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a lot of bro hugs being passed around here...
NT, I caught feelings and lost.
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Now see, this is the dilemma I usually face in these situations:
#1 I catch feelings & it works out
#2 Its a no-go, then the hangouts/post-friendships/chats (if they occur) are so awkward that you basically gotta dead the chick, & quick.
You either get the girl, or lose her. Always been cut-&-dry for me
#1 I catch feelings & it works out
#2 Its a no-go, then the hangouts/post-friendships/chats (if they occur) are so awkward that you basically gotta dead the chick, & quick.
You either get the girl, or lose her. Always been cut-&-dry for me
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Now see, this is the dilemma I usually face in these situations:
#1 I catch feelings & it works out
#2 Its a no-go, then the hangouts/post-friendships/chats (if they occur) are so awkward that you basically gotta dead the chick, & quick.
You either get the girl, or lose her. Always been cut-&-dry for me
#1 I catch feelings & it works out
#2 Its a no-go, then the hangouts/post-friendships/chats (if they occur) are so awkward that you basically gotta dead the chick, & quick.
You either get the girl, or lose her. Always been cut-&-dry for me
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Originally Posted by Pendemic
Originally Posted by WhatsLosinLike
that is NOT mass
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Originally Posted by Pendemic
Originally Posted by WhatsLosinLike
that is NOT mass
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Happened to me a few times when I was younger.. I've matured now though
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Happened to me a few times when I was younger.. I've matured now though
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PFL
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This is why. Flip it early. What bothers me is that when I do this they come running back wondering why and how I dropped them so quick as if they weren't about to do the same
This man knows.
But yea NT, you're going to take some L's as you learn the game. That's just how it goes. Don't even look at it as an L. Look at it as a learning experience g.
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This is why. Flip it early. What bothers me is that when I do this they come running back wondering why and how I dropped them so quick as if they weren't about to do the same
This man knows.
But yea NT, you're going to take some L's as you learn the game. That's just how it goes. Don't even look at it as an L. Look at it as a learning experience g.
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^This is true...if I hadn't learned from past experiences I would've went through something similar, but thank God I've become more cold-hearted towards females.
I met this girl who had been wanting to kick it with me for about a year, so after all this time of just talking, I decided to handle my business....She wanted to take things to another level afterwards and even called me out on FB, but I kept putting her off and coming up with excuses as to why I couldn't chill with her full time until the summer. Long story short, I spoke to her and she was all good on a Monday and by Wednesday she had changed her status to in a relationship on FB...since I didn't really care, this had me
I met this girl who had been wanting to kick it with me for about a year, so after all this time of just talking, I decided to handle my business....She wanted to take things to another level afterwards and even called me out on FB, but I kept putting her off and coming up with excuses as to why I couldn't chill with her full time until the summer. Long story short, I spoke to her and she was all good on a Monday and by Wednesday she had changed her status to in a relationship on FB...since I didn't really care, this had me
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^This is true...if I hadn't learned from past experiences I would've went through something similar, but thank God I've become more cold-hearted towards females.
I met this girl who had been wanting to kick it with me for about a year, so after all this time of just talking, I decided to handle my business....She wanted to take things to another level afterwards and even called me out on FB, but I kept putting her off and coming up with excuses as to why I couldn't chill with her full time until the summer. Long story short, I spoke to her and she was all good on a Monday and by Wednesday she had changed her status to in a relationship on FB...since I didn't really care, this had me
I met this girl who had been wanting to kick it with me for about a year, so after all this time of just talking, I decided to handle my business....She wanted to take things to another level afterwards and even called me out on FB, but I kept putting her off and coming up with excuses as to why I couldn't chill with her full time until the summer. Long story short, I spoke to her and she was all good on a Monday and by Wednesday she had changed her status to in a relationship on FB...since I didn't really care, this had me
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This is a great thread.
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This is a great thread.
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So toss some advice out. If a girl hits you up randomly and says she wants to chill..but it's not really convenient for you (plus add in laziness overall) how do you deal with it? Example, if a random girl texted me right now and said hey can you come see me? But she lives like 30+ minutes away by wtv form of transportation you use...how do you work with that? It is simpin to go see her? Is it 'gay' to not? I feel like it would be lame either way if I went there and nothing happened. It'd also be lame if I didn't go and just said something like, "that's farrrr....why do you want to see me?" If she is a respectable girl she might take that the wrong way. I have this fear of losing the 'right one' because I treat em like i treat JO's.
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So toss some advice out. If a girl hits you up randomly and says she wants to chill..but it's not really convenient for you (plus add in laziness overall) how do you deal with it? Example, if a random girl texted me right now and said hey can you come see me? But she lives like 30+ minutes away by wtv form of transportation you use...how do you work with that? It is simpin to go see her? Is it 'gay' to not? I feel like it would be lame either way if I went there and nothing happened. It'd also be lame if I didn't go and just said something like, "that's farrrr....why do you want to see me?" If she is a respectable girl she might take that the wrong way. I have this fear of losing the 'right one' because I treat em like i treat JO's.
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Originally Posted by blazinRook
basically the same story..i fell back for a good 2-3 weeks, i came back in the picture, she was kind of bitter because she felt i was ignoring her when in reality i just wanted to give her space..
now its awkward, but i want to smooth things out...she stubborn/proud tho which doesn't help the situation...and now its just awkward...
i want that chance to make it right tho..my boys are telling me to dead it and move on...
but i'm on that
http://www.youtube.com/v/KoF2YBP0wuc?f=videos&app=youtube_gdatahttp://www.youtube.com/v/KoF2YBP0wuc?f=videos&app=youtube_gdata
"everytime i try to leave, something keeps pullin me back me back, tellin me i need you in my life
�it was meant to be, you were meant for me, so that means we got to make it work"
�
I was going through the same thing back in Feb. I was wondering whether I would hear from her all day but it got to the point where I didn't care if I did or didn't and it's perfect because that's the best mindset to have when interacting with her. Sure enough that's when she came sniffing around and every couple days I get a message from her asking the most random questions she could find. I didn't answer one last week so she had her friend message me one.
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Originally Posted by blazinRook
basically the same story..i fell back for a good 2-3 weeks, i came back in the picture, she was kind of bitter because she felt i was ignoring her when in reality i just wanted to give her space..
now its awkward, but i want to smooth things out...she stubborn/proud tho which doesn't help the situation...and now its just awkward...
i want that chance to make it right tho..my boys are telling me to dead it and move on...
but i'm on that
http://www.youtube.com/v/KoF2YBP0wuc?f=videos&app=youtube_gdatahttp://www.youtube.com/v/KoF2YBP0wuc?f=videos&app=youtube_gdata
"everytime i try to leave, something keeps pullin me back me back, tellin me i need you in my life
�it was meant to be, you were meant for me, so that means we got to make it work"
�
I was going through the same thing back in Feb. I was wondering whether I would hear from her all day but it got to the point where I didn't care if I did or didn't and it's perfect because that's the best mindset to have when interacting with her. Sure enough that's when she came sniffing around and every couple days I get a message from her asking the most random questions she could find. I didn't answer one last week so she had her friend message me one.
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Lately I've been doing the dumping/mindgames/ignoring texts etc. I stayed getting emotionally played in my adolescence though. Now I see why girls do it so much. Feelsgoodman.jpg
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Lately I've been doing the dumping/mindgames/ignoring texts etc. I stayed getting emotionally played in my adolescence though. Now I see why girls do it so much. Feelsgoodman.jpg
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Originally Posted by rayray3thousand
I clicked on the spoiler expecting
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Originally Posted by rayray3thousand
I clicked on the spoiler expecting
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Just act like her cutting you off doesn't phase you..
If you're a genuine person and treated her well.. she'll hit you with a text or something sooner or later.
Or.. somehow you guys will end up seeing each other down the road and that would be your perfect chance to relight the candle.. it's crazy how things work out
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Just act like her cutting you off doesn't phase you..
If you're a genuine person and treated her well.. she'll hit you with a text or something sooner or later.
Or.. somehow you guys will end up seeing each other down the road and that would be your perfect chance to relight the candle.. it's crazy how things work out