So my Ex decides to text me out of the blue after not hearing from her in almost a year. *CLOSURE*

[aepps20]

Originally Posted by DontStepOnMyShoes

unless theres a child involved or she won the powerball and wants to break you off I wouldnt even waste my time

QFT

 

[lunchbox]

Originally Posted by Carver

Tell her you don't want nothing to do with her @!$.. it seems the way she broke up with you really hurt and messed you up son.

I say just move on broski, if you meet up with her you're going to bring those old feelings back

 

[lunchbox]

Originally Posted by Carver

Tell her you don't want nothing to do with her @!$.. it seems the way she broke up with you really hurt and messed you up son.

I say just move on broski, if you meet up with her you're going to bring those old feelings back

 

[patrick bateman]

Originally Posted by Classy Freshman

I say meet up with her.

When you meet, make sure it is fresh in your mind that this is the woman that you were good to, that you gave your all to, but that simply wasn't good enough for her. You have to put an emotional barrier up.

When you meet make sure you look good, and you look to her like you are genuinely happy. Don't act like you have a grudge against her for what she did, but rather act like she did you a favor. She will HATE to see that your life has gotten better without her. Take her to lunch... even pay.

Now more then likely throughout this past year she has been played and smutted out by other men, and she finally realizes that the grass isn't greener on the other side... and she wants you back. Don't give in... Not on the first meetup anyway. You have to remember this woman is the source of your heartbreak(I can tell you are hurt op) so you can't just let her come back into your life whenever she wants. Be nice to her, but respectfully decline any proposition she offers... even if you want her.

Now if after this meeting she is consistent and genuine and she really seems like she wants you back, I would say let her back in VERY slooooowly. People do make mistakes, so maybe she realized it and can make up for it. But don't just give yourself all back at once, and run the risk of getting your heart broken again.

 

[patrick bateman]

Originally Posted by Classy Freshman

I say meet up with her.

When you meet, make sure it is fresh in your mind that this is the woman that you were good to, that you gave your all to, but that simply wasn't good enough for her. You have to put an emotional barrier up.

When you meet make sure you look good, and you look to her like you are genuinely happy. Don't act like you have a grudge against her for what she did, but rather act like she did you a favor. She will HATE to see that your life has gotten better without her. Take her to lunch... even pay.

Now more then likely throughout this past year she has been played and smutted out by other men, and she finally realizes that the grass isn't greener on the other side... and she wants you back. Don't give in... Not on the first meetup anyway. You have to remember this woman is the source of your heartbreak(I can tell you are hurt op) so you can't just let her come back into your life whenever she wants. Be nice to her, but respectfully decline any proposition she offers... even if you want her.

Now if after this meeting she is consistent and genuine and she really seems like she wants you back, I would say let her back in VERY slooooowly. People do make mistakes, so maybe she realized it and can make up for it. But don't just give yourself all back at once, and run the risk of getting your heart broken again.

 

[misterp0315]

Oh yeah...Classy Freshman is spot on with what you should do.

It's all about the power shift. It's yours right now and females go insane when they don't have it...which could work out in your favor in the end with this situation. Once you start consenting to them, that's when %!%* gets ugly...at least at this early stage with you two possibly being on a different spectrum.

 

[misterp0315]

Oh yeah...Classy Freshman is spot on with what you should do.

It's all about the power shift. It's yours right now and females go insane when they don't have it...which could work out in your favor in the end with this situation. Once you start consenting to them, that's when %!%* gets ugly...at least at this early stage with you two possibly being on a different spectrum.

 

[dathbgboy]

Aight, the text convo was on the 2nd, it is now the 4th. *** happend OP?

 

[dathbgboy]

Aight, the text convo was on the 2nd, it is now the 4th. *** happend OP?

 

[toast1985]

Originally Posted by Classy Freshman

I say meet up with her.

When you meet, make sure it is fresh in your mind that this is the woman that you were good to, that you gave your all to, but that simply wasn't good enough for her. You have to put an emotional barrier up.

When you meet make sure you look good, and you look to her like you are genuinely happy. Don't act like you have a grudge against her for what she did, but rather act like she did you a favor. She will HATE to see that your life has gotten better without her. Take her to lunch... even pay.

Now more then likely throughout this past year she has been played and smutted out by other men, and she finally realizes that the grass isn't greener on the other side... and she wants you back. Don't give in... Not on the first meetup anyway. You have to remember this woman is the source of your heartbreak(I can tell you are hurt op) so you can't just let her come back into your life whenever she wants. Be nice to her, but respectfully decline any proposition she offers... even if you want her.

Now if after this meeting she is consistent and genuine and she really seems like she wants you back, I would say let her back in VERY slooooowly. People do make mistakes, so maybe she realized it and can make up for it. But don't just give yourself all back at once, and run the risk of getting your heart broken again.

Far too often, you guys create threads in hopes of some genuine feedback. This above is exactly what you need to pay attention to OP. She definitely needs closure to the situation, or she realized she made a huge mistake, please don't cave so easily.

 

[toast1985]

Originally Posted by Classy Freshman

I say meet up with her.

When you meet, make sure it is fresh in your mind that this is the woman that you were good to, that you gave your all to, but that simply wasn't good enough for her. You have to put an emotional barrier up.

When you meet make sure you look good, and you look to her like you are genuinely happy. Don't act like you have a grudge against her for what she did, but rather act like she did you a favor. She will HATE to see that your life has gotten better without her. Take her to lunch... even pay.

Now more then likely throughout this past year she has been played and smutted out by other men, and she finally realizes that the grass isn't greener on the other side... and she wants you back. Don't give in... Not on the first meetup anyway. You have to remember this woman is the source of your heartbreak(I can tell you are hurt op) so you can't just let her come back into your life whenever she wants. Be nice to her, but respectfully decline any proposition she offers... even if you want her.

Now if after this meeting she is consistent and genuine and she really seems like she wants you back, I would say let her back in VERY slooooowly. People do make mistakes, so maybe she realized it and can make up for it. But don't just give yourself all back at once, and run the risk of getting your heart broken again.

Far too often, you guys create threads in hopes of some genuine feedback. This above is exactly what you need to pay attention to OP. She definitely needs closure to the situation, or she realized she made a huge mistake, please don't cave so easily.

 

[All Ready]

the chances of him not giving in seems low tho

dude seems so fragile the way he worded his og post that he'd cave off first sight

god forbid she gives him a hug and kiss on the cheek, son doesn't stand a chance

 

[All Ready]

the chances of him not giving in seems low tho

dude seems so fragile the way he worded his og post that he'd cave off first sight

god forbid she gives him a hug and kiss on the cheek, son doesn't stand a chance

 

[fdub]

Originally Posted by Dathbgboy

Aight, the text convo was on the 2nd, it is now the 4th. *** happend OP?

Well what happen was I didn't respond to the last text because I am not sure if I want to meet up with her.. I am still contemplating if O should ignore her and keep it moving. I will indeed update this thread once something happens..

 

[fdub]

Originally Posted by Dathbgboy

Aight, the text convo was on the 2nd, it is now the 4th. *** happend OP?

Well what happen was I didn't respond to the last text because I am not sure if I want to meet up with her.. I am still contemplating if O should ignore her and keep it moving. I will indeed update this thread once something happens..

 

[november33rd]

You NT'ers have some creative imaginations. Y'all need to grow up.



You have no clue what she wants. She could be inviting you to  be a guest at her wedding for all these clowns on NT know.



Don't make such a big deal out of it. Just go and hear her out. Then take it from there. You don't need some plan or elaborate plot devised by some NT'ers who have had little to no female interaction in their lives.

 

[gameover2]

Make sure you update with pics.

 

[november33rd]

You NT'ers have some creative imaginations. Y'all need to grow up.



You have no clue what she wants. She could be inviting you to  be a guest at her wedding for all these clowns on NT know.



Don't make such a big deal out of it. Just go and hear her out. Then take it from there. You don't need some plan or elaborate plot devised by some NT'ers who have had little to no female interaction in their lives.

 

[gameover2]

Make sure you update with pics.

 

[high altitude]

Maybe she had a sex change.

 

[high altitude]

Maybe she had a sex change.

 

[elnino4530]

Prob wants to tell you she cheated on you thru your entire relationship 

 

[elnino4530]

Prob wants to tell you she cheated on you thru your entire relationship 

 

[carver]

Originally Posted by November33rd

You NT'ers have some creative imaginations. Y'all need to grow up.



You have no clue what she wants. She could be inviting you to  be a guest at her wedding for all these clowns on NT know.



Don't make such a big deal out of it. Just go and hear her out. Then take it from there. You don't need some plan or elaborate plot devised by some NT'ers who have had little to no female interaction in their lives.

Yes OP, listen to this guy.
Go meet up with the girl who broke you, the girl who broke up with you for nothing you did. That same girl who said you were the best boyfriend ever but couldn't deal with the type of person you are 

.. that same girl who stopped talking to you and ignored you for a year for no reason. 

Yes OP, go meet up with her now because she wants to.. 

 

[jayhood23]

Originally Posted by November33rd

You NT'ers have some creative imaginations

You think November has 33 days though 

But for real though OP she probably just wants to explain herself for doing you dirty. If she cries don't let that get to you. Stay strong, thank her for giving the situation closure, and bounce. If she tries getting back with you tell her you will think about it and smash in the mean time......the key to this situation is to not actually consider getting back with her. Smash and when you're bored with her, tell her that you think it wouldnt work out again. She will beg you and once she does that you have complete control