black woman--whether or not it is in her/our
best interest. Look at these dam songs we got about praising and trying to uplift black men.

ok...i exaggerated, cuz only three come to mind (Brother-angie stone, brother-jill scott, brown skin-india arie)

none of those songs have the cultural impact that a Beyonce record does though. They largely go under the radar. It's unfortunate.

angie stone's brother was all over the place....

and did the men in the r&b world reciprocate?

NAH.


"Soul Sister" maybe?


soul sista was a romantically inspired song....save for 'brown skin', the other two were PURELY about uplifting the black man, not from aromantic standpoint.


although I desperately wanna be someone's soul sister

 

[memphisboi55]