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There is a lot going on I feel like.
Just turned 33 on the 11th.
Yall notice women our age and even older still haven't matured into grown women???
They be the main ones showing out for social media.....like WTF we were actually around before internet.
How do you still lack social skills and qualities of pre internet age folks???
Then at that they have children and still act like children themselves.
Were our parents the last ones to actually act thier age at 30+???
Its like a horrible epidemic....why are 30+ year old women still claiming to be bad 5 star******* and rocking snapchat filter flower crowns and dog ears???
WTF is going on? I take it this is the age where a woman does everything younger women do to still feel young?
You know what else is down right depressing???
When you meet a chick online and you go to her house then you see her older college grad pics and you are like damn....Why can't I have the sexy slender chick you used to be in those pics??? I be feeling cheated as hell man.....
I see why guys date younger the older they get but damn....its not like a career successful mature intelligent man can really connect with them mentally either.
I swear we are in purgatory
The immediacy with which we all have access to "something better" now with online dating really makes people's short attention spans worse and are quick to search for other avenues. Part of this could be in response to past let downs/poor experiences, but a lot of it has to do with this "FOMO" concept or the perception that there is always something else better at a finger swipe or click.
Second, The "mental age" of people our age is really quite stunted. More people are living with room mates and furthering "late on set adulthood" due to poor economic and pay rate factors. Thus encouraging and concretizing the "college" mentalities you see by and large. From personal experience, this would not bother me given my overall attitude toward "growing up" and losing touch with a youthful, positive mentality IF it were not for people wanting their cake and eating it too.
What I mean by that is the mentality you find where individuals want to be able to have no strings "fun" but they seek in a partner rather unrealistic expectations and goals given their own personal mindset. I do not try to actively date younger people, but their mentalities far more fit my own. In my experience, people our age want someone with a career, home, car, etc. Things we deem to be "adult" accessories and objects. I truly could care less about those things, so I already am at a disadvantage when looking to try and attempt any sort of relationship with anyone as a 33 year old "man." That does not even take into account sexual/gender identity.
Finally, you mention "rust." As someone who 3 years ago left a 10 year relationship that started when I was 21, I was cast into a VASTLY different dating world than when we first maybe were doing this. Online dating was just really kind of taking hold with OKC, MATCH, and POF. But Tinder, Bumble, Sapio, Grindr weren't a thing yet. The swipe for satisfaction mentality had not become the standard within the dating world yet. You still had to commodify yourself and talk about deeper things than Chipotle, "Baes", and "Swag". The cliche, trite, regurgitated buzz words that are now so common place in our 150 character profile world. Dating now requires what I feel a ridiculous amount of revision and commodification of yourself as a "product" in the digital realm to be successful, or you try the old fashioned way and really find very little because everyone has gone digital as it is the way it just is now. A lot of hit and miss and time investment with little to no pay off I have found in my personal experience. Maybe it is just culture now for this country, as I have had very different reults in my travels to Japan, where they utitlize online dating ina very different way.
