b smooth 202
Banned
- 10,295
- 106
- Joined
- Dec 21, 2004
The stigma is white women chase after wealthy black men, but its Women of All races chase after wealthy men.
QFE
Follow along with the video below to see how to install our site as a web app on your home screen.
Note: this_feature_currently_requires_accessing_site_using_safari
The stigma is white women chase after wealthy black men, but its Women of All races chase after wealthy men.
QFE
Originally Posted by SdotRusherz
Originally Posted by The Fresh Sole
The stigma is white women chase after wealthy black men, but its Women of All races chase after wealthy men.
/thread.
she's explaining how seeing black men date white women make her feel.. and what that feeling is based upon -- years and years of ingrained societal pressures and norms of white = right, white = beauty, white = the ideal. Which, by itself is bad enough -- that one particular skin color is the most ideal, but also has a backhanded slap to it as well, which is that black women are the exact opposite of that.
= she's salty. she needs to man up. blackmen can date whoever they want.
= she's salty. she needs to man up. blackmen can date whoever they want.Originally Posted by Tetsujin23
she's explaining how seeing black men date white women make her feel.. and what that feeling is based upon -- years and years of ingrained societal pressures and norms of white = right, white = beauty, white = the ideal. Which, by itself is bad enough -- that one particular skin color is the most ideal, but also has a backhanded slap to it as well, which is that black women are the exact opposite of that.
where did she say they couldn't or even shouldn'tOriginally Posted by Dirtylicious
= she's salty. she needs to man up. blackmen can date whoever they want.Originally Posted by Tetsujin23
she's explaining how seeing black men date white women make her feel.. and what that feeling is based upon -- years and years of ingrained societal pressures and norms of white = right, white = beauty, white = the ideal. Which, by itself is bad enough -- that one particular skin color is the most ideal, but also has a backhanded slap to it as well, which is that black women are the exact opposite of that.
Originally Posted by SdotRusherz
The whole 'white women going to the successful black guy" talk is ridiculous... I know mad broke black dudes with white girls.
Why can't people be in love though?
Why is there a 15 page thread talking about some fat hippo's opinion?
[color= rgb(255, 0, 0)]1) Same thing I thought when I read that.[/color]Originally Posted by SdotRusherz
1)The whole 'white women going to the successful black guy" talk is ridiculous... I know mad broke black dudes with white girls.
2)Maybe if some black girls DIDN'T have nasty ##! attitudes all the time, or have that "can't nobody tell me nothin" mentality, SOME black guys would be in relationships with them.Not me personally, because I don't look at race...but I have some friends 3) who don't date black girls just based on their attitudes....
I know this is all on us, but that's what it sounds like she's implying. Maybe we think she's implying that because we're guilty? Or maybe it's because that's what it actually sounds like...who knowsOriginally Posted by JDocs
where did she say they couldn't or even shouldn'tOriginally Posted by Dirtylicious
= she's salty. she needs to man up. blackmen can date whoever they want.Originally Posted by Tetsujin23
she's explaining how seeing black men date white women make her feel.. and what that feeling is based upon -- years and years of ingrained societal pressures and norms of white = right, white = beauty, white = the ideal. Which, by itself is bad enough -- that one particular skin color is the most ideal, but also has a backhanded slap to it as well, which is that black women are the exact opposite of that.
I don't exactly follow ... but if I can take an educated guess -- you think she's attributing that most black men are seeking white women b/c of the white=right idea, correct?Originally Posted by Tetsujin23
i know she's not saying that but its fact that she feels the reason why black dudes think that (white = right)
its like a lot of black women think we're obligated to be with them.
she needs to realize that this isnt the past.
I just don't see that implication there.Originally Posted by Dirtylicious
I know this is all on us, but that's what it sounds like she's implying. Maybe we think she's implying that because we're guilty? Or maybe it's because that's what it actually sounds like...who knowsOriginally Posted by JDocs
where did she say they couldn't or even shouldn'tOriginally Posted by Dirtylicious
= she's salty. she needs to man up. blackmen can date whoever they want.Originally Posted by Tetsujin23
she's explaining how seeing black men date white women make her feel.. and what that feeling is based upon -- years and years of ingrained societal pressures and norms of white = right, white = beauty, white = the ideal. Which, by itself is bad enough -- that one particular skin color is the most ideal, but also has a backhanded slap to it as well, which is that black women are the exact opposite of that.
I don't exactly follow ... but if I can take an educated guess -- you think she's attributing that most black men are seeking white women b/c of the white=right idea, correct?Originally Posted by Tetsujin23
i know she's not saying that but its fact that she feels the reason why black dudes think that (white = right)
its like a lot of black women think we're obligated to be with them.
she needs to realize that this isnt the past.
*Lightbulb* Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Was I the only one who didn't get this until now? Alright then, cool, she can wince all she wantsOriginally Posted by Dirtylicious
I don't exactly follow ... but if I can take an educated guess -- you think she's attributing that most black men are seeking white women b/c of the white=right idea, correct?Originally Posted by Tetsujin23
i know she's not saying that but its fact that she feels the reason why black dudes think that (white = right)
its like a lot of black women think we're obligated to be with them.
she needs to realize that this isnt the past.
and that's exactly what she's NOT saying.... she's saying that no one can tell just by first glance....but the "wince" is the reminder that that idea IS indeed there.
She's not bashing black men -- quite the contrary, she's bashing this country's awful past, and the lingering effects it has on black men today.
Frische Produkte wrote:
SdotRusherz wrote:
1)The whole 'white women going to the successful black guy" talk is ridiculous... I know mad broke black dudes with white girls.
2)Maybe if some black girls DIDN'T have nasty ##! attitudes all the time, or have that "can't nobody tell me nothin" mentality, SOME black guys would be in relationships with them. Not me personally, because I don't look at race...but I have some friends 3) who don't date black girls just based on their attitudes....
1) Same thing I thought when I read that.
2) Co-sign.. that loud, "I'm independent..", +%*+ is dead
3)
Interracial relationships ftw!
Agreed with the second whole-heartedly. Couldnt have said that better myself. Black women act as if black men dont want them...its just not black men, its all men, dont make that generalization about "why dont the brothers love me". Stop walking around with that greater then thou im loud, im proud, im strong and indepedent attitude and maybe it would get you somewhere. Point blank, stop walking around like your @##@ dont stink. This isnt all black women, but the majority. Thats why we're having this conversation to begin with. So Jill Scott, @%++ you.
If there were no generalizations this conversation would have never even started, and that's no fun. Take them for what they are and try and make your points around them.Originally Posted by Im Not You
Here we go again with the generalizations...
Originally Posted by OLD SCHOOL
I just don't see that implication there.Originally Posted by Dirtylicious
I know this is all on us, but that's what it sounds like she's implying. Maybe we think she's implying that because we're guilty? Or maybe it's because that's what it actually sounds like...who knowsOriginally Posted by JDocs
where did she say they couldn't or even shouldn'tOriginally Posted by Dirtylicious
= she's salty. she needs to man up. blackmen can date whoever they want.Originally Posted by Tetsujin23
she's explaining how seeing black men date white women make her feel.. and what that feeling is based upon -- years and years of ingrained societal pressures and norms of white = right, white = beauty, white = the ideal. Which, by itself is bad enough -- that one particular skin color is the most ideal, but also has a backhanded slap to it as well, which is that black women are the exact opposite of that.
I don't exactly follow ... but if I can take an educated guess -- you think she's attributing that most black men are seeking white women b/c of the white=right idea, correct?Originally Posted by Tetsujin23
i know she's not saying that but its fact that she feels the reason why black dudes think that (white = right)
its like a lot of black women think we're obligated to be with them.
she needs to realize that this isnt the past.
and that's exactly what she's NOT saying.... she's saying that no one can tell just by first glance....but the "wince" is the reminder that that idea IS indeed there.
She's not bashing black men -- quite the contrary, she's bashing this country's awful past, and the lingering effects it has on black men today.
Originally Posted by Dirtylicious
really...I don't understand the palpable anger some of you guys are displaying in reaction to her words.
What if it's not the past. What if it's today, she's walking down the street and overhears some group of a certain ethnicity calling the first lady of the United States a "hoodrat" and "ghetto". Something I've heard and seen alot of over the past year or so.Originally Posted by OptimusPrimeAPhiA
Wince? Get over herself. I understood all this when she first said it and I still stand by what I initially said. I am NOT responsible for the fact that you can't get over that. It stings? why? cause something happened in the past like that? just another dramatic outcry for attention with no real way to address it. Shes speaking just to hear herself talk. Fine, speak out if it helps you but you're not proposing anything to change the situation other than think that you're entitled to something. This in essence makes her entire monologue incomplete.