Why Are So Many Successful Black Women Unmarried?

[cobra kai]

because they're over 21 and don't wear sneakers.

succesful black women are too quick to throw their success in the face of a man, and then if it aint working that be the reason.

every man aint threatened by a womans success. some are just turned off.

 

[i drink your milkshake]

Originally Posted by airmissionretro

Originally Posted by I Drink Your Milkshake

Originally Posted by Crazy EBW

Originally Posted by ninjahood

So da real question is why aren't successful black women men attracted to successful

Black men women & vice versa?

Even though I literally hate that you use "da" you right on this one.

fixed...

cuz I ain't met NARE chick say "what is wrong with that successful black man!?"

Don't nobody love black men more than a black woman--whether or not it is in her/our best interest. Look at these dam songs we got about praising and trying to uplift black men.

ok...i exaggerated, cuz only three come to mind (Brother-angie stone, brother-jill scott, brown skin-india arie)

 

[the black james bond]

Originally Posted by I Drink Your Milkshake

Originally Posted by airmissionretro

I Drink Your Milkshake wrote:

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Crazy EBW wrote:

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ninjahood wrote:

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So da real question is why aren't successful black women men attracted to successful




Black men women & vice versa?

Even though I literally hate that you use "da" you right on this one.

fixed...




cuz I ain't met NARE chick say "what is wrong with that successful black man!?"

Don't nobody love black men more than a black woman--whether or not it is in her/our
best interest. Look at these dam songs we got about praising and trying to uplift black men.

ok...i exaggerated, cuz only three come to mind (Brother-angie stone, brother-jill scott, brown skin-india arie)

none of those songs have the cultural impact that a Beyonce record does though. They largely go under the radar. It's unfortunate.

 

[bluedeniro]

Originally Posted by Capricorn1229

Originally Posted by bluedeniro

Originally Posted by DatZNasty

Successful black dudes think they're too good for black women and successful black women think they're too good for black dudes.

negative successful black men are usually with women that are either A.broke/grinding B.college GF C. women who are very supportive/nurturers D. or just all out fine/dimes some are successful some not

What's your personal definition of a successful black man?

As a black man who dates college and working black women ages 18-26 i can tell that these women are never going to get married
i always laugh when i see chicks claiming that this dude is they hubby and dudes saying thats wifey. I for one know that i will be able to get
married without a problem. we should all have standards my standards are for women in general not just a black woman so there-for my options are bigger and wider and the amount of women i have to choose from are all across the globe. Black women are gonna be singles ladies for another decade with their high standards for American Black Men

they need to stop kidding themselves and get to traveling

Are you a successful black man? I must ask this before I start.

a successful black man is any one that has his own home whether rental or mortgage preferable mortgage , a job/or own business and whether single or in arelationship is mature and financially stable enough to potentially support a wife and any children.

 

[i drink your milkshake]

Originally Posted by The Black James Bond

Originally Posted by I Drink Your Milkshake

Originally Posted by airmissionretro

I Drink Your Milkshake wrote:

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Crazy EBW wrote:

---

ninjahood wrote:

---

So da real question is why aren't successful black women men attracted to successful




Black men women & vice versa?

Even though I literally hate that you use "da" you right on this one.

fixed...




cuz I ain't met NARE chick say "what is wrong with that successful black man!?"

Don't nobody love black men more than a black woman--whether or not it is in her/our
best interest. Look at these dam songs we got about praising and trying to uplift black men.

ok...i exaggerated, cuz only three come to mind (Brother-angie stone, brother-jill scott, brown skin-india arie)

none of those songs have the cultural impact that a Beyonce record does though. They largely go under the radar. It's unfortunate.

angie stone's brother was all over the place....

and did the men in the r&b world reciprocate?

NAH.

 

[T0INE]

This thread was a good read, lots of knowledge dropped in here.

As for the women in the video I have no problem with them wanting to be with someone on their level. When it comes to matters of the heart you should neversettle, but some of their "standards" are just unreasonable and because of these "standards" more often than not some good men areoverlooked.

FTR. all those women in the video are bad too.

 

[southsidechi773]

Originally Posted by ninjahood

Originally Posted by haiti5

because many black successful women either A. date complete trash (they get some good D and cant stop) or B. have an extreme elitist attitude which even many successful black men wouldnt want to deal with

I think what we grow up around plays a huge part in this.I going to assume that a lot of these Women grew up just like I did,because lets betruthful a lot of Men and Women in the "Black Community" did not grow up in ideal households and very few of us are born into generational wealth.

And what they are attracted to and what is good for them are two different things unfortunately.Just like me,I grew up around a lot of "Hoodrats" andlackluster females,but I assumed that this was the norm,until I started to observe my surroundings and found out how a Woman are supposed to act and carryherself.

The sad thing about these stories is that they know what they have to do and I don't mean settle for anything.But I can tell subconsciously that they havelittle to no respect for Black Men,especially when we have had an Maternal/Black Church led community for the last 40 years and the whole "Black Menain't ____" is a very profitable business even in this day and age.

Also to play off some of what Tariq Nasheed has said in his podcast, things don't become better for Men until later on in life,especially if you are aBlack Man,not too many like the idea of a Black Men in a authoritve position either it be the household or in a corporate position...some can't even getjobs I learned from a thread that was posted a few weeks about Black Ivy League graduates that had to trick employers into believing they are White.

Like I have said before,either be Michelle Obama or Oprah...can't be both.

 

[sreggie101]

Originally Posted by The Black James Bond

Interesting take on it. Never would've seen it as the successful black women holding themselves back somewhat...Most of the one's i've seen simply aren't attractive (this includes face). well, at least at my school at Temple. Then again i dunno many to begin with

Although to be fair Im not helping black women out, I'm haitian and my girl is irish/portugese, and im hella happy with her so i can care less

you go to Temple too?

I'm president of one of the "cultural" student orgs on campus and it's funny how many of the girls within theorganization approach me and try to lock me down. always "joking" about marrying them etc....now I see why.

yea im engineering at Temple.

at them girls tryin to get you to put a ring on it. what organization you part of

?

 

[peteweezy]

A lot of people say this. If you haven't noticed a difference between women who are raised around both parents and women who aren't t hen you need to date more/interact with more women.
It's nothing worse than grown people that don't/can't read with comprehension. I didn't say nothing about not knowing thedifference I said I never had a dude tell me they not messing with a chick because of it. Once again thanks for not reading what I said correctly thenassuming I don't talk to enough chicks because we disagree. I'll blame it on being late at night maybe the words not looking right this early in themorning

 

[dathbgboy]

Originally Posted by SouthsideChi773

Originally Posted by ninjahood

Originally Posted by haiti5

because many black successful women either A. date complete trash (they get some good D and cant stop) or B. have an extreme elitist attitude which even many successful black men wouldnt want to deal with

I think what we grow up around plays a huge part in this.I going to assume that a lot of these Women grew up just like I did,because lets be truthful a lot of Men and Women in the "Black Community" did not grow up in ideal households and very few of us are born into generational wealth.

And what they are attracted to and what is good for them are two different things unfortunately.Just like me,I grew up around a lot of "Hoodrats" and lackluster females,but I assumed that this was the norm,until I started to observe my surroundings and found out how a Woman are supposed to act and carry herself.

The sad thing about these stories is that they know what they have to do and I don't mean settle for anything.But I can tell subconsciously that they have little to no respect for Black Men,especially when we have had an Maternal/Black Church led community for the last 40 years and the whole "Black Men ain't ____" is a very profitable business even in this day and age.

Also to play off some of what Tariq Nasheed has said in his podcast, things don't become better for Men until later on in life,especially if you are a Black Man,not too many like the idea of a Black Men in a authoritve position either it be the household or in a corporate position...some can't even get jobs I learned from a thread that was posted a few weeks about Black Ivy League graduates that had to trick employers into believing they are White.

Like I have said before,either be Michelle Obama or Oprah...can't be both.

I agree w/ the points u mentioned. The whole "Black men aint *!!+" mentality as destroyed the image of the Black man. One thing that wasbrought to my attention in my Sex and Racism class is that for Black men and the Black race, the negative attributes are given to the whole race not just theperson/people who have said attributes.

It's also depends on who's angle you're looking at the situation from. In my position (young Black man, future college graduate, one child,motivated,etc) to the women in the hood, I'm a good man cause I want more out of life than to be runnin the streets. But from the other angle, I'm aBlack man who really don't have anything to show for myself, just another young father. The perception is different.

Also, I'm not a Rhodes Scholar or a genius but I am intelligent, motivated, ambitious, a fast learner, etc. but I can't find a job that doesn'tinvolved some type of manual labor to save my life right now. I've done that and it rans its course but it seems that the jobs that are the most"appealing" to Black men are manual labor positions. Am I supposed to have a BA and work in warehouse?

 

[youneedthese]

Casue they are nuts

 

[2muchjaystyle]

They seem to have to many standards.. have sex & pray..

 

[optimusprimeaphia]

I'm short and black so...if this college thing never works out...i'm screwed.

 

[dipsetgeneral]

All of you have already typed in my responses

 

[you big dummy]

A lot of good points were discussed in this thread, everything I wanted to say has already been mentioned



[color= rgb(51, 51, 51)]...so i'll leave you with this:

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http://www.atlantafalcons.com/People/Cheerleaders/Nicole_Ma.aspx
[h2]Nicole Ma[/h2]

Occupation: Prosecuting attorney

Experience: 4th Year

College: Xavier, University of Louisiana, Emory University School of Law

Hometown: Lake Charles, LA
College: Xavier University of Louisiana, Emory University School of Law




Dance and Cheerleader Experience: Falcons 4th year, 2nd year captain

Short/Long-Term Goals: To Become State Court Judge of DeKalb County in 2011, to start a family

Marital Status: Single

Siblings: Three

My proudest moment: Passing the Bar

Farthest away from home I've been: Egypt, Japan

Favorite Atlanta-area restaurant: BluePointe

Favorite Atlanta-area landmark or tourist attraction: MLK Center

Favorite thing to do on a lazy afternoon: Sleep!

Favorite television show: Law and Order, Special Victim's Unit

Person with whom I would most like to have dinner: Coretta Scott King

Favorite vacation destination: Hawaii

Favorite solo artist: Beyonce Knowles/Aretha Franklin

One of my biggest inspirations growing up: My parents. They have successful careers, a wonderful marriage, and are great parents. I hope to be like them one day!

Song that will ALWAYS be on my iPod: Do Right Woman, Aretha Franklin

Favorite comedian: Eddie Murphy

All-time favorite movie(s): Coming to America, The Wiz, The Notebook

Favorite actor and actress: Denzel Washington/Edward Norton

Favorite junk food or guilty culinary pleasure: Anything chocolate!

[h2]Nicole Ma[/h2]

12/13/09
Falcons vs Saints
Tags: New Orleans, Gameday, Nicole Ma


10/18/09
Bears at Falcons
Tags: Chicago, Gameday, Nicole Ma


09/07/08
Falcons vs Lions Week 1
Tags: Detroit, Gameday, Nicole Ma


08/16/08
Falcons vs Colts - Preseason Game Two
Tags: Indianapolis, Gameday, Preseason, Cheerleaders, Nicole Ma

 

[dathbgboy]

Originally Posted by you big dummy

A lot of good points were discussed in this thread, everything I wanted to say has already been mentioned



[color= rgb(51, 51, 51)]...so i'll leave you with this:

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http://www.atlantafalcons.com/People/Cheerleaders/Nicole_Ma.aspx
[h2]Nicole Ma[/h2]

Occupation: Prosecuting attorney

Experience: 4th Year

College: Xavier, University of Louisiana, Emory University School of Law

Hometown: Lake Charles, LA
College: Xavier University of Louisiana, Emory University School of Law




Dance and Cheerleader Experience: Falcons 4th year, 2nd year captain

Short/Long-Term Goals: To Become State Court Judge of DeKalb County in 2011, to start a family

Marital Status: Single

Siblings: Three

My proudest moment: Passing the Bar

Farthest away from home I've been: Egypt, Japan

Favorite Atlanta-area restaurant: BluePointe

Favorite Atlanta-area landmark or tourist attraction: MLK Center

Favorite thing to do on a lazy afternoon: Sleep!

Favorite television show: Law and Order, Special Victim's Unit

Person with whom I would most like to have dinner: Coretta Scott King

Favorite vacation destination: Hawaii

Favorite solo artist: Beyonce Knowles/Aretha Franklin

One of my biggest inspirations growing up: My parents. They have successful careers, a wonderful marriage, and are great parents. I hope to be like them one day!

Song that will ALWAYS be on my iPod: Do Right Woman, Aretha Franklin

Favorite comedian: Eddie Murphy

All-time favorite movie(s): Coming to America, The Wiz, The Notebook

Favorite actor and actress: Denzel Washington/Edward Norton

Favorite junk food or guilty culinary pleasure: Anything chocolate!

[h2]Nicole Ma[/h2]

12/13/09
Falcons vs Saints
Tags: New Orleans, Gameday, Nicole Ma


10/18/09
Bears at Falcons
Tags: Chicago, Gameday, Nicole Ma


09/07/08
Falcons vs Lions Week 1
Tags: Detroit, Gameday, Nicole Ma


08/16/08
Falcons vs Colts - Preseason Game Two
Tags: Indianapolis, Gameday, Preseason, Cheerleaders, Nicole Ma

She somethin else. Strong Black woman. Seems like a down to earth woman who just wants a good man. Might run into her in the Atlanta legalsystem

 

[krazy88s]

*sigh* Another one of these threads. Everyone pretty much say what they said in the previous 1,000 Black relationship threads.

All I know is I like brown-skinned ladies.

 

[southsidechi773]

Originally Posted by Dathbgboy

Originally Posted by you big dummy

A lot of good points were discussed in this thread, everything I wanted to say has already been mentioned



[color= rgb(51, 51, 51)]...so i'll leave you with this:

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http://www.atlantafalcons.com/People/Cheerleaders/Nicole_Ma.aspx
[h2]Nicole Ma[/h2]

Occupation: Prosecuting attorney

Experience: 4th Year

College: Xavier, University of Louisiana, Emory University School of Law

Hometown: Lake Charles, LA
College: Xavier University of Louisiana, Emory University School of Law




Dance and Cheerleader Experience: Falcons 4th year, 2nd year captain

Short/Long-Term Goals: To Become State Court Judge of DeKalb County in 2011, to start a family

Marital Status: Single

Siblings: Three

My proudest moment: Passing the Bar

Farthest away from home I've been: Egypt, Japan

Favorite Atlanta-area restaurant: BluePointe

Favorite Atlanta-area landmark or tourist attraction: MLK Center

Favorite thing to do on a lazy afternoon: Sleep!

Favorite television show: Law and Order, Special Victim's Unit

Person with whom I would most like to have dinner: Coretta Scott King

Favorite vacation destination: Hawaii

Favorite solo artist: Beyonce Knowles/Aretha Franklin

One of my biggest inspirations growing up: My parents. They have successful careers, a wonderful marriage, and are great parents. I hope to be like them one day!

Song that will ALWAYS be on my iPod: Do Right Woman, Aretha Franklin

Favorite comedian: Eddie Murphy

All-time favorite movie(s): Coming to America, The Wiz, The Notebook

Favorite actor and actress: Denzel Washington/Edward Norton

Favorite junk food or guilty culinary pleasure: Anything chocolate!

[h2]Nicole Ma[/h2]

12/13/09
Falcons vs Saints
Tags: New Orleans, Gameday, Nicole Ma


10/18/09
Bears at Falcons
Tags: Chicago, Gameday, Nicole Ma


09/07/08
Falcons vs Lions Week 1
Tags: Detroit, Gameday, Nicole Ma


08/16/08
Falcons vs Colts - Preseason Game Two
Tags: Indianapolis, Gameday, Preseason, Cheerleaders, Nicole Ma

She somethin else. Strong Black woman. Seems like a down to earth woman who just wants a good man. Might run into her in the Atlanta legal system

Lol,she seems pretty genuine,just needs to be a little more patient and maybe change her enviroment,maybe move up to the Northwest (yeah I amreaching,lol).

But for every woman like her we have 5 of these,

http://www.washingtonpost...09/AR2009120904546.html.

And her book is about to be made into a motion picture,so get ready for another "Black Men Ain't _____" movie coming to a theater near you soon.

 

[ninjahood]

Originally Posted by solefood229

what happened to love?

just because a person is 6'4 makes 150k a year doesnt mean theyre going to love you and treat you with respect

winner winner chicken dinner

 

[ninjahood]

whoa whoa whoa...everyone PLEASE tune to 4:25 part of da video...THATS why girls can't get guys

they TOO chicken to be da aggressor....did u see her face when da other girl ask why she ain't ask for his number? it looked like someone asked her to doporno

or something.

 

[yen2dro3]

Originally Posted by SuperAntigen

Originally Posted by memphisboi55

\And also, like I mentioned to CoCoLicious in the past, MANY women think all they have to bring to the table is SEX. They think they don't have to cook, clean, or any other things that we TRADITIONALLY think women should do. And some of them don't even WANT to learn. "I ain't cookin for no &@&*! he can get his mother to cook."

This what i been wating on....

"...btw, i got some ribs and wings over here, you wun sum..."







...




http://s642.photobucket.com/albums/uu150/Yen2dro3/?action=view&current=xo2vq1jpg.gif

 

[Hahahaha]

Originally Posted by TheWealth

Originally Posted by mytmouse76

Originally Posted by trapmuzik617

I personally blame Beyonce

please dont start that...

True, besides those songs were written and produced by black men.

I can't tell if that's sarcasm? Beyonce works with mostly white people. She gets a few beats and songs from famous black artists like Ne-Yo,Bryan-Michael Cox and so on but for the most part her squad in the studio is white

 

[Hahahaha]

Originally Posted by Nyota de la star

Originally Posted by Ballerific703

I like seeing these women single and hope they stay like that. I hate women that have ridiculous standards and expect them to make more than what they make. These broads have ridiculous expectations. Nobody wanna hear that %%%#. You should marry whoever you have chemistry with, whoever feels right. It shouldn't be about your resume

I think it's pretty naive to assume socio-economic status doesn't play a factor in marital options.

Of course it plays a part and that's why those women are single.....does it get anymore clear?

 

[king beef]

Wow this thread is becoming too much for me.

 

[dathbgboy]

Originally Posted by ninjahood

whoa whoa whoa...everyone PLEASE tune to 4:25 part of da video...THATS why girls can't get guys

they TOO chicken to be da aggressor....did u see her face when da other girl ask why she ain't ask for his number? it looked like someone asked her to do porno

or something.

No, it's just that a respectable woman doesn't ask for a mans number. That's just another thing of society. Seriously, how do u feelabout the girls that pursue u and ask for ya math?