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amazing how this has been conveniently glossed over.be afraid of marriage but have multiple/ a BM bruhs
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amazing how this has been conveniently glossed over.be afraid of marriage but have multiple/ a BM bruhs
What exactly does leading and following look like?
one more intentional than the otheramazing how this has been conveniently glossed over.
1. Yea, I wasn't looking at it from that POV.IMO it means becoming an all around better man that she can trusts. A relationship is only a strong as the weakest link. If I'm developing myself as I age and she's not doing the same then something is bound to go wrong. To be clear, I'm not saying I tell her to jump and she says how high.
which are you referring to?one more intentional than the other
1. Yea, I wasn't looking at it from that POV.
2. I hear the idea of improving yourself, but where does the Lead/FOllow dynamic come into play? -
If you both are/should be on the road to self-improvement, at which point does that lead/follow dynamic come into play.
If laws were adjusted to reflect realistic modern day civilization.....
Examples:
1.) Child support based on need of the child, not lifestyle of the father/mother during wedlock
2.) Burden of proof on filer that reason for divorce is a NEW behavior detrimental to the relationship/safety of her/him or the child
3.) Standard of split custody being set with rare exceptions
4.) Elimination of spousal support in all cases
But government doesn't want to do this for several reasons.......
I don't get why the government encourages marriages in 2020, I get that in general it raises healthier and more informed children that are then able to pass on those characteristics throughout society, not to mention the countless benefits that spouses receive...this is an actual list
- Right to benefits while married:
- Employment assistance and transitional services for spouses of members being separated from military service; continued commissary privileges
- Per diem payment to spouse for federal civil service employees when relocating
- Indian Health Service care for spouses of Native Americans (in some circumstances)
- Sponsor husband/wife for immigration benefits
- Larger benefits under some programs if married, including:
- Veteran's disability
- Supplemental Security Income
- Disability payments for federal employees
- Medicaid
- Property tax exemption for homes of totally disabled veterans
- Income tax deductions, credits, rates exemption, and estimates
- Wages of an employee working for one's spouse are exempt from federal unemployment tax[5]
- Joint and family-related rights:
- Joint filing of bankruptcy permitted
- Joint parenting rights, such as access to children's school records
- Family visitation rights for the spouse and non-biological children, such as to visit a spouse in a hospital or prison
- Next-of-kin status for emergency medical decisions or filing wrongful death claims
- Custodial rights to children, shared property, child support, and alimony after divorce
- Domestic violence intervention
- Access to "family only" services, such as reduced rate memberships to clubs & organizations or residency in certain neighborhoods
- Preferential hiring for spouses of veterans in government jobs
- Tax-free transfer of property between spouses (including on death) and exemption from "due-on-sale" clauses.
- Special consideration to spouses of citizens and resident aliens
- Threats against spouses of various federal employees is a federal crime
- Right to continue living on land purchased from spouse by National Park Service when easement granted to spouse
- Court notice of probate proceedings
- Domestic violence protection orders
- Existing homestead lease continuation of rights
- Regulation of condominium sales to owner-occupants exemption
- Funeral and bereavement leave
- Joint adoption and foster care
- Joint filing of taxes (see filing status)
- Insurance licenses, coverage, eligibility, and benefits organization of mutual benefits society
- Legal status with stepchildren
- Making spousal medical decisions
- Spousal non-resident tuition differential waiver
- Permission to make funeral arrangements for a deceased spouse, including burial or cremation
- Right of survivorship of custodial trust
- Right to change surname upon marriage
- Right to enter into prenuptial agreement
- Right to inheritance of property
- Spousal privilege in court cases (the marital confidences privilege and the spousal testimonial privilege)
- For those divorced or widowed, the right to many of ex- or late spouse's benefits, including:
- Social Security pension
- Veteran's pensions, indemnity compensation for service-connected deaths, medical care, and nursing home care, right to burial in veterans' cemeteries, educational assistance, and housing
- survivor benefits for federal employees
- Survivor benefits for spouses of longshoremen, harbor workers, railroad workers
- Additional benefits to spouses of coal miners who die of black lung disease
- $100,000 to spouse of any public safety officer killed in the line of duty
- Continuation of employer-sponsored health benefits
- Renewal and termination rights to spouse's copyrights on death of spouse
- Continued water rights of spouse in some circumstances
- Payment of wages and workers compensation benefits after worker death
- Making, revoking, and objecting to post-mortem anatomical gifts
But when more than half of marriages are ending in divorce, this has negative emotional impact of all involved, destroys wealth for the children and usually ends poorly for the man.
It is alluring to have a family though, and I do get why people want to get married, I will for sure someday soon.
That's the part of the human nature psychology I can't explain but can only give examples. I think back every "getting to know" stage and it was almost always the girl copying things you did, wanting things you have (hoodies, shorts, listening to what you listen to, etc). Kinda looking up to you even though you may have not been your best self.
I work in the medical field. I hear so many "I'm never doing that again" stories. Just heard a crazy story recently. Her bum *** boyfriend might come across this thread. Told me they been together since high school, a few kids, and own a home. 2 months after she became a doctor, dude decided he wasn't going to work anymore. He hasn't had a job in 3 years. A few months ago she randomly tells me she just realized dude has been manipulating/gaslighting her for years. That's an extreme example of being a poor leader and how monsters are created.
I'm surprised that laws on child support has not changed much, especially with our politicians being mostly male and recognizing that divorce courts are extremely biased against males.
She gotta be accountable too though. If a dude ups and stops working (now if he starts his own business or hustles) that’s different. A hard working person is not just gone up and quit working (unless for medical reasons). Dude probably was exhibiting traits of being lazy from the get go.
If she met him in high school, chances are he was lazy then, as well. Either you’re lazy, or not, that’s noticeable after a few weeks of being with someone. She should’ve dropped buddy as soon as he determined he wanted to leach off her
Dudes who I knew where lazy kids or lazy in high school, they’re still lazy as adults. Unless they have some type of hustle (legitimately or illegally), it usually translates into adulthood.
This has been an interesting topic amongst friends and honestly I blame men. We helped create these monsters.
WE didn't help create a damned thing in regard to the conditions women suffer through in america, especially the conditions of Black women. However, Black men should be pissed due to the condition of our mothers, sisters and lovers, due to such existing conditions. Those who voted for Trump a second time need to be in the front of the line apologizing profusely. It is a disgusting thought that Black women are indeed the most disrespected woman on the planet, yet time and time again, Black women are at the forefront of change, for which Black men get to take advantage of said change. Once in the drivers seat, the stereotype of the angry, difficult Black woman becomes the mantra for those Black men.This has been an interesting topic amongst friends and honestly I blame men. We helped create these monsters.
WE didn't help create a damned thing in regard to the conditions women suffer through in america, especially the conditions of Black women. However, Black men should be pissed due to the condition of our mothers, sisters and lovers, due to such existing conditions. Those who voted for Trump a second time need to be in the front of the line apologizing profusely. It is a disgusting thought that Black women are indeed the most disrespected woman on the planet, yet time and time again, Black women are at the forefront of change, for which Black men get to take advantage of said change. Once in the drivers seat, the stereotype of the angry, difficult Black woman becomes the mantra for those Black men.
Victim blaming.
You're making this political and racial.
It is BOTH political and racial. Are you Black?You're making this political and racial. I was trying to keep it psychological. There's a lot of factors tho and I'm no expert.
Legal system isn't fair to us but whose getting the women pregnant and proposing? We all ignore signs.
Legal system isn't fair to us but whose getting the women pregnant and proposing? We all ignore signs.
be afraid of marriage but have multiple/ a BM bruhs
amazing how this has been conveniently glossed over.
I don't get the point?
Are supposed to just get married if you knock a ***** up?
Any NT'ers meeting women in religious settings?
I got a few homies they told as long as you have your own crib and car, dudes will be offering their daughters/sisters. You do gotta do prayers and actually be able to converse articulately about the faith, but its not anymore time consuming than meeting women at bars/nightclubs (and alot less expensive). Plus religious women tend to be low-maintenance